Well, it's not impossible. Don't go with your option 2, putting yourself voluntarily deeper into the friendzone isn't going to make it better.
My advice is to take some distance off her, then go out there and build your inner game - Go couchsurfing, meet new people, start a new hobby or something. Build some status, get value (as mentioned above) and grow. Yeah, get options, see other women and make sure you have the pics or it didn't happen. Go abroad and game some there.
Then after a while get back to her and work it like a battering ram; Tell her it's all or nothing now, you want her. Say how much you thought of her and what it means to you. You're willing to give it all you've got, make sure she understand that.
As you've taken your sweet time away from her, if she has had underlying feelings, they've come up as you haven't been around and she has had to work on them - women think. Don't cut all ties (facebewks or other contact methods) but avoid replying to her messages as much as possible - You aren't ignoring her, you're busy with an awesome life with your awesome self, if you do decide to reply, make her wait her sweet time and keep it short, don't reveal too much. Also time is precious nowadays.
Puaninja got the hang of it though, duct tape and chloroform, I like your style. Heheh, it's a decent plan B as long as it doesn't come to that.
In short, you should go with your number 1.
Have you considered that maybe she doesn't want to be single just for the sake of being single - Maybe she is afraid of being hurt. You might want to keep this in mind when rekindling attraction. I think it was Osho who said something in the lines of; "One should love in a way that the other feels free."
Just my two cents.
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