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Author:  IronmanJC [ Wed Jun 16, 2010 8:24 am ]
Post subject:  Need Help, Girl has me confused, Oneitis...
This was my post from yahoo answers, although all of those answers were basically dribble. Please let me know what you all think I should do.
SPAM, I'm about to do the AFC stuff! Gulp!
Take her out for dinner at a vegetarian place because she is a vegetarian, let her cook me dinner tonight, actually turned out pretty good.

I have known this girl for about 5 weeks, and have been "seeing her" but not dating for just about that whole time.
The first time I met her, I was making out with her, on the 2nd time we "hung-out" (spent the night at a rave, drug free,) I had her topless after we were alone.
I had her over at my house today, we "watched a movie" but ended up grinding and making out for 2 hours.
I want to have sex with her, and date her. She is the awesome-est girl a guy could ever want, beautiful, amazing body, and best of all she is the nicest person in the world, helps fund raise for charities all the time.
She is 2 years younger than me, and has only had 1 boyfriend, for 2 years, and only had sex with that guy, and has been separated form him for 2.5 months. She is NOT still attracted to him.
She told me she likes me, and that if she liked me more we would have already have had sex, and that she is still deciding whether she likes me enough.
There is obvious attraction between us, but she is also a very busy girl, between friends and family, I have to literally take a number and book a day or date with her a week in advance.
We have good chemistry and are both attracted to each other, so it is a mystery to me why this hasn't happened yet. Are there any ideas on how I can get myself into that zone, where I can date this girl and have sex with her?

Seems to me like some serious LMR that has turned into her "doubting if she likes me enough for sex". Thoughts?

P.S. No I don't just want sex from this amazing girl, I want a relationship, however it is my experience as well as nearly every man I have talked to that relationships that start after sex last much longer, as the girl gets "hooked" on you emotionally.
Author:  vizzy [ Thu Jun 17, 2010 12:50 am ]
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Sounds to me like you're already "dating" her in a sense.
Thats how many relationships start, just "hanging out".

You've been making out with her, you got her topless. I mean...what are you expecting from her? YOU have to make the move!
It wouldn't be a turn on to either of you if this girl acts like the man and dominates you would it? absolutely not! (unless she's a dominatrix..but from what you told me I doubt it :lol: ).

Next time you're making out, just start moving your hands downwards.

She's saying she's attracted to you. What more do you need?
Author:  IronmanJC [ Thu Jun 17, 2010 7:33 pm ]
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No this is the thing, I have done that, I have tried to take her pants off, believe me I know how that works. Haha. But she is basically telling me that she doesn't know if she likes me enough for sex, she said that if she liked me more we would have already had sex.

We talk pretty openly about sex, and we have a bet on about who can last longer, I keep saying "when" we have sex, but she keeps saying "if" we do.

Is this a case of "Not yet"?
Author:  vizzy [ Fri Jun 18, 2010 1:19 am ]
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No this is the thing, I have done that, I have tried to take her pants off, believe me I know how that works. Haha. But she is basically telling me that she doesn't know if she likes me enough for sex, she said that if she liked me more we would have already had sex.

We talk pretty openly about sex, and we have a bet on about who can last longer, I keep saying "when" we have sex, but she keeps saying "if" we do.

Is this a case of "Not yet"?
hmm..tricky..

This could just be a test from her. Maybe she wants to see whether it's just sex you're after.

Or she could just be playing games with you.

Or maybe she really is just waiting to see if she "like you more".

To me I think it's one of the first two.

However it is all just how you interpret it. I reckon wait a lil longer and see how it plays out.
Author:  IronmanJC [ Fri Jun 18, 2010 5:34 am ]
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Yep I think you're right.
I don't think she is playing games with me although that's still a possibility.
Gonna start being a little sweeter than just the usual teasing and stuff.
Although not going down the whole flowers and chocolate AFC road.

Got a killer date planned too, and if I don't try anything afterward then I should be able to eliminate the first option.

Totally a good idea, and feel free to use it
She is vegetarian so I found a local restaurant/café that is family owned,
(the place is a really unique and cool one, used to be a bicycle repair shop, see link at bottom)
and I talked the owner/chef into giving us a lesson in vegetarian and vegan cuisine
so we get to cook our own meal with some assistance then chow down, and head to the beach just 3 blocks away for a evening walk with some ice cream.

bikeshopcafeandcatering "DOT" com
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