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| Author: | stevo91 [ Fri Feb 13, 2009 12:05 am ] |
| Post subject: | i talk fine with with girl i know but....... |
i have problems talking to girls who ive known for a while. like theres this group of girls who hang out with me and my friends at school and party with them. i know all of them fairly well but at school I almost freeze up and it just feels wierd to talk to and almost sounds wierd coming out my mouth (even just normal converstation) yet girls who i sarge and my other friends i talk with fine. do u know why this might be cause its quite annoying. |
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| Author: | The Big Bad Wolf [ Fri Feb 13, 2009 3:37 pm ] |
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You may have had problems with speaking to girls earlier, and somehow still harbor the association to the previous state. If you're going for NLP-terms, They're an anchor to the state of nervousness. or in Pavlovian: Conditioning. It's likely you've been like that so many times before when you've met them, maybe some issues you've cleared out by now, But yeah, your unconscious still associates these girls with that mental state. There are ways around this, e.g. you can future pace meeting these girls and leading perfect game on them. Create an anchor to the state you're usually in when sarging other girls and fire that when with these girls. Is there anything special about these girls ? Like previous One-itis cases or something like that... Or are they just completely normal girls from school who happen to stumble into your world now and then ? Did you use to have no problem talking to them ? (in which case, what changed?) |
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| Author: | wiseshoot [ Fri Feb 13, 2009 7:14 pm ] |
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You value their friendship too much, and fear anything that might ruine your chances with them in the future. Sounds a little like oneitis, minor though. Treat them like your buddies, break that awkwardness. I repeat you are feeling awkward because you want to fuck them, and since they are apart of your social circle, you don't want to risk losing them. Forget that sht and start acting a fool, and not even think of them any more than a regular guy friend. Hell ask them to PIVOT for you at every opportunity. PIVOT like crazy with them, you won't fear them no longer once you see how stupid or similar they really are to you. |
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| Author: | stevo91 [ Sat Feb 14, 2009 2:37 am ] |
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lol thax boys. as for wolfs question yes i did like two members of the group one just recently and i think that has a little bit too do with it. as well wiseshot ile defiantly take your advice cause i actually asked one of the girls if it was awkward when ever i talked to her and she said not at all. so yeah thank you very much 
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