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| Author: | MasterPlayerX [ Sat Oct 18, 2008 10:35 pm ] |
| Post subject: | The reason I'm shy is because of my voice |
I hate the way my voice sounds, I have a lisp, can't pronounce r's correctly, and it's also pretty high and not clear. I often get asked to repeat what I said, and people sometimes lean in to me to better understand what I'm saying. Definitely effecting my self confidence, I imagine I'd be about 100 times more outgoing if my voice sounded like an average dude's voice. I'm just so embarrassed by it, have only been made fun of it a few times though, but I generally don't talk enough to be made fun of in the first place. I imagine it's an instant turn off to any girl that hears it, and I imagine people who listen to it are embarrassed for me. I can only imagine and dream about how different a person I'd be if I had a better voice... Any help or advice? Anyone know anyone in a similar situation? Thanks. |
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| Author: | Stetson [ Sat Oct 18, 2008 11:08 pm ] |
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Nice nick, how ironic.  Anyway, down to the business. Apply yourself a character and start building it, with what you just described about yourself would be perfect for a someone whos funny and a little goofy. Lose some of your ego! Just accept yourself as you are, and learn to make fun of yourself too. |
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| Author: | Savage1 [ Sun Oct 19, 2008 1:30 am ] |
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I agree with Stetson... but also, when he says lose the ego, don't forget you are awesome. Just don't take yourself so serious. When we are shy, which I consider myself shy, we tend to blowshit out of proportion and overanalyze and make little things bigger than they are...don't do that. How does your family and friends perceive you? Does your voice really bother them that much? I bet they think your great...they're not making that up. You probably are...but others don't see it because your hung up on your voice. Let everybody else see what your family and friends see....I bet they'll like it and if they don't..fuckem in the ear!! As far as some chicks making judgements on your voice...do you really want that type of chick anyway? Move on...and keep playn...its fun!! Savage |
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| Author: | The_Thinker_777 [ Mon Oct 20, 2008 12:28 pm ] |
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Stetson is right on the money but I don't agree with it completely. Some say that every person selects a role for themselves and then they play it out (in life that is), maybe thats right maybe thats wrong but thats pretty much what stetson is saying. Personally I don't like this idea principally because it makes human existance seem vain. But anyway, basically I've got a mate who hates dancing because he thinks he's goofy at it and in all honesty hes not a dancer but to me its cool. The thing is, it's not that hes a goofy dancer that makes him cool but his personality. Maybe from the get go I might look at him and say this guys a doosh, but given a chance to get to know him I will realise he's cool and in a sense understand where his dancing style (or the lack of) comes from and because I suppose I accept him for who he is he seems cool. I know that what I wrote is a bit of a mindf**k but I hope you get the picture. Basically go watch "Josh Blue disabled comedian" on youtube and you tell me is that guy cool or what? Fact is, everyone has quirks man, but I thin people appreciate other people for those quirks... it's what makes us different and interesting! Use it because it's you. Admittedly I haven't figured out what part of me I need to exentuate because of my ego issues but yer I'm just telling you that what you have isn't necessairly a bad thing. I'm not saying to build your whole personality around it I'm saying to just accept it. Doing that is harder than just saying it I know and it may take some time but its all a process of becomming yourself. (and I've discovered the best way to do this is through hobbies and this means work too... after all who said work can't be fun/hobby?) |
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