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| Author: | Black Phantom [ Tue Feb 04, 2014 1:50 am ] |
| Post subject: | The Cause of Approach Anxiety |
When most guys experience that sinking feeling in their stomach, that Blank mind effect and staring into the woman like deers caught in the headlights, they think one thing... "I need to learn what to say." In other words, most guys think that the cause of their approach anxiety is the fact that they don't know what to say. That's partially true. But it's not the thing that causes your approach anxiety. You see, I could give you the best "line" with the best routine word per word...but if I put you in a situation with a hot stunning blonde, you would probably have the same anxious feeling in your stomach again. The reason is because the true cause of your approach anxiety is not the words you want to say... ...but it's what you FOCUS on. Let me explain. When most guys see a girl, the first thing they focus on is on the BAD things that a woman might say if they approach her... They focus on the REJECTION they would feel if a woman blows them off... and on how "NOT GOOD ENOUGH" they are compared to her anyways. What they are mostly focusing on is on the negative and bad things of what could happen. However, just making a small shift in what you focus on can make a HUGE difference in how you feel about starting a conversation with a woman. What I suggest is counter-intuitive. What I suggest is instead of focusing on your insecurities and on what bad can happen, you focus on HER insecurities and on what GOOD can happen. So for example, if you see a hot blonde walking down the street, and you start getting that anxious feeling inside, SHIFT your focus. Start focusing on how SHE feels inside...try to notice HER insecurities... And imagine how she would respond to you if she was insecure and anxious. Then notice how you feel. If you're thinking "Yea right, easier said than done", I understand. Of course, it's one thing to try to rationaly do this, its something completely else to feel this shift on an EMOTIONAL level. That's why I've created a technique that leads you through this process step by step. I've made it so that you can get the technique on my website completely free (link in the signature) So click on the link in my signature, and try the technique now. Phantom |
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| Author: | metomeya [ Tue Feb 04, 2014 2:55 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: The Cause of Approach Anxiety |
Interesting way to think of things. |
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| Author: | DoktorL0ve [ Fri Feb 07, 2014 4:48 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: The Cause of Approach Anxiety |
i agree, i think a big part of aa is that most guys are too focused on themselves, too focused on their own feelings, and everything is about them. let go of your ego, your ego is what holds you back because it doesn't want to get hurt. |
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| Author: | Andrew786 [ Mon Mar 31, 2014 12:09 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: The Cause of Approach Anxiety |
Great advice. I've seen studies where people feel much more confident if they are instructed to focus on the other person. |
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