Sorry but I didnt know exactly where I should post this, but let me give you a (quick) back story.
A girl that I have some mutual friends with on Facebook kept liking whatever comments I would write on my friends status updates. So after the 5th time, I decide to add her just for shits and mess around with her to have some fun. We talked a bit but that was all it ever was.
Fast forward 3 months later, and I see her at uni. (I had never seen her prior to this). I reintroduced myself and she remembered me and we started talking a bit. Tried to follow the Emotional Progression model on her but I think I could have done better (in other words I connected with her more than attract her, but I certainly did both) 10 minutes later and I get her number
Then we texted that night and she was giving me some sort of resistance, but in a slightly playful way.
(Bunch of pointless BS before)...
Me: Of all the (name) I know youre def. the cutest :p
Her: Hahaha should i take this as a compliment? :p
Me: Hahaha. Got anything for tomorrow?
Her: Hmm I got free time at 12:30-2
Me: Im meeting up with some friends, cool people only! So youre obviously not invited :p But Ill make an exception THIS TIME ONLY :p
Her: Hmm no thx i dnt need you to do anything for me (at this point I was like wtf??)
Me: Hahah aww how sweet :p Srsly though come hang out with us
Her: Yeaa you wlndt believe how sweet I am :p but i dnt wanna come
(Some playful teasing and shit from me. She rejected once more in this period)
Me: Anw gd talking to you but i gtg. Ill be in the cafeteria tomorrow
Her: Hmm okay ill come after all. See you tomorrow!
(Now here Im super fkn confused. She was rejecting the whole time and now all of a sudden she wants to come?)So she ended up coming on time (was expecting a flake tbh) and we hung out with some friends for an hour (they DHVd me, God bless) and I took her to a more private area and we sat down me and her. Plenty of teasing coming her way, but I kept the frame I had established. Plenty of eye contact from her. However, she was kind of acting 'not interested' (but from her body language I could tell she was a little bit) We said goodbye and kissed on the cheek.
So heres the real question: What the flying fuck is going on? Here is a breakdown of her behavior:
Signs I think shes attracted:
- Shes giving me *subtle* IOIs (strong eye contact, asking personal questions, laughs at lame jokes)
- She agreed to go with me the next day (I said 'hang out with friends' so I dont know if this counts)
- She teases me heaps (comments on my overall attitude)
Signs I think shes playing hard to get:
- She tells me she doesnt know me enough yet
- She gives me hints that she wants to talk about something and when I go with it, she backs out
- She gives me monosyllable answers (Yea, Sure, Ok) (When I point this out to her, she laughs)
- She kept stating she didnt want to hang out in the cafeteria and right when I was leaving the convo she agrees :/
Signs I think shes crazy:
- Said she wanted to unfriend me on Facebook because I told her to stop changing her profile pic
- She hints about 'some guy' thats making her feel depressed (I didnt even bother replying to her when she said that bcz I knew she would say she doesnt know me enough yet)
- She tells me she has 'no idea why shes not nice to me' (Hinting about how she gives me one word answers, makes open comments about irrelevant shit, and other stuff I cant remember)
So heres the million dollar question: Is this girl playing hard to get, or is she just having fun? Shes a definite 9 for me (some self esteem issues Im guessing is making her perceive herself less, she commented on how she looks better in photos and not as nice in real life)
Ive only known her for 2 days. not counting FB, but Im usually pretty good at reading people by that time. But due to her mixed signals, I really dont know. Your insight would be very much appreciated.
Thanks for reading!
