First, I'm convinced the true alpha male lives alone. He's not co-dependent on anyone else. If you have a room mate, get a place to yourself. Most of your friends are gonna try to put you down, especially if you're under 25. They'll belittle you for hitting on women that aren't hot enough, they'll do ALL kinds of shit to tear you down and keep you in your place. They'll cling to one or two stupid things you've said or done and bring them up over and over and over, especially if they sense it;s bothering you. Get them out of the picture until you are certain you're alpha. When you get there, you'll know it. It will take a few months of hard work, at least. I speak from experience...In college, I tried to be alpha a few times in the fraternity house and EVERY time the guys tore me down and made sure I didn't improve myself. Eventually, I made the decision that my role was to be silent in social settings, otherwise my mouth would embarrass me. I lived my life that way for the next 15 years. It was habit for me. They made me a lifetime beta male. Bullshit. Get away from your friends if they're tearing you down. That's why most men are beta males, because we tear each other down in our late teens and twenties. We condition ourselves to think in terms of "how do I avoid embarrassment" instead of "what can I do to increase my social circle."
Second, FORCE yourself to open at least 3 sets of strangers into normal conversation EVERY day for 3 or 4 weeks. It can be anyone, it doesn't have to be women. In fact, for this 3 or 4 week period, I recommend avoiding women that you'd be sexually interested in just so you get used to opening with success. Open the guy making your sandwich at the deli, open the old man on the park bench...open anyone and try to get them into normal conversation. After 3 or 4 weeks, you'll be a new person.
Third, listen to your own voice. If it sounds nasally or not very manly, work on improving your voice tone. This takes a while for it to come naturally. The alpha male can speak loudly from the base of his chest.
Fourth, force yourself to go out sarging alone. Open the males in the bars first. They are generally a LOT easier to open than women only sets. Open male only sets if you have to. Don't just stand there and talk to no one. Force yourself to open sets. When you do this, you'll notice the entire set is focused on you as soon as you open. At this point, you're the alpha male of the group. Try to maintain it. Get used to it. You ARE the alpha male.
Fifth, I totally recommend working out with weights, eating healthy and tanning. You'll find people in general are easier to open into normal conversation if you're better looking. You'll also gain a lot of self confidence from the way you look. But...please realize, this won't really help you get laid. I'm convinced looks are less than 5% of the entire equation of seduction.
My advice for what it's worth. I've just made the transformation from 110% beta male at the time of my divorce to total alpha male. It took about 3 months of hard work. But it's worth effort. I now have alpha status over ALL of my old friends. It's a pretty cool feeling to sense they're looking up to me for leadership now.
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