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| Author: | billmincersucks [ Wed Jan 18, 2012 1:35 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Terrible approach anxiety |
Well before I tell my story, I have had success with women. Great 2 year plus relationship that almost led to marriage and several other intimate and sexual encounters, so I've been there and done that. But almost shouldn't have. First off I'm a huge introvert and my major problem is that I'm basically terrified and try to avoid social contact. It's been killing me when I'm out lately. It's not just girls. Take work for example, half the time I'm nervous to confront my supervisor because I worry about a negative outcome, and when I do I'm offen stuttering or nervous in my voice. In a bar or party, I'll usually just hang out by myself and look for my close friends, the few people I'm comfortable opening up and talking to. I dunno what it is..almost like this huge shield around me that I can't break out of, but it sucks...and like I said despite that I have had success in life with girls and have a good job..but I know I can do more and it hurts me when I think about it. I was on a date this past Sunday, spent a couple hours hanging out with this cutie in a casino, but I don't think I'm getting a 2nd date..why, because I didn't make any moves. Of course I hugged her at the end of the date..more like hugged her goodbye. I'm not a kid either, I'm 29 going on 30..is there any hope for me? |
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| Author: | mr.fathat [ Wed Jan 18, 2012 9:51 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Terrible approach anxiety |
You sound like how I felt not all that long ago. You have to find someway of getting through this funk. There's no magic key or potion that will get you through this but when you can approach anyone in the bar, life becomes more exciting and enjoyable. I worked through my fears and it's hard for me to put them into words but my biggest problem was my ego. I didn't want it to get hurt, even though it was nothing to be proud of, I still felt a need to protect it. When I learned to drop my ego and control my mind, everything just fell into place. I'm still working on it. 25 years of awful social programming is hard to reverse but it's possible and helps in so many other aspects of life. The only person who can help you is you. |
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