PUA Forum
https://pick-up-artist-forum.com/

This is not for newbies. WHAT IS THE #1 SECRET TO PUA?
https://pick-up-artist-forum.com/viewtopic.php?f=39&t=135670		 Page 1 of 1
Author:  killermunkyz [ Sat May 12, 2012 4:00 am ]
Post subject:  This is not for newbies. WHAT IS THE #1 SECRET TO PUA?
This is not for newbies. WHAT IS THE #1 SECRET TO PUA?

I want to hear from people with 300+ reputation points and at least 3+ votes, if you feel so inclined moderators, and if by the love of GOD you would feel willing to bless this humble post, the genuine master PUAs. I think this is a question all of us would like to know the answer to (if not the answers).

Personally, I know there is no magic pill. I'm not looking for that. I'm looking for what you think is the one key thing that if you DON'T have it you will not EVER succeed with women. I know that everyone has an opinion and there is more than one right answer to this. I want to hear them all. But you only get to pick one thing. No top 10 lists, though those would be helpful too in another post :).

I'm currently developing my own system, so this is very important to me. I am trying everything... literally every method or theory. So far I've tested alot! I've been doing this 9 years. I had few results until this year. There's a couple big reasons for that but it will require another post! My results so far have been minimal in comparison to other PUAs, but to me it's a huge change! I could not do cold approaches until this year, much less cold approaches that ended in actually getting what I went looking for. Part of this success was the discovery of this forum, PUA videos on youtube, and growing the balls to finally get off the PC set up some ridiculous goals and go out and field test everything I know and learn.

So far I've tested using canned routines vs observational openers, NLP and Speed Seduction vs Mystery Method, DHV vs natural game, negging vs cocky funny teasing, direct vs indirect, day vs night, targeting one type of woman vs targeting all kinds of women, being a jerk vs being a nice guy, verbal game vs nonverbal game, warm vs cold, high energy vs low, inner game vs outer game, snl vs day 2s, online game vs cold pick up, text game vs phone game, and inner circle vs outer circle... and the list goes on. I can't remember everything frankly.

Perhaps in another post I will ask what the best PUA method is. I have alot of these types of questions for the community. I'll try not to post every one at once.

What I'm finding now is that I can't do what someone else does. I have to find what parts of other people's stuff works for me and not be myself or fake but to become my best self. To me I think that is the #1 thing: try everything and find out what works for you. What do you think is the #1 most important part of PUA?
Author:  Soncheese [ Sat May 12, 2012 6:52 am ]
Post subject: 
i may not have 300 points or be a moderator

but the answer to your question is simple you've probably read it already

for me its "you have to be the exception"

i'll even explain it. Im asian but i live in the uk.

Now majority of asians tend to hang out with themselves i.e asians

not saying all of them do. But see i dont i have plenty of white, black different ethnic friends.

for example when i approach 3 blondes or whatever the set is, im already an exception because when do you ever see an asian hit on 3 blondes (very rarely)..

so if i have good game my chances are much greater than an ordinary person there at the bar or club etc :)

Soncheese x
Author:  Chief [ Sat May 12, 2012 8:05 am ]
Post subject: 
Kino escalation.
Author:  killermunkyz [ Sat May 12, 2012 9:32 am ]
Post subject: 
Quote:
i may not have 300 points or be a moderator

but the answer to your question is simple you've probably read it already

for me its "you have to be the exception"

i'll even explain it. Im asian but i live in the uk.

Now majority of asians tend to hang out with themselves i.e asians

not saying all of them do. But see i dont i have plenty of white, black different ethnic friends.

for example when i approach 3 blondes or whatever the set is, im already an exception because when do you ever see an asian hit on 3 blondes (very rarely)..

so if i have good game my chances are much greater than an ordinary person there at the bar or club etc :)

Soncheese x
LESS THAN 300 points! Ban this guy from the thread! Just Joking man. Good advice. That make sense too. a PUA's got to stand out!
Author:  killermunkyz [ Sat May 12, 2012 9:35 am ]
Post subject: 
Quote:
Kino escalation.
Wow! That simple huh? I agree. I happen to think it's def in the top 5 if not #1. Why are we all so fucking afraid to touch girls?
Author:  870 [ Sat May 12, 2012 1:24 pm ]
Post subject: 
Knowing oneself wholly and completely.

Your boy,
870
Author:  Warped Mindless [ Sat May 12, 2012 6:33 pm ]
Post subject: 
Continuously pushing your comfort zone.

