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Have you read these books? If you have, how have they helped you? Do you find yourself keeping an improved outlook, confidence, self esteem, and fighting stress?
I'm no book reader, but if they're really THAT good, I just may have to.

Thanks a lot for the insight. You do understand the whole thing and that I want to make a new life. I think about it all the time. And I didn't think my avatar had anything to do with this, but I could say that's just my humorous side.
But there's a dvd on it? What's it like? It worked for you?

Also, what more is there to this meditation that you guys practice?

First read THE SECRET, a book by Rhonda Byrne, AND BELIEVE EVERY
SINGLE THING IT SAYS IN THERE.
In a short time things will get better.

You know, I actually did something like this when I actually sought out to rid my stress earlier in the year. I took stress relief pills during the day and I would turn on ambient music as I was going to sleep. It started to work until I couldn't combat the events that took place.
Where can I watch the video?

Author:	Xasthur [ Fri Sep 07, 2012 4:11 pm ]
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Not sure what can be done here other than my life getting fixed naturally. Some advice may help. I am constantly beating myself up for not talking to girls. I was never too much of a social person, and only have a few friends. One of them I see once every few weeks and refuses to be my wingman should I want to approach. Good example of someone that changed once they got a girlfriend. Anyways, I started to break through social anxiety not too long ago, but still have issues approaching. Sometimes I make a bad impression, something a good one. I think I made 1 full approach a few months ago and that was it. I had a great opener that caught her attention, and then I just dropped it. It didn't bother me though as she wasn't very distracting lol. I know I can make a good impression and am very capable, but I get nervous and screw up. In high school, I had nothing. Asked a girl for her number, got it, never called back. Went to homecoming and left pissed off because I couldn't get a dance. Now, I've been going to a tech school and the courses I take have no girls. Well there WAS one but she was a stupid bitch honestly. She got into a relationship with one of the guys and she lived way too far anyway. Nowadays, I'm full of stress. I know if I had my good talk I once had minus the stress, I might get somewhere. My family is all split up. My house is stressful, lacking in money, food, and enjoyment unless I create it(grandparents). I have one neighbor close to my age and that's it. I am broke with 2 classic cars that just fuckin eat away at my bank account, and now my work is being slow again. Not to mention I have to drive over 50 miles round trip in a gas guzzler muscle car. As I am typing this, I worked a few hours 1 day and I MAY have work in an hour. Long story shirt, the lack of money and credit card debt adds to my stress. Lastly, I only have 1 female connection at the moment. I made a thread about it. She is a few years older than me and we hit it off for a few weeks, and then it died down. I was with her the whole day a couple weeks ago and it just didn't end on a good note. It started good as usual, but she killed my mood a couple times. Haven't heard from her since. I am confident with her when this doesn't happen. I'd say I have a oneitis with her, although I NEVER show it. I never overreact or anything. But my lack of experience may play a part in it and she knows I don't because she talked it out of me lol. I do go to the gym and try my best to be in a good mood, but sometimes it's just like what's the point. Now it took some time and thought typing this up for you guys so I hope you appreciate it because I will appreciate all your responses because I really needed to get this all out somewhere.

Author:	puaninja [ Mon Sep 10, 2012 12:25 pm ]
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It's okay, I'll join in on your pitty party First off, there's no such thing as bitches. There's just women that you didn't game properly. Second, you need to dump your emotional baggage. You put to much thought into seeking women, and you dwell on the negative. Do this, don't focus on the negative at all, and just keep opening as many sets as you can. When you encounter adversity, don't throw yourself another pitty party. Analyze what you did wrong, learn from your mistakes, and be self-correcting.

Author:	dubsteplove [ Tue Sep 11, 2012 5:41 am ]
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Sounds like you do have some problems that are really hurting your game. I would agree that you shouldn't focus on the negative, however this is hard especially since you sound like you are VERY stressed. What I would do is: 1.Meditate, this helps with stress (a lot more than you'd think) 2.Be positive, this one might be hard, but it will help a lot. Since it sounds like you've had it pretty rough with girls in the past, approach more and more women. This will help because your going to have to get good responses and experiences eventually. Plus once you have that you will feel more confident in yourself, and forget about all those other girls because you'll know you have what it takes to attract women. 3.Use the 3 second rule, you see a set you want to open, open it within 3 seconds. That way you can't make excuses and just go for it. Also just a question, what do you mean by "stupid bitch"? I usually call girls this when there actually "stupid bitches" or when I'm just messin around.

