Fear of success(part of a post by Cedar about Aproach Anxiety)
Quote:
I'm a busy guy. So's my wife. She works part time on
weekends and evenings. My son has a martial arts class a few nights a week. If I hit the
bar this Thursday and timebridge a girl, I don't have much of a window in which to see her.
I'm close to closing an LTR for me and the wife. She'll take a chunk of our time. What if I
find a second one at the bar? When will I have time for a Day 2 or for anything more long
term? Where will I find time for all these girls?
Easy. DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT. What a lame fucking excuese NOT to approach. I won't
talk to a girl because there's a 1% chance she might become my girlfriend? Focus on the
process.
You don't have to timebridge the girl. And even if she's your thing, there's a good chance
you'll fuck it up. I've met hundreds of women. And a dozen of those were completely my
type. Totally compatible.
Am I upset I couldn't close them? A little. But I keep finding more. 2000 women turn 21 (or
any other age) EVERY DAY in this country. Don't worry about fucking it up with one girl.
Focus on learning from that girl so you don't fuck up the next one.
This kind of anxiety is all about outcome dependance. Don't worry about where the sarge
goes. Worry about how well you sarge. Doesn't matter if you get a bullseye on the
shooting range once in a while. Make it happen EVERY time.
The answer my friend is DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT. Chill out and you ll be fine weekends and evenings. My son has a martial arts class a few nights a week. If I hit the
bar this Thursday and timebridge a girl, I don't have much of a window in which to see her.
I'm close to closing an LTR for me and the wife. She'll take a chunk of our time. What if I
find a second one at the bar? When will I have time for a Day 2 or for anything more long
term? Where will I find time for all these girls?
Easy. DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT. What a lame fucking excuese NOT to approach. I won't
talk to a girl because there's a 1% chance she might become my girlfriend? Focus on the
process.
You don't have to timebridge the girl. And even if she's your thing, there's a good chance
you'll fuck it up. I've met hundreds of women. And a dozen of those were completely my
type. Totally compatible.
Am I upset I couldn't close them? A little. But I keep finding more. 2000 women turn 21 (or
any other age) EVERY DAY in this country. Don't worry about fucking it up with one girl.
Focus on learning from that girl so you don't fuck up the next one.
This kind of anxiety is all about outcome dependance. Don't worry about where the sarge
goes. Worry about how well you sarge. Doesn't matter if you get a bullseye on the
shooting range once in a while. Make it happen EVERY time.
