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| Author: | Real [ Sun May 10, 2009 3:26 am ] |
| Post subject: | Total rant.. social life gradually deteriorating. |
I don't even know what's going on anymore, I would describe myself as a fairly reserved, good lookin' dude, like to keep in good shape, yet I don't have nearly as much confidence in myself as I should. The weird thing is, it hasn't always been like this. In high school, there were parties all the time, it wasn't hard to meet new people because I would meet someone new almost every weekend. Never really had a problem getting with girls, don't know if it's that I've never really had to game them verbally as much or if I've just totally lost it. I just graduated from high school last year and a lot of my friends went off to college, now I'm stuck at home, going to a junior college that I feel has gradually killed my social life. I feel like it's harder to get to know people in class because everyone's doing their own thing and then the teacher's talking for 95% of the time, there's not really enough time to get to know somebody, past the small talk. It's not even about getting with the ladies. (well there is that too obviously;)) At this point, I can't even keep a conversation with some of my old friends, let alone spit some game at a couple babes. I feel uncomfortable in situations that wouldn't normally bother me. I don't go out nearly as much as I used to, (never would be caught dead at home on a friday night, now it's no big deal..which is a big problem in my book) and sometimes (recently) when I do get an opportunity to hang with a good friend I haven't seen in a while, I somehow psych myself out in to thinking oh well what if its awkward, what if I can't keep up a conversation with her and theres nothing to do..shit like that. I almost feel like I'm afraid to leave my comfort zone, when I get stuck in such a routine for so long, it's hard for me to change it up. I hate it here at home, I really need a change of scenery. My life is a total routine, wake up, school, homework, gym, video games, soccer, smoke a blunt with some homies. I need excitement, I need change, I need to get my fucking act together. I just feel like I'm in a total rut and have no idea what to do. |
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| Author: | beaves [ Tue May 19, 2009 2:47 am ] |
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hey man sounds bad, but youll go through it again. how about joining a new club where girls are more likely to hangout. a diciplin like rock climbing might help you out. I know you say its routine you hate but it might make you break some of those dates for the blunt and meet new people who more than likely go for drinks after. Only a few girls think its "bad ass" to smoke a joint... your more likely to score in a voluteering soup kitchen than doing that. Im not saying stop if you like it, hell i do it sometimes, but it can certainly be dropped from the schedule. Just find something to get passionate about, girls love it! |
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| Author: | zoomzoom [ Thu May 21, 2009 9:03 pm ] |
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Dude... I totally hear yah, goin through a bit of the same situation myself. I used to a fairly social person, although quite reserved at the same time. Then I went to work in a logging camp for 6months with very little contact with other people. Social skills went to shit. Then I spent the winter skiing in a town of 4000 people. Amazing skiing, but again social skills went further down the shitter. I hardly went out, and would often get anxiety just thinkin about it. So i know what your sayin, but I've been through this before and fixed it before. First thing is.... kick the chronic. I used to reef all day long, and can rightly blame most of my social difficulties on that. Makes me very anti-social. Now i just toke one right before bed when im sure there will be no more social interactions for the day. Second thing... Sounds to me like you need a major life change. I suggest going traveling if you've got the cash. and if not, get a job to get the cash, so you have a goal and your motivated. I went through the same downward spiral when i got outta highschool. Needed a big change, so I stepped waaaay outta my comfort zone and moved to playa del carmen in mexico and Ios island in Greece for a few months each. Both of which are some of the most happening places on the planet. First month was real rough tryin to push that comfort zone and be social, but by the time I got to Ios I had it back. And by the time I returned home I was an entirely different person. Not to mention I got laid more in 6 months than the previous 6 years combined. Here i am again. Fairly antisocial, stuck in a routine, and not an epic sex life. So I booked a ticket outta this small, boring town and im headin to thailand. If the thought of traveling the world and meeting new people everyday dosnt get yah stoked, then nothing will. Get motivated, push your comfort zone, and the rest will follow. |
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