Author:	Xasthur [ Tue Sep 11, 2012 2:38 pm ]
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I try all the time to put away the negatives but it just runs through my head all day. I was taking stress pills earlier in the year and then stopped when I had other crap to pay for. Now I can't afford it at the moment. 1. I've never meditated, never looked into it, and I don't know too much about it other than crossing your legs. 2. I just remember her being all clueless and didn't talk to her much. But one day she just cursed at me over something class related. 3. never tried this. sounds like it wouldn't give me enough time to create ideas to say about the woman.

Author:	pokerartist [ Wed Sep 12, 2012 1:04 pm ]
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First read THE SECRET, a book by Rhonda Byrne, AND BELIEVE EVERY SINGLE THING IT SAYS IN THERE. In a short time things will get better. Secondly read Dicarlo's Attraction Code, it will help you see the whole game differently. Frinedly,

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Author:	Xasthur [ Wed Sep 12, 2012 7:24 pm ]
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Have you read these books? If you have, how have they helped you? Do you find yourself keeping an improved outlook, confidence, self esteem, and fighting stress? I'm no book reader, but if they're really THAT good, I just may have to.

Author:	1eye [ Thu Sep 13, 2012 12:39 am ]
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Quote: Have you read these books? If you have, how have they helped you? Do you find yourself keeping an improved outlook, confidence, self esteem, and fighting stress? I'm no book reader, but if they're really THAT good, I just may have to. Hi, watched the dvd of "the secret" instead (if you don't like to read).Belief is one thing and putting it into practice is another.Yes it's about positive thinking but you have to realise there are universal laws in play,many people don't get or understand this that what you think is what you get or create in your reality.I have experienced this phenomena many times.It is real but know that if what you desire is not in line with your spiritual lessons it will not materialise or happen.By lessons meaning if this lifetime you choose to experience certain outcomes the universe will always redirect you to experience it until you learn or get it then you will be ready for another "level" of experience.Most people know it as life or 24/7. The fact that you want help is because you know/recognise your problem and want to move forward with your life.Do not dwell on the negatives,remember what you think is what you get.Life sucks without money,no money ,no honey as they say.It stifles your confidence and becomes a viscious circle.All things come to a halt.So focus on getting or maintaining a job or other opportunities that will generate an income flow.When you have money things can be done, like when you want to date. Meditation is easy,any activity that allows you to have quiet time by yourself, like taking a walk,doing something you enjoy,just ask questions of yourself like "why am I like that" be introspective.As time goes by "answers" will come to you in the form of hunches,synchonicities of people and events.Be alert to things that are out of the ordinary because that's what it takes to change the direction of your life.Be willing to takes risks that random events that provide the opportunities of change.It takes time to recognise these things as you focus on the things you want,desire or visualise would come to be real. PS your avatar is an indication of your desires.Now make it real by slowly changing the way you think about yourself.As they say "change your attitude,change your life". Good luck.

Author:	Xasthur [ Thu Sep 13, 2012 3:25 am ]
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Thanks a lot for the insight. You do understand the whole thing and that I want to make a new life. I think about it all the time. And I didn't think my avatar had anything to do with this, but I could say that's just my humorous side. But there's a dvd on it? What's it like? It worked for you? Also, what more is there to this meditation that you guys practice?

