Quote: So, until recently things have started to fall into place in my life. I was jobless for a year and
landed this interview and a date with this girl (that i've been trying to go out with since the longest)
all in one day.
Got the job and hung out with her with mutual friends, but i didn't think we hit it off.
Next day, bam! she texts my female friend that she wants me to text her! We start texting and
hang out a few more times, but i don't make a move until her birthday, which was last week.
Her birthday goes smoothly, i planned a bonfire at the beach ect. next thing you know it
we're in my room having intense sex. Btw this girl is HOT like stupid Hot. Anyways, next morning she calls me
all excited about the previous night and everything is going smooth between us, I start to catch feelings.
And literally just like that shit goes downward fast! We were suppose to hang out the next day after her bday and she flakes. She would text me every morning good morning or goodnight, she stops. And the way i text
is if you didn't reply to my last text either the day before or what have you i wont chase you
She just started getting completely distant. We had planned to hang out this passed thursday and she completely flaked out on me and didn't even call to cancel. So, i text her and she appologizes saying she was busy talking with her exs mom and asks me wat beach did we go for her birthday? and i took it as she's asking so she can go there with someone else, so i never texted her back. she texted me the next morning "Hey", but never responded back to my reply.
it's been two days since we stopped talking and im just bummed.
Thing is, i never want to feel like this for a girl again, so what do i or work on my game so i can keep the girl
intrested in me? My text game or just my overall game is rusty and this is the first girl i actually dated in over a year. Idk, i just really don't want to feel this way again and just wish some constructive criticism.
Peace.
"You speak sincerely but your sorrow has no cause. How have you fallen so far off the path to liberation?" - Bhagavad Gita
Brother, it always sucks when this stuff happens... But is it possible you may be over reacting?
People get busy. It happens. She sounds like she was super into you. It looks like you getting overly emotional is what is causing her to take her distance, and not vice versa.
Who cares if she goes to the beach with someone else? You do not own her, nor her time.
Get a grip brother.
How can you never feel like this again? Stop asking for more techniques and tactics. You should never aim to build defenses around your heart. That's the stupidest way to live. Of COURSE you will feel this way again. And probably more intensely... And guess what - that's fine! With love comes pain, with joy comes sorrow. It's the way the world works. You can choose not to be attached to that joy, and by consequence the pain, and that is an alternative.
Look your main focus should be on fixing yourself. Stop looking for ways to 'keep her' and 'never feel that way again'. Instead, focus on being a man worth keeping, and on growing emotionally, on maturing as a man.
The alternative is what you're going through right now... Over and over.
With love and respect
Mack
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