Think about it, thats litlery the solution to almost everything. Its how you overcome anxiety, its how you learn how to lead and how much to lead, how you learn how much and how fats you can do things, it causes you to keep improving and progressing, ect...
Author:  rakeal [ Sat May 12, 2012 10:49 pm ]
Post subject: 
Hitting the Gym everyday = not a chode

Becoming the boss of a company = not a chode

Living an adventurous life = not a chode

doing cold approaches = not a chode

leader of men = not a chode

going for what you want = not a chode

willing to neg a girl = not a chode

Willing to wear ridiculous shit (peacocking) = not a chode

Being pua = not a chode (or pretending not to be one)

It all comes down to the same thing. Not being a chode. That's pretty much all there is to it.

Another thing that is rarely mentioned and hard for me to explain.. actually being willing to get the girl and bang her. Not thinking about game or psyching yourself out with theory. Just actually doing what you gotta to get laid and not feeling like you don't deserve it. 99% of guys fuck ups is self defeating bullshit that they come up with themselves because they are too pussy to handle having a hot chick on their dick. But what does that relate to.... Not being a chode

Anything you can come up with to get women in some form or another comes down to this one principal. It's also found in all mammals. The alpha dog, the biggest moose.

It's also build into every male to compete and organize into a hierarchy. African game animals have this same hierarchy and the weaker ones will actually phych themselves out and hang around the back of the pack. When a predator comes they don't take charge and lead the show. They follow the fuzzy tail of the dude in front of them and follow the pack. If they get away, good, if they don't, well that's ok because they were the last in the hierarchy and that hierarchy was designed to sacrifice the weak for the benefit of the species.

So the number one thing it takes is believing that you are not a chode so you don't sacrifice yourself for the pact.

Oh and posting a huge comment even though I don't have 300 + rep points = not being a chode.

Now if you will excuse me I have some ladies to chat up
Author:  dlightmen [ Sun May 13, 2012 6:59 am ]
Post subject: 
Get out in the field as much as possible with as many women as possible.

Sure, theory is good. Not saying I'm good, but getting there. I just meet as many women as I can and make note of what works and keep doing it.

You don't need to worry about screwing every girl you meet. Quite honestly, a PUA's BEST allies are cool chicks. The ones that a PUA can ask ANYTHING. ;)
Author:  Cornishman [ Sun May 13, 2012 9:43 am ]
Post subject: 
Being successful
Author:  killermunkyz [ Sun May 13, 2012 8:59 pm ]
Post subject: 
Quote:
Being giving (aka evoking reciprocity norms).
Ok, understood being giving... I think... It always seems in PUA like I get what you guys are saying and then later I realize you meant something completely different. It's the problem with PUA lingo. For example: ever got the BAD advice: "Just tease her bro." or "Be a little bit of a jerk/dick/asshole cuz women love bad boys."? Alot of times nobody tells you to only do it when she's got a bitch shield up or she's giving negative responses.

What are reciprocity norms? Can you expand upon this concept?
Author:  killermunkyz [ Sun May 13, 2012 9:01 pm ]
Post subject: 
Quote:
Being successful
lol Kick ass advice bro. :P That's what we all want to do right? :)
Author:  killermunkyz [ Sun May 13, 2012 9:06 pm ]
Post subject: 
Quote:
Get out in the field as much as possible with as many women as possible.

Sure, theory is good. Not saying I'm good, but getting there. I just meet as many women as I can and make note of what works and keep doing it.

You don't need to worry about screwing every girl you meet. Quite honestly, a PUA's BEST allies are cool chicks. The ones that a PUA can ask ANYTHING. ;)
I've been seeing that too. I had 9 years of PUA knowledge and no success until this past year when I started pushing myself to actually go out looking for them everywhere and not being too picky about who I talk to instead of trying to become attractive and waiting for them to come to me, or to find one or two that I already knew I liked for more than looks. It turns out half the stuff you read is shit, so if you don't try it you never know.
Author:  killermunkyz [ Mon May 14, 2012 3:57 am ]
Post subject: 
Quote:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Norm_of_reciprocity

People like those who likes them. But there are some interesting things related to these norms, like this effect:
Quote:
Having heard that he had in his library a certain very scarce and curious book, I wrote a note to him, expressing my desire of perusing that book, and requesting he would do me the favour of lending it to me for a few days. He sent it immediately, and I return'd it in about a week with another note, expressing strongly my sense of the favour. When we next met in the House, he spoke to me (which he had never done before), and with great civility; and he ever after manifested a readiness to serve me on all occasions, so that we became great friends, and our friendship continued to his death.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ben_Franklin_effect
I like that concept. It makes alot of sense. It's so simple, but so hard to master. It's like society's fucked us up in the head so bad we can't just have a conversation with a stranger. Much less a hot female stranger.
Page 1 of 1 All times are UTC
Powered by phpBB® Forum Software © phpBB Group
http://www.phpbb.com/