one way to help you fix this is you could force yourself to go out, and force out an soi to 5 random girls a day, you don't have to number close or anything, just for maybe about 1 month, leave your house, go to a mall or something, make it just 5 girls a day, any girl, ugly, good looking, young, old, just simply the first 5 girls you see in a row, walk up to them, and say excuse I know this is random, but I had to let you know that you are cute
from there you can either start a conversation (if you feel comfortable), or just say, well that was all I had to say glad I got that off my chest, and leave
do this for one month 5 girls a day, every day, no excuses, you are not trying for success here, or to obtain anything, so your target selection should be irrelivant, just any girl will do and just say it, say it to any random girl
after a month post up a report on how you feel now about talking to girls, and what has changed, then maybe a new sticking point can be taken care of
on a side note, at first this will probably seem extremely difficult for you (seeing as how you are in freeze up mode), but it will get better, at first it might take you 3 hours just to work up to courage to do 1 approach, but you must force yourself through it, do it just like a chore until you can relax and you find yourself doing it for fun
approaching a stranger and giving them a compliment is sort of like bungee jumping, at first it is pretty scary and it is really hard to work up the courage to do, but after a while you realize it is fun, and you get excited about doing it, then if you take 2 weeks off from bungee jumping, you can still do it, but all of a sudden a new fear has come back and it is sort of scary to start again, I think approach anxiety is fairly similar, when you go out every day, you get excited but not so much anxious as much anymore, just a good adrenaline rush for the first few sets, but the longer you go in between approaches, the more anxiety you will experience,
get out there, make yourself feel uncomfortable until it feels comfortable to be uncomfortable
GOOD LUCK
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but still, you are right because your exercice seems tough. I'll probably try it soon in the bus or the mall