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Author:  TheYoungBachelorG [ Sun Jun 28, 2009 10:33 pm ]
Post subject:  AA problems! Same old story, really need help now!
Basically same old story, im a good looking guy 19years old. I go out most weekends, yet have lost all ability to pull or game girls anymore... Its getting to the point now where im just going to give up on the game, as all advice i get given just doesnt seem to be working for me.
I go out clubbing with mixed groups so im already surrounded by girls, Im always smiling and giving off positive vibes, and wear fashionable clothes! Yet I never seem to get eye contact or any females paying me attention at all. And then on the odd chance i do get eye contact, i put it down as an accident and that she wasnt looking at me, and wind myself up by over thinking the situation, has she got a bf etc! Which causes me to doubt myself, and so I think the problem is I just dont have the balls or confidence to approach girls!

"e.g. saturday night waiting outside a train station two stunning hbs stroll past me and my mate, a blonde and brunette, and the blonde couldn't take her eyes off me as she went past, then she sat down in the station and we kept looking at each other through the window, then 5 minutes later i walk through the station and she is just staring at me smiling and im looking at her yet just walk straight past her!!!!"

Also im quiet around people i dont know at first, but as soon as im in my own comfort zone im the entertainer, and make everyone smile and laugh with cheeky comments and charm! is there anyway i can extend my comfort zone? I need to be more confident! I have heard all the advice such as just think confident etc, but it just dosent work, especially in night clubs, I can dance and all I just think girls are after all the other blokes :( lol.

Please if you have any advice or tips please just message me and let me know, as you would be helping me out soo much, as its going to far now :-(
Thanks for reading this people :)
Author:  Don_k [ Mon Jun 29, 2009 2:17 am ]
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Hey bro, the only way u are going to improve ur confidence is by pushing ur comfort zone. Confidence is doing it. Its not a state of mind. Just do it like the nike slogan. So wen u see a girl u like just say hi to her. U might get blown out but u are pushing ur boundaries thus increasing ur confidence . U are only gonna improve.

Other thing u can do is meet up someone who is into pua. This well help u lot, if there is someone who is pushing u to do it , u will do it.

Also u need to value urself a bit high. If u dont believe the girl should be with u, how is she going to believe that.
:) :)
Author:  mulimans [ Mon Jun 29, 2009 4:00 am ]
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Perhaps does this help you:

Imagine the girl you approach is an old friend of yours.

For me it was a great help to put me over the line and still use it often to give an extra positive impuls to my inner mind.

First say 'hi' and smile. After that ask her a usual question like: 'Could you tell me the way to...'.
Author:  TheYoungBachelorG [ Tue Jun 30, 2009 11:29 pm ]
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Hey thanks guys, will try use your advice. I always try to get out my comfort zone, but as you said i need someone to help push me out of it, and push me into situations. I went clubbing last night and a hb pointed at my shoes and said there was something attached to it, so i took the initative that she was checking me out, so just grabbed her hand as we were on the dancefloor and started dancing with her :) which for me is an improvement lol. I did hesitate last night though again when it came to a super hot babe, everytime i looked at her she was looking at me while we were on the dancefloor, but i didnt approach her as i kept thinking what if she rejects me or was simply just looking at me... how can i get out of this mind fram guys???

Thanks for your help :-)
Author:  TTW [ Thu Jul 02, 2009 11:44 pm ]
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You know what's really funny? You seem to be like a UK version of me. If I'd present myself here, I'd do it with pretty much the same words :D
I'll give you a short story about me. I'm 19 aswell. When I was 16, 17 and 18 I didn't have much of a problem picking up ladies(guess I should call 'em girls at that age), as a matter of fact the main problem was to hook girls when ones from previous nights were at the same club/house/bar(it's a small town- give me a break :D ). But about when I got 19 I got really fed up with the nightlife as such and got a girlfriend(yeah, seems like an old fart talking, doesn't it :D ). Four months later we broke up and then I was quite bummed out about it and partied every night for almost two tweeks to not be stuck at home thinking about her( and yes- maybe find a one-nighter or two). Then a few nights in a row I'd noticed quite a few cute girls and had started to set my steps towards them... but.. then... a kind of a hollow feeling in my gut took place and I cancelled.
The way I got over it(well, mostly have) is by just hanging around with my female friends and talking to their girlfriends I have met for the first time. It's a great way to boost your confidence. You're not the awkward dude trying to pick them up, but the great guy their friend likes so they're a lot more inclined to talk to you and find out more about you. It's like training: smart way is to do some warm-up before going for the hard part :wink: .

Cheers and good luck!
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