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| Author: | Reo [ Sat Aug 02, 2008 7:25 pm ] |
| Post subject: | I have no Fear of approach |
This link is about public speaking if you read and comphrend you'll see how it relates to being PUA an how its the best mind set take to out into the field http://www.stresscure.com/jobstress/speak.html Review Of 11 Hidden Causes Of Public Speaking Stress(how it relates to pick up) 1. Thinking that public speaking is inherently stressful (it's not). if billy bob over there can have a fine ass girlfriend why can't you he's man like u he just decided to take action and open his mouth 2. Thinking you need to be brilliant or perfect to succeed (you don't). At least make and attempt there is something to be gained from every interaction 3. Trying to impart too much information or cover too many points in a short presentation. You do not have much time don't be the guy who gets stuck in seduction...who runs a dozen canned routes/ Cocky Comedy nonstop building comfort for weeks and gets far away from the whole point of the interaction which is too seduce the girl and have her thinking of you sexually not in a funny friend way 4. Having the wrong purpose in mind (to get rather than to give/contribute). out of 10 women who will love you 1 will hate you don't believe the hype about seducing every and any type of girl....it never hurts to try though but don't beat yourself up or waste your time on a particular girl 5. Trying to please everyone (this is unrealistic). This SPAM speaks for itself I give girls feelings whether they're feelings of happiness, anger, jealously etc. to so be it they're responsible for how they feel 6. Trying to emulate other speakers (very difficult) rather than simply being yourself (very easy). You're not Mystery or Juggler or Reo 7. Failing to be personally revealing and humble. People who Neg too aggressively and too much and are overly cocky funny have a hard time making the girl believe your a real person...this happens a lot with beginners its ok to set back sometimes and not think everything is a challenge from her 8. Being fearful of potential negative outcomes (they almost never occur and even when they do, you can use them to your advantage). Who cares what the girl thinks about you if she rejects u so What you'll live to see another day the reality is girls want to see what u got to offer they dont' get all dress up for guys to be too scared to approach its your delivery of what it is u have to offer which will make her say yes or no 9. Trying to control the wrong things (e.g., the behavior of your audience). spending too much trying to win over her annoying friends/cockblockers once i see a girls friend is just going to be an absolute problem the time for laughs with them is over I shut them out get my message delivered directly to my target if the target wants to leave with her girlfriend so be it 10. Spending too much time overpreparing (instead of developing confidence and trust in your natural ability to succeed). sittng here reading all the books all the forum post what works for one person might not work for u just get out there and make things happen 11. Thinking your audience will be as critical of your performance as you might be. This is where it all begins Reo notes: my real job requires me to give presentations in front of a lot big wigs CEO's, VPs, mangers these ppl strike the same fear into men as a HB9 or 10 would. I manage to stay claim by doing a rigorous work out doing push-up, lifting a dumb-bell, or jumping jacks before i go up this something most professional public speakers do this to prepare themselves for a big audience it really calms your anxiety. I recommend doing somekind of exercise before going out |
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| Author: | *Playa* [ Sat Aug 02, 2008 9:49 pm ] |
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Ditto this, I am only just out of school (aged eighteen) but I was the best debater in my year and went to a number of national competitions - as a result AA hasn't been a major issue for me. If anyone (particularly those still at school/college/university) can get involved in debating then I advise you to do so - if you can speak eloquently and clearly in front of hundreds of people then one HB10 doesn't seem so much of an issue. |
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| Author: | kelso [ Sat Aug 02, 2008 10:43 pm ] |
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i dunno....i know i have some AA issues to work out but put me in front of a crowd of 2000 people with a mic and i can sing along all night... shrink that same crowd down to like 10 people and i freeze up. i know a lot of others like this too....i do better with bigger groups than i do making small talk with a small group |
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| Author: | Reo [ Sat Aug 02, 2008 10:54 pm ] |
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Quote: i dunno....i know i have some AA issues to work out but put me in front of a crowd of 2000 people with a mic and i can sing along all night... shrink that same crowd down to like 10 people and i freeze up. i know a lot of others like this too....i do better with bigger groups than i do making small talk with a small group
Your just not used to talking to new ppl you still have a fear of what ppl will think of u or how ur going to screw up once you've realized its stupid to have that fear you'll do better
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| Author: | kelso [ Sat Aug 02, 2008 11:19 pm ] |
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yea im slowly getting over it. if i follow the 3 second rule then im golden, i have no problem. any hesitation and i screw it all up...pracice practice |
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| Author: | diggidoyo [ Sun Aug 03, 2008 8:37 pm ] |
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Reo - Who is that in your avatar?! |
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| Author: | Reo [ Sun Aug 03, 2008 9:45 pm ] |
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Quote: Reo - Who is that in your avatar?!
She is Vida Guerra
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| Author: | Love John [ Sat Aug 16, 2008 8:33 am ] |
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wow man, fuckin awesome. this article really helped me. i suppose my problem has been over thinking and i just gotta jump right in. regardless of what you say, as long as you convey the message your trying to get out there, it's not your fault for how people interpret it so just got out there and fall over and over again until you get it, right? ha ha, at least that's what i got from it. |
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| Author: | Reo [ Sat Aug 16, 2008 1:47 pm ] |
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Quote: wow man, fuckin awesome. this article really helped me. i suppose my problem has been over thinking and i just gotta jump right in.
Good and thats exactly what u should have learned from it. I used to put unnecessary pressure on myself to perform trying to learn someone else's routines thinking oh no I'm out of material must keep search for stuffing talk about for another 20mins then...bored the girl then failed.... Now I think of 2 or 3 key things I'm going to deliver a women they can be anything ranging from: I'm going make her laugh, make her answer an embarrassing sexual question, Make her think I'm the man. It can be anything you want to talk about then you'll find out you carry on conversations with HB with ease. One particular girl may not laugh she may not answer your questions, but I guarantee another girl will
regardless of what you say, as long as you convey the message your trying to get out there, it's not your fault for how people interpret it so just got out there and fall over and over again until you get it, right? ha ha, at least that's what i got from it. |
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| Author: | JasonLloyd [ Tue Oct 28, 2008 12:13 pm ] |
| Post subject: | i cant get over this |
i cant even talk to hired guns. makes me feelpathetic. i get just as nervous when in the presence of a girl i dont know. its crazy. whats wrong with me. also, public speaking and pickup arent similar in my eyes at all. i can public speak, no problem. i can play guitar in front of 300 people and its not an issue, even if i fuck up. if its one on one though its a world of didference man |
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