This is the result of ego. I have it quite strong too and it's fucking annoying. We create an internal delusional image of ourselves that we fool ourselves into believing that makes us feel superior to others.
A healthy level of ego is good for you but if the ego is too strong as I suspect it is in your case we start to act in ways that are not truly beneficial to us, we exhibit behaviours that are only useful in protecting our ego.
For example, you see a girl at a bar and your first reaction is, "Oh, she looks nice, I should approach." Then ego steps in immediately. "Actually she is only a 7, I'm too good for her." or "She is dancing to Britney Spears, she has no taste in music, she is a retard and I am too good for her."
I think a large part of approach anxiety is ego protection. Rejection hurts the ego more anything.
A strong ego is usually a result of a feeling of inferiority. We are more concerned about protecting our bullshit self-image than we are of taking action to truly grow.
Basically to kill the ego you have to ignore it and stay present, (stop over-analysing). You need to learn to express yourself from the heart and allow yourself to become vulnerable.
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I really cant tell if i have approach anxiety or i am a jerk. When i see a woman i would like to approah most of the times i feel that i am so better (more useful) than her that is a favour to her if i go to her and approach her. This makes me do not go for the approach and i feel that if she rejects me she is really stupid and bitch. When i meet any woman i automatically feel any negative emotion that see has and this ruins my game. I dont like any woman in the end, and i know that this is my mistake. Then i hate myself for this very very much. I want to stop this and be normal. Is there anyone who feels like this and has find a solution?