Im a CM not PUA, and so my methods and style of getting and chatting to girls will be different to most peoples on here.
However 2 things that i use always use when im meetingup and having to charm girls (girls i meetup from the net), or when im out in nightclubs trying to meet some brand new girls, will be extremely effective for basically every single guy out there who gets suffers from approach anxiety.
1. Always always start with a giant smile on your face!
When you are on the street/in the club and you see the girl you want to approach you will be feeling nervous about ''what if she thinks im a creep, what if she is blunt and rude to me, what if i look foolish and other people around see and think that im a weirdo... ect''
However the best and most effective way to deal with this isn't to try and 'get rid of those thoughts', as they are all logical sensible thoughts to have,
but so to instead just change the tense of them from the future to the past.
And the way to do that is to just whack a giant smile onto your face, glide over to the girls, and start your opening.
(Make sure you glide tho, not stride, stroll, prance, skip, saunter, or any other kind of silly looking walk)
While it may be very difficult to approach the girl, chat to her, think about what to say.. ect
No-one can ever say that they find it ''hard to smile''.
And so instead of focusing on any of that hard stuff, simply stick a giant smile on your face (not a sheepish grin, i mean the sorta smile you would have if you were walking down the street behind a mega fit girl and then the wind blew her skirt up n she was wearing a hot-pink thong!)
And trust me, as soon as you make your mouth into that giant smile your entire mindset and demeanour will change, as you will now be the fun smiley lively guy.
And if you combine that with the 3seconds rule, your only thoughts that your mind has will then be AFTER you've finished chatting to the girls.
When you then can look back in the past tense and either think ''Gee i must have looked like such a weirdo'', or, ''whooo i must have looked like such an exciting chatty guy and i just got to know some fit girls''.
But since its the in past now, whatever thoughts you then have and however much anxiety you have it will be irrelevant, as you will already have done the event and survived it.
