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Author:  Xtra_Ray [ Sun Jul 18, 2010 6:25 pm ]
Post subject:  Social freeze ups?

Before venue:
Alright im pumped im finally gonna go pick up some chicks tonight. I know all my material! Lets do this!!!

In venue:
Holy shit... wow that girls fine. Ugh i wanna open but she'll probably think im hitting on her. Aghh i forgot everything. I think ill just go hide in a shell.

What can i do to help my freezing up around hot girls. I can talk to them fine in a friendly way which is alwys y i get stuck in the friend zone.

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Author:  frost3627 [ Sun Jul 18, 2010 10:16 pm ]
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I've read this issue in many internet forums, and I myself have experienced it. You feel so stupid at the end of the night, thinking what it could have been had you done anything.

I tried many things to get over this, but the best solution I found was to simply accept the fact that I'm picking her up. I want her to know that, and I want to know if she is worth my time. This may seem strange initially, but the best way to deal with something is to first accept it. You hit a note on a very common dating guru blunder, where they give you all the right knowledge, but simply take this fact for granted. They just assume you'll be comfortable using their tips and advice.

Accept it, and also remember that a girl is not perverse to you picking her up. Man, that's why she's there! All dressed up, jewellery, make up and the works. If she's dressed up and looking very hot, chances are she wants to be picked up. It doesn't matter if she thinks you're picking her up..how you do that is what matters.

Author:  JimD [ Sun Jul 18, 2010 10:27 pm ]
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I tried many things to get over this, but the best solution I found was to simply accept the fact that I'm picking her up. I want her to know that, and I want to know if she is worth my time. This may seem strange initially, but the best way to deal with something is to first accept it. You hit a note on a very common dating guru blunder, where they give you all the right knowledge, but simply take this fact for granted. They just assume you'll be comfortable using their tips and advice.
That my friend is the solution. Thanks for making my day frost!

Author:  Deadeyexx [ Mon Jul 19, 2010 2:13 pm ]
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The problem is you view approaching as threatening. As long as you do, you'll come up with endless excuses not to get up and do it. Try to view approaching as fun and exciting. Like the first step of your wild adventure; not like running the gauntlet.

The opinions of other people won't matter once you begin thinking this way.

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