From a scientific point of view masturbation is totally ok and even healthy. Its all about how you frame the activity and what values you give it. And of course there's always too much of a good thing.
I'm willing to share some of my experiences to demonstrate how I learned to make it work to my advantage.
If you feel guily about masturbating it will affect your mood and all your interactions with others. I can remember times I used to promise myself I wouldn't do it for a week, it happened too soon and I couldn't look anyone in the face all day cuz I felt ashamed.
Flashback a few years earlier I would fap like 6 times a day in high school. I didn't really care cus I never thought I would get laid. In addition to the negative psychological effects coming from this perspective, all that masturbating gave me a low energy heart rate and I would get out of breath running a short distance. No wonder my cross country race time slowed down 2 minutes from freshman to sophomore year.
Now let me introduce my present frame and practice of masturbation: It is no longer a way to lust after something I can't have; it is preparation for what I have yet to experience with a woman. I never feel the need to do it, I don't look forward to it and I never plan on it, and I'm comfortable enough with myself that I don't need to try to stop it... it just happens naturally. Its not a coping mechanism for my lack of sex; its something I do to replenish my man juice and boost my sexual energy and sexual confidence.
On average 2-3 times a week, with the occasional double play or taking a week off. I try all different positions and techniques, often using a ghetto condom and simulating sex rather than just touching myself in front of the computer/showerhead.
You have to sort of get a feel for it yourself but if you're eating healthy andf haven't laid in a while you can sense when its advantageous to masturbate to increase your life energy. When I go out or go to sleep afterwards it feels like I just had sex. Even though I'm still a virgin the subconscious mind doesn't differentiate between f***ing and faping. And I let it take over.
Reason why the community discourages it is why fap when you can f***? Cus with the wrong mindset it will kill your motivation to go for a !close if you masturbated recently or you feel like you could always just go home and fap to porn if you don't get laid.
2 other common arguments are if your hands do most of the work you will be more accustomed to playing a flute than poking a cat, and of course the logic that in the time spent on one masturbation you could literally meet a new bedbuddy.
On an interesting note Neil Strauss wrote that he's faped or f***ed at least once a day as long as he can remember: In <i>Rules of the Game</i> he tried an experiment where he goes 10 days without ejaculating. It fails: resulting in useless public masturbation.
When we met Neil Strauss at Borders a random person in the audience asked if its better to masturbate before you go on a day2 or wait until afterwards if you still need to. He had us vote on it: The majority and I recommended not masturbating close to day2s. It makes sense cuz you save the (maximum potential orgasm of the day) for the real performance. Id even say at least 2 days b4 a day 2 start conserving. This wouldn't apply if your already !buddies and would do it every day if you happen upon it.
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) also make sure its not too hot caution burning your pud is no fun. Slap that bady boy on and see how long you can last if your going to beat off so infrequently make it worth your while and simulate sex or at lest poonany. A bonus youll get your vitamins 