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Author:  Arch0n [ Fri Aug 13, 2010 9:35 pm ]
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I haven't been able to get women for the life of me. Today I was sitting in a restaurant with a few friends and our waitress came and as I thought she absolutely beautiful. It got me wondering. "How come I can't get girls like that?" I don't understand. I think it's my looks to be honest. I have really thick brown hair with really dark brown eyes. I've got a broken nose a little. At first I thought I could use this as an excuse to be more manly and say that I got into a fight and beat the shit out of the other guy. The broken nose is already cured but I just have a small bump. I don't understand what my deal is. I don't think I'm good enough for anyone. I don't know how to start things off with women. I'm in 11th grade right now and I haven't had a girlfriend since 6th.
Author:  CharlieKelly [ Sat Aug 14, 2010 4:25 am ]
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im in 11th grade too dude.
Author:  haudas [ Sat Aug 14, 2010 6:14 pm ]
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same thing here.
haha
Author:  Arch0n [ Sat Aug 14, 2010 8:16 pm ]
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*face palm*
Is there anyone that can help me?
Author:  BlueSchool [ Sun Aug 15, 2010 12:51 am ]
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Honestly, looks do help, but they can only get so far. You can get noticed, but the rest is about your attitude and beliefs. I have a friend who works out considerably and is way more fit than I, but I always manage to meet way more girls than he does (not trying to sound conceited).

Actually I used to have social anxiety pretty badly. What worked for me, and this sounds crazy, is that I just "pretended" to be confident, and then I became confident. If you believe it, you will become it. People will notice it. Even if you don't think you are, make everybody else believe that you are the best.

In the meantime, while you work on approaching people, also try to do things you haven't done before or things that can build your confidence. It will translate with your interaction with people as well.
Author:  Matt 2.0 [ Sun Aug 15, 2010 8:41 am ]
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Grade 11?
fck dude i WISH i discovered the community at around that age.my entire high school life i only scored ONE girl and she was a bit slutty so it was more a sympathy score.when i look back on high school and college there was SO much i missed out on.im 24 now and only seriously did the research this community offers.
Get reading up on all the theory (negs,dhv's,routines,kino escalation) and you will look back on all the mistakes youve been making with women.my biggest problem is kino escalation and being just flung onto the friendship ladder.thats never gonna happen again...and if it does so what (il have more friends!).

looks DO count.they do.there are guys out there right now with no fucking game whatsoever and they are getting laid because they are hot.if you arent good looking theres nothing you can do about it....you just have to build your inner game and confidence a whole lot more.there are some masters of pick up on this site.you can learn tons of material....tons of routines.im still in that phase of learning but ive been ALOT more confident at socials and stuff.i just still need to learn approaching (thats a fucker!).but seriously man you got time on your side for now
Author:  Firebrand [ Sun Aug 15, 2010 10:36 pm ]
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At the risk of being a complete killjoy: relax.

You're in Grade 11, which makes you around 16/17: you're still maturing. The waitress could well have been 20+, so you have to consider what's in it for her. Yes, age is is just a number, but perspectives change as you age. It's highly unlikely you're going to successfully game a 24 year old HB10 Teacher when you're in her class. Extreme example, yes, but I'm sure you get my drift.

Practice and believe in yourself: your time will come.
Author:  mapner [ Sun Aug 15, 2010 10:46 pm ]
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Hey man,

Like some of the guys have already said, you're at an age where you don't have anything serious to worry about. Not that that helps, I remember it's an age where it's possibly at it's most frustrating!

The great news comes in two parts:

1. You're making a conscious effort to sort this part of your life out. This could have happened when you were 25 which would set you back a whole lot. You can get this sorted now (or at least improve it) and you still have college to go through (if that's your thing) and the easiest times to pick up girls (college parties etc). This is the ideal time to sort this out! Just follow the basic advice you'll find here (go out more, get used to it, practice and improve, work out what you're doing wrong etc...). In 6 months time you should be able to look back and think 'I'm more stylish, well dressed, confident and sociable'. You might not be a stud, but you'll be better than you were!
2. Generally, despite how much shit guys talk, most guys are fairly awkward and insecure around high school age. The whole point is that people 'come into their own' at some point, often around college time, and possibly later. When this happens you'll look back on these awkward days and be frustrated that you didn't capitalize on them more, but you'll be crazy happy that everything is finally coming together for you.

So in summary:

Work on improving yourself
BUT!
It'll happen naturally anyway, it's just good to help speed things along :)
Author:  rizkay [ Mon Aug 16, 2010 2:10 am ]
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everyone else has already said it better than I could, so take it all in. sheeeit...in 11th grade I was juggling many women. and by that I mean I had many crushes to worry about and never approach. so consider yourself lucky you are at least aware.

my only comment. Do not let the incidental hired gun infatuation get you down about your entire fucking existence. If a hot waitress makes you realize you need to work on something, good. But don't extrapolate those bad feelings.
Author:  Arch0n [ Mon Aug 16, 2010 2:24 pm ]
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thanks guys. Ive been watching Mystery Methods videos and I feel like im learning a lot.
Author:  Matt 2.0 [ Mon Aug 16, 2010 4:04 pm ]
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thanks guys. Ive been watching Mystery Methods videos and I feel like im learning a lot.
those were the first pick up vids i ever watched :shock:
I was hooked instantly.He is brutal 8)
Author:  Arch0n [ Mon Aug 16, 2010 6:45 pm ]
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thanks guys. Ive been watching Mystery Methods videos and I feel like im learning a lot.
those were the first pick up vids i ever watched :shock:
I was hooked instantly.He is brutal 8)
:) Did you using his methods work? After watching that video did you notice a big difference?
Author:  haudas [ Tue Aug 17, 2010 1:23 am ]
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[quote="Arch0n"][quote="Matt 2.0"][quote="Arch0n"]thanks guys. Ive been watching Mystery Methods videos and I feel like im learning a lot.[/quote]

those were the first pick up vids i ever watched :shock:
I was hooked instantly.He is brutal 8)[/quote]

:) Did you using his methods work? After watching that video did you notice a big difference?[/quote]

I was like you,when i was watching the videos,i got more confidant,but after it,i started feeling like shit again.
Everything goes wrong for me,it sucks.
Author:  Matt 2.0 [ Tue Aug 17, 2010 11:36 am ]
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at least he made you feel confident...just build on it and find some other sources.
yeah im still working on game week in week out.for me its more about getting theory down put first and then going out and doing approaches.i can do approaching and usually can get tons of friends because i have good people skills.i just dont know how to escalate correctly and i always end up in the friend zone.so ive been reading more aggressive guys like 60 to get me into a better state. im too much of a gentleman.

but yeah Mystery will always be the original pua for me.i cannot recall watching something so REAL in my entire life.people can give them as much shit as possible but these guys are motivation in the flesh....
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