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Approach Anxiety Explained (New Theory)
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Author:  Kobe Bryant [ Fri Aug 19, 2011 11:16 pm ]
Post subject:  Approach Anxiety Explained (New Theory)
[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8R4tJjXqJ7k[/youtube]

I like this guys theory... discuss.
Author:  Diego1234567 [ Sun Aug 21, 2011 11:14 pm ]
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who cares, you cant change it.

You learn to accept it and it mildly can go away sometimes.

As soon as you can open you think "he who fucking cares that much about opening? its easy! you say "hi" and its over".


Also talking about it so much actually makes it seem like its bigger than it actually is. Most AA is made from Poo-ah's making it sound difficult.
Author:  Diego1234567 [ Sun Aug 21, 2011 11:16 pm ]
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Also this sounds a lot like resistance versus acceptance/ right action.
Author:  scatta [ Mon Aug 22, 2011 1:29 am ]
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this is kind of a long explanation of saying to yourself "yeah, im scared to go talk to that girl because there is a chance of failure, but standing here offers no chance of success, so i should jut go with it, talk to her, and see what happens."
Author:  DJ_Z [ Tue Aug 23, 2011 12:41 am ]
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Sometimes I think guys with AA have ego issues. Not a lack, but an overabundance of it. They think the girl will go on about them for days and how they talked to her. Oddly enough I got over my AA by realizing that introducing myself to a girl won't affect the universe at all. if i crash and burn it won't stay on anybody's mind that long, except my own if i let it.
Author:  Warped Mindless [ Tue Aug 23, 2011 2:46 am ]
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Everyone is always looking for a magic pill to solve approach anxiety.

Stop being a pussy, thats the magic pill.
Author:  Kobe Bryant [ Tue Aug 23, 2011 2:53 am ]
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How do I get my friend to approach? He goes out and says nothing! Does this most of the times he goes out. He might say a word or two once I approach the girl and start chit chatting, but he won't make that first encounter.

I tried being nice to him, that doesn't work.

So I tried being a dick to him, that doesn't work.

Do I give up? Let him do his own thing?
Author:  Kupid [ Sun Aug 28, 2011 10:59 pm ]
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[shouting out loud]: BUUUUUUULLSHIT

It's not approach anxiety, it is "neurological friction" (btw who is buying that shit anyway, the nlp i don't think so), it's an internal conflict... caused by external factor (that be fear of approaching woman)...why, cause you draw yourself a future picture of: interaction'll go bad and everyone'll see it, and there we are again.

So the solution is to hung out all the fellings and experience the 'thing' non attachable.
I tried that, it doesn't work. I'm sure, you guys have tried it and it didn't worked either and guess what (NO ONE can do that, except Terminator :D) we're all humans, you can't push a big red button on our body, where it says "FEELINGS OFF".

We're not Spock, from Star Track, we're real human beings, with real feelings
Author:  Kobe Bryant [ Fri Sep 02, 2011 1:02 am ]
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So I've been experimenting right... Just trying to get rid of this fucking thing called AA. You know what it was for me.
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Everyone is always looking for a magic pill to solve approach anxiety.

Stop being a pussy, thats the magic pill.
^^^

Right there. Stop reading nonsense on how to get over it, cause the trick is that simple. Idc if you're so damn nervous you feel like you're going puke on the girl, just do it.

Be like nike nigga, and do it.
Author:  GrifterUK [ Thu Sep 08, 2011 10:29 pm ]
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I don't think there needs to be a new theory on AA, I mean I was never a guy who needed any more confidence, but the pua stuff I read that was already available was enough to let me understand it - not actually overcome it, that came with practice.

I remember being so impressed with how quickly I neutralised the affects of AA through the help of the pua teachings that I wrote a post on here ( confidence-and-pma-vt73244.html?highlight=grifteruk ) which I've used to help friends and aspiring pua's alike (granted, more the former than the latter).


GrifterUK


EDIT: In hindsight the link is more about building confidence and a mindset to approach, with a minor explaination that not approaching gets you nothing for definate, whereas approaching has an above 0% possibility of you gaining, however small that percentage may be. Still slightly relevant, but not as much as I realise I may have implied. Sorry guys! :)
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