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| Author: | bleaknunhappy [ Fri Jan 22, 2010 9:57 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Want to change, Not sure where to start |
Hello, those of you who read my post will find my story is similar to most of yours. Virgin, never kissed, in my early 20's. This has been driving me nuts, guys that I know are, lets say, crude, forming relationships with women. I recently bought the Mystery Method and read it cover to cover over my Christmas break. I want to start working on this aspect of my life but I just have a hard time being social with people. I would compare my personality to that of plant life...this eats away at me everyday watching good looking girls pass me by in the lecture halls of my university and knowing there is nothing I could do in my current mental-emotional state that would compel them to want to be around me. They say you have to play the hand you are dealt in life but right now I just want to fold. I want to change but if there is anything I have learned about social dynamics is that it is all interconnected almost like a circle. How am I supposed to improve? I don't belong to a peer group, have weak chops at making interesting conversation and couldn't flirt or escalate to save my life. And so the cycle continues, I don't want to be that guy who goes to bars by himself in the attempt to meet women, I don't have the balls and I believe this would be inauthentic and women would pick up on that. I feel so frustrated right now, its like every year I say things will be better but I just fade away more and more. |
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| Author: | Mr. Metal [ Sat Jan 23, 2010 8:21 am ] |
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Well right now you sound like you're depressed and have a negative outlook on everything. Nothing unusual about that...could just be the winter blues...I definitely have that shit right now (read my post from a few days ago and you'll know what I mean lol). But for your own good I recommend you snap outta it and start thinking positively. Every time I snap out of a depression, I get a period of feeling over-confident and almost cocky for about a week or two. If that's true with you too, milk that shit when it happens. As for improving yourself...I'd say think about which areas of yourself need the most improving, and do shit to improve it. If you lack social skills, immerse yourself in social situations so you get better. Don't stay in your room and play counterstrike all day just cause it's in your comfort zone; that's what I basically did in freshman year and that didn't help shit. If you're introverted and want to be more extroverted, then meet new people instead of hanging out with the same people day after day. Join a club or organization. Go to parties (and if you like drinking go ahead and get fucking wasted). Keggers are definitely fun and will help make you extroverted if you talk to people just for the sake of talking. If you're bad with women, think about why. What do you need to work on? Do you need to be more confident? More interesting? More buff (oh yeah man, HIT THE GYM! This does WONDERS for confidence boosting)? More clean/fashionable? If you consider yourself ugly, just keep in mind that from what I've heard it's 20% looks, 80% personality, and 100% reason to remember The Game (good book, read it) =p. OK. Lame jokes aside, read some articles around the forum. They should help. A lot. Good luck man. |
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