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Author:  DanIAm [ Sun Oct 25, 2015 3:51 am ]
Post subject:  New neighbor

Hi everyone, I have this new neighbor that moved into my apartment building. I've got her number and we've hung out once. Every time I text her/talk in person I get shy/anxiety and I don't seem to get anywhere. I also don't want to push myself on to her because she just moved in not to long ago. I really want to get to know her better and hang out more but can't seem to ever get her to come out.

It's driving me nuts because I've never been in this particular situation before (having a hot neighbor). And our conversations end rather quickly since we only run into each other in the hallway of my apartment building.

Anything I should try/do?

Author:  phant0159 [ Sun Oct 25, 2015 5:22 am ]
Post subject:  Re: New neighbor

Maybe invite her over for dinner or something
But why don't u hit the local bar? There are a lot of options there IMO.

Author:  Karlb [ Tue Nov 03, 2015 8:41 am ]
Post subject:  Re: New neighbor

Have fun with her. By that, I mean enjoy yourself. Live in the moment. Women gravitate toward a man who loves life, is happy and does what he wants to do. Don't appear too invested.

Author:  Dryden [ Sat Dec 05, 2015 1:21 am ]
Post subject:  Re: New neighbor

Hard for me to answer because I would have trouble myself.

I usually do what I like to do: invent fun stuff. That means no direct approach but rather use what has come out of convo to, for example, send her something, buy her something curious or cool or sweet. Like this girl whose last name was something like Sandlewood, that's a scent. I was planning on sending her (in her mailbox) a little flask of those things with some intriguing message to go with it, so that next time our meeting would be more special. I bailed in the end, I don't know, it could work out again some time. I always have these ideas but recently my life has been rather I would say misbegotten.

Another girl who worked at a hotel I wanted to send a DVD with some stuff I think one of these small ones, these 8cm ones. And some message, I knew exactly what to write. It also failed (I never sent it). I think it's just tough, I always like to use these less-direct but still-direct approaches. Something that intrigues. I always say: use your strengths.

If your strength is writing, poetry, or imaginative stuff, use that. It is even romantic. Although one girl I did send a letter to got rather emotional next time I saw her :P. She kinda ran away. I don't know, maybe it meant too much to her. Like I said, I haven't been able to pursue anything.

Being shy is not a problem. You just have to find ways to reach her, if a full out social real life face direct approach can't work as fast for you.

Supposing you had sent something to her that intrigued her and left her wanting more, next time you met her, you could say like "You know like, that message?" She'd go "Yeah?" You say "Want to do something more?" ... "I mean like, you know?" and she might just go Hmmhmm. Don't be afraid of your shyness. Be afraid of a lack of opportunities to use other forms of messaging.

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