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Author:  coldreader [ Sun Dec 28, 2008 4:58 am ]
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I don't really know if anyone else is like this but I'm gonna tell you my story with the hope of someone being able to help me.

Well when I first started reading about PUA's and techniques, I was totally shy. Had no friends, girls, contacts. I'm not saying this for sympathy but just so you can understand the problem.

I began to work on myself. Learning DHV's, negs, openers, group theory and I got pretty good at it. And therin lies the problem.

I can get a girl attracted to me. Just about anyone really, but even though I know she likes me, I can't get the strength to take the leap. To actually ask her out. Like I said, I'm just an approach artist.

This is my only sticking point. I've had girlfriends before (due to a confidence boost by alcohol) and they go crazy for me because I know what to say and when to say it. But I still have trouble number closing because of my fear of taking that leap of faith that every other PUA takes.

I hope not to get ridiculed, but if at the end of it there is some helpful advice then slander away. I just really want to get over this already.

Thanks :D
Author:  Nightynight [ Sun Dec 28, 2008 5:22 am ]
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Well there is no magic answer here, you just have to fix your inner game.
If you can approach girls which many guys could never do, why can't you ask for the number? You got the approach step done, you just need to get the closing step done. If you do that often it will become much easier.

if she wont give you her number then it's her loss.
You just need to attract them and build some comfort, and if you do that right she is going to give you her number.
Author:  coldreader [ Sun Dec 28, 2008 6:19 am ]
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Thanks nightynight. And thanks for not bashing me. I realize that this is a really weird problem to have. Guys out there just want to be successful at attraction and here I am with it downpact and I still can't close.

I'm gonna give it a try and get back to you.
Author:  Nightynight [ Sun Dec 28, 2008 6:57 pm ]
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Yeah no problem mate, if you want to expand your comfort zone you have to step out of it from time to time :) It's hard, but it will be worth it and I'm pretty sure after some time you will think "what was I thinking? this is not hard, good thing I did something about it"

I will be excited to hear from you when you manage to close some girls :D
Let me know man ;)
Author:  Stormy [ Sun Dec 28, 2008 8:52 pm ]
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You can approach and open, and you can do so comfortably. You're already ahead of most dudes.

Just start getting numbers now. It doesn't have to be fancy. "Hey, what's your number?" Do it when you're about to take off.

Just keep advancing, dude. The power is within you.
Author:  Jaybot [ Sun Dec 28, 2008 11:43 pm ]
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Stormy nailed it, also I love how you used approach artist it is literally word for word part of a post where I told people how I learnt to pick up women.

First become an approach artist once you can do that, get numbers, then kissing, then sleeping with them, if thats what you are after. Anyways dude, it is nothing bad that you are doing it this way it is a good logical way of learning which shows you the goals you need to proceed.

Also here is your golden line, this one served me well and got me a lot of success so use it well ..... "So, I'm gonna go ahead and grab your number -as you hand them the phone-". In your head don't even consider the fact they won't give it to you and be ready with a very matter-of-fact "so, I can contact you" coupled with a confused look, as lots ask why.
Author:  Stormy [ Mon Dec 29, 2008 12:18 am ]
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Handing the girl your phone and saying "here, punch your number in" also works. Then call her so she has your number AND you know the number isn't a fake.
Author:  coldreader [ Wed Dec 31, 2008 8:45 am ]
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Thanks you guys. Really helping me out a lot.

I guess after so many years of social rejection, the fact that its possible to attract a high value women is still pretty far fetched to me. But I'm just gonna have to stop cutting myself short. :?
Author:  sylvan [ Wed Jan 07, 2009 5:51 am ]
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bro i still have problems approaching, i feel that takes the most inner game for me.

i need to spot ioi's better. i was able to number close tonight, my first number close. it wont really lead to anything. im not looking for an f-close with her and she is christian as am i.

well bro, i think you should invite girls to something fun youre doing. thats what i did. my church was having a youth group this friday, then i asked of she would ike to go (my bad, i should have suggested se go) and i just asked for the number.

you can also go into some sets, even with girlsyou dontfind attractive, mess stuff up on purose, then try a number close. once yo get rejected, ou realise it isnt bad and you move on with less fear.

if you do your job, whichit sounds like you are, you should be able to close successfuly.
Author:  coldreader [ Thu Jan 08, 2009 5:45 am ]
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Thanks everyone, since I last posted I have actually tried. The result...I am now in a relationship. It seemed so perfect, the girl was practically forcing me to take her number.

Thanks so much for your help and I'll keep practicing until I can do it consistently. :D
Author:  Jaybot [ Thu Jan 08, 2009 10:54 am ]
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awesome stuff :)
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