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Author:  Rambotito [ Sun Mar 11, 2012 4:12 am ]
Post subject:  Social Anxiety
hello.. im new here.

i've been suffering from social anxiety through out my all teenage years (since about 14, im 19 now).
I been going to like 5-6 psychologists and cognitive therapists but none of them realy helped me that much.
my condition did get a bit better this year since i met some other people who suffer from social anxiety so i got me some bddies and we somtimes meet up and go drink a beer or somthing.
anyway after years of trying to fight it and all my teens being wasted i turn to pickup as my last resort.
when it comes to females im a fucking cunt.. im scared of them in a fucked up ways.. i think maybe like 50% of the girls i studied with in my highschool class i never spoke a word with.. if they would see me today in the street they would'nt even know who am i.
any tips on how to get started? i went out the other day and decied to ask some girls what time is it.. i managed to ask some but i got realy anxious with the good looking ones and didnt approach them.
i realy have no idea where to start.. help me :P thx
Author:  AmazingArt [ Sun Mar 11, 2012 5:57 am ]
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Ramb your doing a good job already. Your problem is you have low self-esteem SO we need to raise your self-esteem. Right now you think that by coming up and chatting to girls your doing them a favor because they're better than you. The problem with that it's not true. Until you actually find out about the girl you have no idea whether she is better or worse than you. But your self-esteem is pretty low and therefore you perceive it that way. Well let's fix that. The number one thing you have to do in order to fix it is realize that your not perfect and no one is perfect. You are not good at everything but there are things your good at. Take a pen and paper and write a list of things your good at and the things you accomplished in your life. When you finished writing that sheet read it to yourself a few times. At first you might feel sad when reading the sheet but after reading it a few times this feeling will go away. Spend a few minutes every day reading and recognizing your accomplishments. Keep this sheet close to you and if possible when you read this sheet read it out loud. The second thing you should do is, whenever negative thoughts about yourself come into your head repel them. If they tell you you cant do something tell yourself you can. And whenever you accomplish something reward yourself. For example if you lost 5 pounds and this was your goal reward yourself. All of the above things will dramatically improve your self-esteem. All this techniques are not artificial or false or imaginary but rather they're the truth that you don't think about. Good luck!
Author:  Tao of Talk [ Tue Apr 03, 2012 7:31 pm ]
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AmazingArt raises a good point. Come to the realization that all people, in some way shape or form, suffer from Social Anxiety. It may not be crippling or debilitating, since their desire to meet and be around other people outweighs whatever fear they have, and eventually they take the plunge and just start meeting new people. When you realize that you really aren't very different from anyone else, and all people desire to belong to a group, thats the first step -- other people are just like you.

Most of the Social Anxiety that I see people getting stems from a fear of rejection.

As a starting point. I would start a conversation with someone who is paid to provide you some sort of service: my goto people are Hairdressers and Servers at Restaurants. Say "Hi", ask about the weather, about that new movie that just opened (The Hunger Games -- women will talk to you about that movie for hours since it is a Romance Movie disguised as an action movie.)

Since people in the Service Industry have a tested, monetary interest in keeping you happy (You tip them, so their livelihood is quite literally in their hands), they will be more than eager to have a conversation with you to make you happy.

Babysteps.
Author:  seph89 [ Sun Apr 08, 2012 12:37 am ]
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Hey brother,

I would check out seductiveinstinct.com

Lots of great videos on there by my mentor, Arash Dibazar, which are GUARANTEED to supercharge your inner game and help you shatter any limiting beliefs you may have which could be causing your anxiety.

Take a look at some of the videos and let me know what you think. If you have any questions don't hesitate to PM me.

All the best,
Sep
Author:  Black Phantom [ Sun Apr 15, 2012 1:20 pm ]
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Hey man,

the social anxiety can be solved pretty easily. Instead of going directly at the
challenge of social anxiety, meaning dealing with it and trying to slowly remove
it, you can do it instantly by flipping the script on the people you feel anxious about.

What you do is, you imagine the other person having social anxiety, and you sit
back and visualize how this feels. Imagine, how it feels for the other person having
social anxiety around you.

And then try to comfor them- in your mind, while you're visualizing.

There's a technique called the flip, you can get your copy in my signature for free.

Also, if you want help with your social anxiety, I can help you with it, free of charge
of course, I enjoy helping guys like you - I use to have social anxiety also, and
I remember how it felt. Just send me a message under private and we'll talk.

Fantom
Author:  Crypto [ Thu Apr 19, 2012 7:38 pm ]
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Quote:
AmazingArt raises a good point. Come to the realization that all people, in some way shape or form, suffer from Social Anxiety. It may not be crippling or debilitating, since their desire to meet and be around other people outweighs whatever fear they have, and eventually they take the plunge and just start meeting new people. When you realize that you really aren't very different from anyone else, and all people desire to belong to a group, thats the first step -- other people are just like you.

Most of the Social Anxiety that I see people getting stems from a fear of rejection.

As a starting point. I would start a conversation with someone who is paid to provide you some sort of service: my goto people are Hairdressers and Servers at Restaurants. Say "Hi", ask about the weather, about that new movie that just opened (The Hunger Games -- women will talk to you about that movie for hours since it is a Romance Movie disguised as an action movie.)

Since people in the Service Industry have a tested, monetary interest in keeping you happy (You tip them, so their livelihood is quite literally in their hands), they will be more than eager to have a conversation with you to make you happy.

Babysteps.
Effing Brilliant! I used this same approach several years ago...Talk to the people you are forced to talk to anyhow (Waitresses, Bank tellers, Doctors, Cashiers, etc.) People don't typically bite your head off for saying "Hi"!
Author:  Bennett99 [ Mon May 14, 2012 5:07 pm ]
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