I suggest you need to work on your inner game. You have alot of self-confidence issues and you presume you actually know what other people are thinking. Do not do this. I used to be the same way. Really the best thing that worked for me was just wanting to get blown out of sets. I thought it would be funny to get the max rejection you can get, but it really never happened. It may not be easy the first time, but after you actually get out there it won't be such a big deal. But you need to build your inner game, otherwise your words and actions won't be congruent.

What is inner game exactly? Not sure if I'm on the same page in terms of definition. And yes I am aware of me thinking that I know what other people are thinking. I think the cause is basically a desire for control even though the truth is, we have little control over what happens around us. But I suppose that comes from the lack of confidence.

What did you mean by "I thought it would be funny to get the max rejection you can get, but it really never happened"? That you felt that by going out and purpously trying to get rejected you would eventually lose the fear of it? And what did you mean by it never happened?

Inner game is the emotional structure that supports outer game. What you are talking about in your first post is mostly about outer game. Inner game has to do with your emotions and how you experiance the events of you life. For example, somone with poor inner game would become depressed and upset when they are rejected. On the other hand someone with a solid inner game would be pleased. Its one less women he has to talk to in his search for the right girl. Identical situations with opposite reactions, both determined by inner game.

Your game is suffering because you are not capable of letting go and flying by the seat of your pants. What Starfox was saying about getting the max rejection is great, it totaly changes your perspective. Basically you go out and do things you know wont work. Something so rediculus and stupid (but not harmfull to yourself or others, play safe!) that there is no way in hell the girl will like you. Try your hardest to get the worst reaction possible out of a women. You would be supprised that nothing that bad actually happens. I was told to go around and just walk up to a women and say "frozen turky". It was weird and stupid but the only response I could get with that was "what?" or "your weird", and thats not bad. Eventually you can learn to make anything work. When I open with frozen turky for example, if she says what, I say "see, I knew I could say anything and you would want to talk to me". My suggestion is to stop reading about IOI's and openers and all that stuff, and get your inner game nice and solid. Without the inner stuff your outer game wont work most of the time.

I also noticed that you think way to much. The human mind is a great thing, but it has a tendancy to block instinct. Sometimes it is more appropriate to just act, and not think about it. You shouldn't be thinking about the situation at hand and determining the proper sequence of events that lead to success. Instead you should try thinking on your feet, let instinct take over.

Your last issue will be handled if you concentrate your efforts on inner game. It stems from a feeling that what you think and experiance is different than the people around you. We are raised in a place where sex is a bad thing, and as a result, anything that leads up to sex is also bad. You need to deal with this limiting belief before you can be comfortable in situations where women are flurting with you.

Hope that helps!