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| Author: | VanPelt [ Mon Jan 21, 2013 5:26 pm ] |
| Post subject: | For experts and psychology gurus, please help me |
sorry if i sound a bit impatient, but right now i'm a bit angry because i feel i can't overcome blushing. My situation is a bit weird and is not common, I'd love to hear from someone who had my same problem and managed to solve it. I will try to be as brief and clear as possible; I can approach a girl, be nice, be crazy, go to a party naked with friends, beat someone in a thai-boxing competition, but if i sit down quietly with a group of girls and guys, and the attention is upon me I WILL BLUSH, and that's it I just don't know how to cure it, I pushed my limits in a lot of aspects in life, went out of my comfort zone, made it my hobby, but when it comes to feeling in the centre of attention (so 3+ people looking at me) i blush and sometimes even sweat. I so badly want to overcome it, i am a good PUA without it, i can talk to a girl but i can't talk confidently to a group of people, i don't know what happens internally, i don't know why my subconscious feels threatedned, even when all i did in the past 4 years is jumping out of my comfort zone, of curse i did improve (i used to have social phobia), but still i just feel judged when it comes to be seen from some group of people. I'd love to hear from someone who actually knows what I'm talking about and if they know how to defeat it, i just wanna be myself in every situation, myself, my real self is great and people LOVE it, everytime i show my real self people like it, but i don't know how to take it out most of the times! that's a possible explanation: my father left my mum when i was 6 and my mum got married again with another man that used to make me feel really bad about myself, making me feel inferior, hating me, not wanting me, and she let him doing that because she loved him, until i was 19. I then moved to london, it was my choice, created a new life from 0, now i'm 24, i super improved my social phobia and i can talk to girls and do everything a pua does, but my subconscious still fears groups of people and sometimes i notice i smile in a nervous way due to my problem. So basically I can do crazy stuff but when the environment is calm i feel under pressure and really anxious. I'd really love to hear your suggestion |
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| Author: | Mr. Marville [ Mon Jan 21, 2013 8:49 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: For experts and psychology gurus, please help me |
No need to dig up all the Freudian shit about whatever happened when you were young. Let's see my advice would be to go into a stage-play group. This way you will learn to speak in public and be used to having attention upon you. Also it's a good place to meet girls. |
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| Author: | VanPelt [ Mon Jan 21, 2013 9:18 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: For experts and psychology gurus, please help me |
Quote: No need to dig up all the Freudian shit about whatever happened when you were young. Let's see my advice would be to go into a stage-play group. This way you will learn to speak in public and be used to having attention upon you. Also it's a good place to meet girls.
thankyou for your reply Marville, i've been having attention a lot and it doesn't get better, the reason i wrote this post is that i think the problem is deep inside and i have to find out how to find it and defeat it
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| Author: | Mr. Marville [ Tue Jan 22, 2013 12:11 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: For experts and psychology gurus, please help me |
Then you will end up with a psychiatrist most likely. |
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| Author: | VanPelt [ Tue Jan 22, 2013 12:45 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: For experts and psychology gurus, please help me |
Quote: Then you will end up with a psychiatrist most likely.
yeah and they'd ask me the questions i already answered in the first post, i'm a student and i don't have money for that  and i don't think its the case, i am just hoping someone had my same problem and how did they overcome it
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| Author: | Mr. Marville [ Tue Jan 22, 2013 12:51 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: For experts and psychology gurus, please help me |
Maybe you should start out by earning money then; doubt you will get the answer here. Or order some books by Freud and Jung and start up the process of self-psychologizing. |
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| Author: | AFC AzA [ Tue Jan 22, 2013 3:40 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: For experts and psychology gurus, please help me |
or maybe accept the fact you're nervous in some situations. and learn to live with it? no ones perfect. let it go, loose control. let the chips fall where they may. |
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