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Author:  kenbarlow23 [ Sat Jan 21, 2012 10:10 pm ]
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Hey guys, somethings been playing around in my head for a bit and I was always told it's better to share it than keep it inside.

We've all been there, we can act all confident around girls that we've just met or kind of know but then that one girl comes along and you're blown away. Needless to say, I really like this girl but she has a boyfriend. I've tried not to get too attatched because I've been down that road before.

To cut a long story short, I like her and i'm not sure if she likes me but she phones me if we're about to meet up in a big group, we text eachother now and again. But on the other hand, we all got drunk together and one of my buddies got REALLY drunk and he kissed her.

Should I tell her I like her? And how?

Sorry for the pretty long post but buggering fuck it feels good to get it off my chest.
Author:  kalamansi [ Sun Jan 22, 2012 12:03 am ]
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don't tell her right away. It will go downhill if you are not sure she feels the same way. I remember when girls tell me they like me and I didn't feel the same way. We never spoke again. I say you should hang with her for a bit more and make comments that indirectly say that you like her. Don't go up to her and say, "I like you". not the best idea if you really don't want to mess this up.
Author:  kenbarlow23 [ Wed Jan 25, 2012 11:29 pm ]
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Appreciate the response my dude!
So how can I let her know through actions? Bearing in mind she has a boyfriend. The last thing I want to do is make her feel uncomfortable.

I spoke to a friend and she said I should take her to one side and go for a kiss. Surely that would make it awkward and potentially ruin everything.

What you think guys?
Author:  iTwitch [ Thu Jan 26, 2012 4:34 am ]
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Personally if a woman is telling you to go for it then go for it! A wise person once told me if your not prepared to lose someone over words or an action stop now! Because it could be to late.

Imagine this so she's with a guy right and she could split anytime, imagine if she dis and jumps on the rebound or into another guys arms. It's likely that guy has told her that he really likes her while she's been in that relationship.

Take it from a guy that's made this mistake twice by waiting to long just say "I really enjoy being around you and wondering if you want to be more than friends?" If she really is your friend she will still be your friend regardless of the outcome.

It sucks I know but 100% of the decisions we don't make through anxiety we regret if you don't get what you want move on she's likely to come around just do it!

- iTwitch
Author:  kenbarlow23 [ Thu Jan 26, 2012 10:15 pm ]
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Thanks guys,

I apprecite the responses and I'm taking in what you're both saying. I suppose there's no definite way of knowing how she feels, and hey she might be feeling the same way.

We're going out Saturday with our social group (I don't really call it that but I didn't know what else to put) and might just take her to one side and tell her.

Wish me luck!
Author:  trex1024 [ Mon Jan 30, 2012 12:49 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Do I let her know?
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Hey guys, somethings been playing around in my head for a bit and I was always told it's better to share it than keep it inside.

We've all been there, we can act all confident around girls that we've just met or kind of know but then that one girl comes along and you're blown away. Needless to say, I really like this girl but she has a boyfriend. I've tried not to get too attatched because I've been down that road before.

To cut a long story short, I like her and i'm not sure if she likes me but she phones me if we're about to meet up in a big group, we text eachother now and again. But on the other hand, we all got drunk together and one of my buddies got REALLY drunk and he kissed her.

Should I tell her I like her? And how?

Sorry for the pretty long post but buggering fuck it feels good to get it off my chest.
may i ask how old this girl is? to be honest mate, from what you have posted, one of your buddies had beaten you to her while she had a boyfriend. you just need to ask yourself if this is the sort of woman you want to get associated with. i say this because i was in the exact same position as you not so long ago and you WILL loose her if you go in there with guns blazing. just take a step back and keep your other options open and learn from my mistakes. i barely talk to her but now that i think about it and im glad that nothing happened because i wouldn't want to live in paranoia that one-day someone else in your buddy's situation may get in there.
Author:  kenbarlow23 [ Tue Jan 31, 2012 11:21 pm ]
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Thanks for the advice man.

To be honest it's really not how I roll going in with all guns blazing so we're okay with that. She's 20 and been with her bf for 2 years but apparently he's cheated on her alot.
My buddy gets really forward when he's drunk too. He's like the creepy rapey type when he drinks. Never a good thing.
Author:  Shyy [ Tue Jan 31, 2012 11:37 pm ]
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Don't tell her, show her. Actions speak louder than words.

Plus you get better results

~Goodluck
Author:  RedHoTChilliPeppers [ Wed Feb 01, 2012 9:42 pm ]
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Yeas I agree men ACTIONS speaks LOUDER than words. Show her that you like her and let see what will happen.
Author:  kenbarlow23 [ Mon Feb 13, 2012 10:49 pm ]
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Thanks for the feedback guys!

What kind of actions would you say? We are both into our dancing so maybe when we're out next I build kino that way.
Author:  kenstheman01 [ Mon Feb 13, 2012 11:20 pm ]
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Your already attached if you're afraid of loosing her. Try being more care free and not worry about what she thinks. Never tell a girl exactly how you feel, unless your in a relationship with them. Be mysterious not to sound cliche. Give indirect answers, and most importantly HAVE A GOOD TIME when you're around her, and make sure she's having a good time as well. Witty, funny, sexual all that jazz.
Author:  kenbarlow23 [ Fri Feb 17, 2012 3:23 pm ]
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Okay gents, time for an update on the sitch...

Everything is going okay, I'm not sure whether she likes me or not but she knows I like her.

How did this happen I hear you ask?
Well, here's the fuck up- MY BUDDY tells me he likes her! WHAT THE FUCK!

Back to the night...
We're dancing in the club getting pretty close and I know she's feeling it. Then we go to the bar and she shows me something peresonal and I can see she's upset so we go to another room and she starts crying so I hold her. I think she just needs a break from everything.

I don't know what to do guys. That's why I'm here, I'm usually giving advice but could really do with some here.

Peace
x
Author:  maleaco [ Sun Feb 19, 2012 6:08 am ]
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Stop making a big deal out of things :) Youll be fine
Author:  kenbarlow23 [ Sun Feb 19, 2012 9:04 pm ]
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You're definitely right there mate.

Maybe I am over thinking it. I always do. I even over think breakfast.

Thanks bro
Author:  yellowcab [ Fri Mar 23, 2012 12:11 pm ]
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It depends,

if she has been dating her bf for a while and they are happy.
Don't fuck that up... seriously.

Plently of singles out there. If you end up sleeping with her and she dumps her boyfriend. She will do the same on you with someone else later on.
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