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Author:  Loverman469 [ Wed Apr 15, 2015 1:22 am ]
Post subject:  Re-ignite a friendship maybe more or just move on?
Erm...well, where to start? I met this girl during University Freshers Week, not so sure what you guys over in the US call it. The week/s where you get to know everyone at College. So, I started talking to her during a party and used some kino and built levels of attraction. Few days later, it's another party and she comes to my room to "watch" a TV show. Next thing she's talking about her current boyfriend and how she's not satisfied with her relationship. She moves from my chair onto the other side of my bed, to pulling a pillow and laying right next to me. She looks me in the eyes and then just kisses me. After she says, "I don't usually do this. Don't tell anyone!".

As the weeks go on, we're spending time with each other and texting back and forth constantly. Whenever we were away from Uni we were still texting and FaceTiming. This one memory I still strongly have is where she was with her, now, ex-boyfriend and she says how "She's constantly thinking about me"

Anyway, getting closer to the point. We're out celebrating a friends birthday and she kisses one of my friends in front of me and all my other friends. She tells me how she falls for a guy who pays her attention. I tell her to sort herself out and if anything happens to us again, then it happens. As time goes on, I meet a few girls and she's meeting guys. But, here's the point that I can't get my mind around. I feel like she has to know I'm still going to talk with her even after what she did. She always gives me glances(you know) and if I'm not in full sight she'd make sure she has the right angle to see me.

I haven't had a full conversation with her for months, but I see her nearly every day and it's just a small hello or I just blank her. She's currently seeing/friends with benefits with this guy and I don't know whether I should try speaking with her and building a friendship again or just leave her to do her own thing.

So my main question to my brothers: Do I try re-ignite and old flame when she's sorta seeing someone or just move on?
Author:  CountRedRover [ Wed Apr 15, 2015 6:16 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Re-ignite a friendship maybe more or just move on?
If you are comfortable enough to fuck her, knowing she is fucking someone who I'm assuming you know, go for it.
Author:  Loverman469 [ Wed Apr 15, 2015 9:26 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Re-ignite a friendship maybe more or just move on?
I'm not good friends with the guy, just know him a little from Uni. She told me that she liked me because I was outgoing, confident and I could always make her laugh. I wanna speak to her, but there's something holding me back. If I was to go for it, how could I approach it. Would the "Strawman" work?
Author:  CountRedRover [ Wed Apr 15, 2015 8:08 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Re-ignite a friendship maybe more or just move on?
Approach her like you were approaching her for the first time. Be direct "Hey you look hot as hell today. I just had to come over and say hi" or something along those lines. Then carry on with normal conversation "so what you been up to" etc. then set up a time to see her again, if she can't, don't be needy, just say "ok." I think you have a little anxiety built up because you are afraid she will reject you etc. And I don't remember what the straw man technique is, but just be open and honest with her and you should be good.
Author:  CharlesFinley [ Thu Apr 16, 2015 1:28 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Re-ignite a friendship maybe more or just move on?
You don't want a relationship with this girl, do you? Hopefully this is just FWB you're after.

She's a guaranteed cheat. Red flags everywhere.
Author:  Loverman469 [ Thu Apr 16, 2015 5:29 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Re-ignite a friendship maybe more or just move on?
After what happened, nooooo! But, I just kinda wanna speak to the girl without things being awkward and see if I could hit off a FWB kinda thing again.
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Thu Apr 16, 2015 7:11 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Re-ignite a friendship maybe more or just move on?
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She looks me in the eyes and then just kisses me. After she says, "I don't usually do this. Don't tell anyone!".
I'm confused, you didn't fuck her at this juncture?
Author:  Loverman469 [ Thu Apr 16, 2015 8:14 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Re-ignite a friendship maybe more or just move on?
Yeah, then we kept talking/fucking and hanging out for a while. Then the rest happened.
Author:  Loverman469 [ Mon May 25, 2015 3:24 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Re-ignite a friendship maybe more or just move on?
Gentlemen, things have changed since I've been back. I haven't spoken to her properly, just the odd "Hey" here and there. However, one night around midnight, we had a small text conversation that went like this:

Her: "Hey, could you open up the door to your floor" (So she can get to the floor next to mine)
Me: "Yeah sure. Are you outside now?"
Her: "No worries, it was already open. Thank you anyway"
Me: "No worries"
- UNEXPECTED -
Her: "How are you anyway?"
Me : "Nothing much, just chillin' and revising. What you been up to?"
Her: "Aww good :) Yeah, same really"
Her: "How was your Easter?"

I just went to to say how it was great and how I was tired and if I could text her tomorrow to catch up. She said, "Aww good :) No worries, speak to you tomorrow :)"

Now I'm lost. I was supposed to text her about 3-4 days ago, but I was unsure on how to start it. I have a strong feeling that she was drunk the night she text me. Do I start the conversation again? If so, how do I start and keep it going?
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