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| Author: | kingjester [ Wed Mar 07, 2007 8:46 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Closing Anxiety...NEED HELP/TRAINING! |
Okay, I haven't been the PUA "game" very long in terms of using the specific tools and routines, but I'm no stranger to going out and picking up girls. What this world has opened my eyes to is the different areas within the game that each person needs to do in order to get from start to finish. I have been in sales for a large part of my life and know this process. So, with that said, I know where my strengths are: I have no fear of going up to anyone, be it a HB, a set, or literally random ass people on the street. I am also great at engaging that person and getting them to have a conversation with me. I am also great at building rapport and getting people to "like" me.... Now, the bad: I'm AWEFUL at closing girls. Not so much getting their numbers (because 9 times out of 10 if you confidently ask they will give it to you), but more so closing on the physical side be it a kiss or sex. This is where my insecure inner child rises to the surface and starts playing the "what if" game. I know, I know: What if a meteor hit my house...I get it, but that doesn't do it for me. I need more of a technique or process to help me conquer this I am soooo close to being a grade A PUA, but am a complete loser in this area. More background FYI: I'm good looking, in shape, great style, successful, funny, worldly, musical, intelligent, outgoing, and have an uncanny network of people to tap to get anything I want done... (i'm not trying to sound cocky, because in person I'm not, I just want to give you all the most honest information to work with) With skills like this I should be banging tons of girls, but sadly at 23, I am only at 3!!! (granted I had two gf, each for 3 years) PLEASE HELP! I'm willing to do whatever it takes!!!! |
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| Author: | WhoKid [ Wed Mar 14, 2007 8:28 pm ] |
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i feel your pain buddy.. I have almost the same situation with you.. Hopefully we'll link up and get over the close... |
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| Author: | SpringXD [ Thu Sep 22, 2011 7:43 am ] |
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Hey kingjester. I'm a little new to the PUA game myself, and I've been going through similar CA. I've gotten a little better at it but it still hits me from time to time. For me it was mostly mental, and it still gets the best of me now and then. But my biggest problem was I was thinking of it as more than just a game or challenge. I let my thoughts and my brain get too far ahead of myself. AKA I'm building rapport and can number close. In my thoughts, if you take more of a game or challenge approach and not dwell too hard on a physical close, that may relieve some of your anxiety from it. |
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| Author: | nuraj [ Fri Sep 23, 2011 10:32 am ] |
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Just have a line ready if girl says no or moves her head out of the way, helps me feel more prepared. 1. shrug your shoulders and say ''bad habit'' as in you always try to hook up with girls 2. ''aww shit (input male name here) did it as well (said the same thing) yesterday'' and continue to talk, because no big deal, you are still ''that guy'' that goes for it |
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| Author: | idomiralin [ Sun Sep 25, 2011 8:31 pm ] |
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I can see where your problem is: YOU ARE FALLING IN THE FRIEND-ZONE! The girls are seeing you as a friend, not as a boyfriend. To change this, visit http://seduceandattract.blogspot.com/, where I have an article called Don't fall into the friend-zone. I really think, that it can help you. My Facebook profile: http://www.facebook.com/seduceandattract |
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