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| Author: | TXkrush [ Fri Jun 01, 2012 5:31 am ] |
| Post subject: | One-itis.....I need to break this habit |
Hey guys, I have only been trying to run game for about three weeks almost and I got in touch with this girl I slept with about a year ago. After some research and a lot of reading I realize I was supplicating way too much! I think that turned her off in the past so I think this is why I couldnt keep her hooked. She just all of a sudden stopped seeing me and it really hit my ego. I had a conversation last night with her, after two weeks of facebook and text / email game, (I swear I used, cocky funny, NLP, DHV stories, EVERYTHING) and she agreed to meet me Sunday for a date. My thing is, me and this girl have history. She was like the third girl I ever slept with and I was like her 3rd so there is comfort. Then she ended up with my best friend and now thats her baby daddy. I am no longer friends with him and have not been for years now. But the last time (a year ago) I was seeing her I ended up getting the one-itis like I always do with the girl just because I slept with her. I dont want to fall into this trap again so I am wondering if anyone has any suggestions. I am about 90% sure I can get the lay on sunday because of the way we have been flirting but I dont want to get one-itis again and I still want to keep her as a booty call. Any suggestions? |
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| Author: | pumpington [ Fri Jun 01, 2012 9:24 am ] |
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suggestions: get more female options, give instead of take, realize you are good enough to get the girl already without any gimmicks, realize happiness is an emotional state, you can be happy just because you want to be and it won't come as a result of achieving some sort of end or getting something from someone/something, keep yourself less invested in people neediness is at the root of the problem, supplication is just a form of seeking approval, and seeking approval and seeking reactions are the result of being needy, you have to work on your neediness, search out some posts on neediness and how to deal with it needing that close, needing that girl, not being happy unless you get something or achieve some sort of end (or believing doing so will make you happy), you don't believe you are complete yet so you have to do/say things to get her interest, it never feels like enough, doesn't matter if she is eating out of your hand you need more and more good reactions, eventually, girl gets turned off you are good enough, you don't need to put on an act, kiss her ass, or be rude to get the girl, you just have to be yourself and not hide who you are (this doesn't mean be an open book and fully disclose everything about yourself, that would be investing yourself into other people, what I mean is directly communicate and allow yourself to showcase your personality without censorship or holding back, hide nothing) GOOD LUCK |
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| Author: | TXkrush [ Sat Jun 02, 2012 2:38 am ] |
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Pumpington, Great advice I will look into that. I think you hit the nail on the head. I will check some of the other forums on this. I know its a habit and I need to break it. Thanks again. |
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| Author: | Don Solo [ Sat Jun 16, 2012 1:51 pm ] |
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Quote: suggestions: get more female options, give instead of take, realize you are good enough to get the girl already without any gimmicks, realize happiness is an emotional state, you can be happy just because you want to be and it won't come as a result of achieving some sort of end or getting something from someone/something, keep yourself less invested in people
Great post
neediness is at the root of the problem, supplication is just a form of seeking approval, and seeking approval and seeking reactions are the result of being needy, you have to work on your neediness, search out some posts on neediness and how to deal with it needing that close, needing that girl, not being happy unless you get something or achieve some sort of end (or believing doing so will make you happy), you don't believe you are complete yet so you have to do/say things to get her interest, it never feels like enough, doesn't matter if she is eating out of your hand you need more and more good reactions, eventually, girl gets turned off you are good enough, you don't need to put on an act, kiss her ass, or be rude to get the girl, you just have to be yourself and not hide who you are (this doesn't mean be an open book and fully disclose everything about yourself, that would be investing yourself into other people, what I mean is directly communicate and allow yourself to showcase your personality without censorship or holding back, hide nothing) GOOD LUCK |
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| Author: | TXkrush [ Sat Jun 16, 2012 11:57 pm ] |
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Quote: suggestions: get more female options, give instead of take, realize you are good enough to get the girl already without any gimmicks, realize happiness is an emotional state, you can be happy just because you want to be and it won't come as a result of achieving some sort of end or getting something from someone/something, keep yourself less invested in people
Message me if you are ever in Houston, TX. I freakin owe you a beer or something...neediness is at the root of the problem, supplication is just a form of seeking approval, and seeking approval and seeking reactions are the result of being needy, you have to work on your neediness, search out some posts on neediness and how to deal with it needing that close, needing that girl, not being happy unless you get something or achieve some sort of end (or believing doing so will make you happy), you don't believe you are complete yet so you have to do/say things to get her interest, it never feels like enough, doesn't matter if she is eating out of your hand you need more and more good reactions, eventually, girl gets turned off you are good enough, you don't need to put on an act, kiss her ass, or be rude to get the girl, you just have to be yourself and not hide who you are (this doesn't mean be an open book and fully disclose everything about yourself, that would be investing yourself into other people, what I mean is directly communicate and allow yourself to showcase your personality without censorship or holding back, hide nothing) GOOD LUCK I have taken your advice and feel like my confidence and point of view has taken a 360 degree turn for the better. After a failed f-close date with the girl I was thinking I might get one-itis with, I was feeling a little rejected and wanted to call her and kept looking at her facebook status and kept texting her and calling. After I read what you wrote I looked for more options, and found them. After a two year drought I finally got a lay last night. I dont even feel the need to be with the girl I was with last night again. I think I am beginning to see the bigger picture and realizing there are many options out there, even for a guy like me! Can you point me to the posts on neediness and such? I was having a hard time finding the right forum but regardless, I feel that I am making great strides in this area. I want to make sure I stay on the right track. Your advice is priceless. I appreciate all the feedback man. Thanks! |
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