Author:	pokerartist [ Thu Sep 13, 2012 11:16 am ]
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Quote: Have you read these books? If you have, how have they helped you? Do you find yourself keeping an improved outlook, confidence, self esteem, and fighting stress? I'm no book reader, but if they're really THAT good, I just may have to. Yes I've read both. The secret says that everything you wish can come come true as long as you focus your thoughts over and over again on getting it despite any past or present furstration. Presonally it has changed my life entirely. I read it 4 years ago when I was a scared,insecure,18-year-old boy who just got into law school. I used to be afraid of new things, women, I was a virgin, and couldnt get anything going on in my life. Even the fact that I was in law school couldnt make me happy (unlike many others) as it was a forced decision, my parents practically propagandized me to go into law school(my father's a lawyer). I remember being insecure about everuthing. My appearence,how others percieved me,how women percieved,my future,everything. Then when I read it I decided that I have to believe it as my life sucked anyway so I had nothing to lose! Things started to turn around(realized that i shall focus on the positive and not on my insecurities and worries) and I was feeling better and I started to get things I wanted.Of course this doesnt mean that you shall stop fighting and getting better but this knowledge has been the great foundation of a GOOD LIFE.BUT YOU HAVE TO BELIEVE!! I know I got really emotional and got out of topic but I really know how it feels your life to suck and since you asked.... About Attraction Code now, it shows the WAY OF THINKING of someone who wants to be good with women. Just read it you'll see what I mean, you can buy it for 20 dollars in vindicarlo.com And last but not least reading in general is a great way to improve your life. You can read about ideas and experiences that help you form your own ideas. Friendly and honestly wishing you the best

Author:	pokerartist [ Thu Sep 13, 2012 11:20 am ]
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read-some-damn-books-vt141555.html Also found this about reading

Author:	1eye [ Fri Sep 14, 2012 3:26 am ]
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Quote: Thanks a lot for the insight. You do understand the whole thing and that I want to make a new life. I think about it all the time. And I didn't think my avatar had anything to do with this, but I could say that's just my humorous side. But there's a dvd on it? What's it like? It worked for you? Also, what more is there to this meditation that you guys practice? Meditation is taking time from your normal life to sit in a comfortable chair/floor, don't need to cross the legs and breathe deeply for a minute or two to get yourself prepared for quiet time or stillness.Ignore self chatter that come in your head,just let it go by and just "listen and observe" ,do not judge or analyse anything,just be an observer like sitting in a corner and watch life/events pass by.You can also ask a question and "wait' for an answer.Initially you may get no reply but it will come one way or the other.You can sit 5,10,30 minutes or longer,there's no rigid rules as long as you take the time.Before the start of the day or at the end before sleep is what most people practice. It's like you are by a river watching the flow of water,you don't know what it has brought down from the upper stream.If you like, play some soothing music in the backgrough or just a recording of water flowing. I think there's a online movie of the secret at Ms Byrne website. Good luck.

Author:	Xasthur [ Fri Sep 14, 2012 3:39 am ]
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You know, I actually did something like this when I actually sought out to rid my stress earlier in the year. I took stress relief pills during the day and I would turn on ambient music as I was going to sleep. It started to work until I couldn't combat the events that took place. Where can I watch the video?

Author:	dubsteplove [ Fri Sep 14, 2012 4:20 am ]
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Yupp meditating really helps, and you don't need to cross your legs just relax your body, try not to focus on anything leave your mind blank (if you can't just think of one thing and one thing only make it positive). Also I agree that, that one chick is a stupid bitch

Author:	WarlockTim [ Fri Sep 14, 2012 9:52 am ]
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Quote: First read THE SECRET, a book by Rhonda Byrne, AND BELIEVE EVERY SINGLE THING IT SAYS IN THERE. In a short time things will get better. I agree great book. Also google "Anthony robbins rocky" and listen to the story of Sly Stallone and how he got into Hollywood and how many times he got rejected (he even had to sell his dog for money). Great inspiration. ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Always live life to the fullest \| Shy College Student loses Virginity: spam

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Author:	1eye [ Fri Sep 14, 2012 4:25 pm ]
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Quote: You know, I actually did something like this when I actually sought out to rid my stress earlier in the year. I took stress relief pills during the day and I would turn on ambient music as I was going to sleep. It started to work until I couldn't combat the events that took place. Where can I watch the video? http://www.movie2k.to/The-Secret-watch- ... 40602.html Watch it with a pinch of salt. Good luck.