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Author:  SummerNight [ Sat Aug 22, 2009 9:23 am ]
Post subject:  Fear = pride? HELP!
Hey, I have been thinking a lot why I don't sarge and do cold approaches. And then it hit me...maybe it is because of my ego.

I have been reading the PUA material for a year and 3 months now. So...when I go out, I don't want to fck up bc it would be a way too big hit on my ego. Like...I have been learning this PUA stuff so long and I still fck up...what a loser (This phrase comes to my head). Then I know I should do crash and burn exercises to get over my AA but it's like...so humiliating for me that I have been learning this stuff so long and I can't even do a cold approach correctly.

I thought that this summer is gonna be awsome, that THIS time it's gonna be different, and now...nothing has changed. I'm affraid to look in the future when I'm fcking 25 and I STILL haven't changed my life...my life is ticking...I don't want to be a loser or a screw up...I'm 20 now and I believe with all my heart that I CAN be a PUA.

I want to stop trying to be somebody and start BEING somebody. But lately...when I do have the few chances to game a girl...I just don't generate attraction...they are not interested after the first time they talk to me. They laught on my jokes that are cocky-funny but...they don't hit me with their arm or kino me back, ask questions and so on.

And I feel bad that I don't progress bc when Mystery, David D and other big PUA's started they had nothing. But I have ALL this knowledge and I still fck up...why, I have all the thing's I would ever need, body language, cocky-funny, deep connection system, understanding of the ALPHA man... It's like this voice in my head that I should not fck up bc I have been learning this stuff for soo long and I have all the help in the world. And then I read about these field/lay reports here and some guys say that...I read this game book yesterday and went out and kiss/fck closed this chick on the fcking first try. Like...for me, the k-close would be awsome result...(and then this voice in my head says: "kiss close, what are u in kindergarden, u are already 20, u should be fcking girls not trying to kiss them").

How can I throw my fcking ego in the dumpster and say...fck me and my pride...and go out and MAKE IT FCKING HAPPEN not read and discuss about it like a fcking madman?

And also, how to NOT GIVE A FCK WHAT OTHERS THINK OF ME?

Thank you all!
Author:  Exerio [ Sat Aug 22, 2009 12:50 pm ]
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This is really an inner game issue. If you have that view it most likely will be reinforced. What you need to do is trying to get out of that thinking habit. I would recommend The Blueprint Decoded or similar seminars or books on this matter. As those are specialized around that area.

- Exerio
Author:  Mister Boss [ Sun Aug 30, 2009 10:37 am ]
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This is an inner game issue indeed.

I was a bit like you in the beginning of my PU. I couldn't stop reading all this material. I thought, the more knowledge I have, the better I will be. WRONG! Pickup is something practical, like driving a car. You won't learn it from a book. You'll learn it from doing it, experience wise.

So practice like a madman. I'm a martial artist. Imagine how many punches and kicks I had to take before getting good. Not hundreds, but thousands. And I'm still getting them on a regular basis. It's part of being a martial artist. You already feel it coming... failure is part of being a PUA.

In order to get good at pickup you must fail. Yes, you need failure if you want to get better. Because failure is a learning opportunity. What I suggest is to go sarging ASAP and do as many approaches as possible. Your goal is to fail, so you can learn from it, and get better. Next time fail again, learn from it, and get better again.

You will see that if you open yourself up to fail, your ego won't get in the way preventing you from approaching.

And about how not to give a fuck about what others think of you? It's all about your own insecurities. When someone is insecure about himself, that person will try his best to do whatever he can to look better in the eyes of others, thus care what others think about him. The key to not give a fuck, is to truly believe that you're the man.

I was insecure myself before I started PU. Afraid to say what I wanted, afraid to dress in a unique way, afraid to stand out. I was simply boring. I began martial arts and started PU and I soon changed as a person. I don't care anymore what others think of me. Before I started pickup I couldn't think of leaving the house without my hair fixed and all, for example. Now, I don't care. Actually, I never fix my hair anymore now I mention it, LOL! Not even when going out. Chicks love it when a guy doesn't give a fuck about his looks. Be proud on yourself. Oh, and before you start acting like a careless caveman, remember that hygiene is still important though :wink:
Author:  seduction82 [ Thu Sep 17, 2009 3:20 pm ]
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The only 3 main ways to not give a fuck what people think of you (and i mean truly not care, not just acting) is threefold. Either through constant repitition to yourself saying that you don't care and really feeling it as you are saying it. You will believe it eventually

OR

Listen to some Eckhart Tolle, develop a spiritual side to you that has total detachment to people, objects and things.

OR

Fuck it up enough times til you become indifferent

The choice is yours
Author:  rocky9118 [ Thu Sep 17, 2009 3:37 pm ]
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i would not recommend the blueprint decoded by tyler honestly ... the stuff he says its true but it just does not work. it goes through one ear and out the other ... i cant recall a single thing he said in his 12 hour audio. zilch.
Author:  Jlax [ Fri Sep 18, 2009 4:39 am ]
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Did you take notes? Actually right now im watching the bleuprint and I think its fucking AWESOME. Im only on my 4th dvd and can already see a change in my reality and how I see the world. You have to absorb the material and really think about it. Also, I wouldnt reccoment the audio series. You get more out of actually seeing the person talking and how hes talking to his audience and the expression hes talking with. Idk maybe it didnt work for you but it sure as hell working for me.


As for Turboravv yes, it is an inner game issue. You need to work on your inner game and stop trying to look for all the little tips and tricks on what to say and what to do. You work on your inner game and everything will take care of itself. Let me tell you though its gonna take time dont expect no quick fix to solving all your problems. The problem you have is that you know all the techniques but dont have an understanding of why they do and dont work. This is where inner game comes in. What you need to do is start working on your inner game and forget all about the books and products on techniques and how to get the girl or the lay.

I actually remember when I got all the "pick up" material before taking care of my inner game issues. Im like "holy shit if this is what gets girls then im good" Boy was I wrong. I applied the cocky-funny material from the forum and got blown out horribly. I was upset and depressed. Then I found out that the problem for me being upset and depressed had to do with my inner game. After that I dropped all the shit from the forum on how to escalate and all the techniques and just focused on inner game. Its been probably the best decision ive made. I suggest you do the same.


I would highly reccomend the blueprint, Eckhart tolles power of now, then David ds deep inner game to get a better understanding of where your psychological problems come from. Do those and tell me if you see improvements.


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