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Author:  zqawsxedcrfvtbgynhuj [ Mon Oct 22, 2007 12:32 am ]
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Hello everyone, been a while since i've been here. Busy with gettin in colleges, and soccer playoffs and whatnot. anywho back on topic

I think I've got my mind mostly made up on this, but I thought I'd post it up here just for some outside opinions.

so basically, i was drunk with some friends, who i'd do anyghing for. i've known them for 7 years, and were a family. We ended up hanging out with some girls later that night, and i ended up hooking up with my bud's little sister. she's really cool, and she hangs out with us when we're at his house

now that same night, the guy whose sister i hooked up with, hooked up with another one of our friends little sisters. we have an unspoken rule that we won't hook up with sistersr, but i guess the alcohol got the best of us.

now i would just ignore it, but she's been talkin to me a lot lately, and she want's to hang out more. i just think i'd be too akward.



now, after yet another long post, what are your opinions?
Author:  Starbuck [ Mon Oct 22, 2007 12:36 am ]
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How old is she, and how old are you?

And how much do you want to ruin your friendship? The potential is there.
Author:  The Doctor [ Mon Oct 22, 2007 1:22 am ]
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How old is she, and how old are you?

And how much do you want to ruin your friendship? The potential is there.
I agree tred with care man... I got in a situation like this when I was a little younger with my bestfriends younger cousin. There can be some serious, serious issues that arise.

I say either make like it never happened or go into a LTR and treat her right... I don't really see any other options if you want a chance at keeping your friendship in tact.
Author:  Raykast [ Mon Oct 22, 2007 1:26 am ]
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From a Mystery Method perspective (And of course I am no expert, this is just my understanding of his Dynamic Social Interaction Principals), your actions are completely inconsiderate and disrespectful to your friends. Plain and simple. If it where just hooking up with one of your friends sisters, it might be passable ONLY if you show some dedication and investment in that relationship afterward which would give some VALUE to her and, indirectly to the family and your friendship. But two different sister of two different buddies.... I cant imagine how you can feign investment in that situation.

By fucking them both, you shown that they are "common" to you or of little value. This is normally the point of sarging, showing you have higher value then the target, hence they align with you. But this is in direct conflict with your friends family, in which they are inherently protective and hold very high value in. By sarging(hooking up, whatever) the sister you have indirectly put yourself above your friend which will be very hurtful (threatening).

Uh, yeh maybe I'm reading into MM to much but i think we can all agree that ya fucked up. Soooo. My best theory for getting things right with your buddies is to purposefully DLV yourself to them. Give them back the value you accidentally took from them, and make things right.

I think that makes sense...
Author:  PatrickLH [ Mon Oct 22, 2007 1:55 am ]
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Re-read it again.

I think he said that he hooked up with his friend's sister, and his friend hooked up with another friend's sister.
Author:  Raykast [ Mon Oct 22, 2007 1:59 am ]
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Oh shit your right.. wow that is messy isnt it?
Author:  PatrickLH [ Mon Oct 22, 2007 2:01 am ]
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Eh. If you really like her and want a LTR, talk to your friend about it and try to get his approval. I can't see a one-night stand or open relationship working in this situation.
Author:  Raykast [ Mon Oct 22, 2007 2:07 am ]
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Eh. If you really like her and want a LTR, talk to your friend about it and try to get his approval. I can't see a one-night stand or open relationship working in this situation.
Your totally right. Thats what my long winded over analyzed rant was trying to say. By investing in a relationship you give her value and will not threaten your friend. Otherwise you got to come clean and DLV your mistake. You have to choose. Ignoring it will make thing very tense, guarded if not outright confrontational.
Author:  Rye Lee [ Mon Oct 22, 2007 6:50 am ]
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You're good friends with the guy, right? So unless you are a knows douchebag that mistreats girls, then aren't you the logical choice for a good man for his sister? If I had a friend that I thought was worthy, then I would have no issues with him and my sister getting together. As long as it was mutual and he wasn't out to hurt her, then I wouldn't even mind if it WAS a one night stand. But LTRs can work out just fine.
Author:  Close [ Mon Oct 22, 2007 8:34 am ]
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I hereby call the global rule of, Bros before hoes.
Author:  Desire [ Mon Oct 22, 2007 9:45 am ]
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well you cant take it back now, if your cool with these guys just explain how you fucked up. i mean dont try and turn a relationship out of it if you dont want one. theres not alot of advice i can give you but other then try to get your buddy to understand. then offer him your sister. lol im kidding
Author:  Lyric [ Mon Oct 22, 2007 12:09 pm ]
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When you come clean with your buddy do not use alcohol as an excuse. That is down right unacceptable. It will come off as he should forgive you because it wasn't you but it was the alcohol that did it... there had to be an attraction there for you to do what you did. Be honest and man up to it and explain what you intend to do about it. When you come clean honestly it shows and if you guys are really good buddies he will understand. Try to blame it on anything other than yourself may and should break the friendship as it shows dishonesty and will destroy any trust between you two.
Author:  zqawsxedcrfvtbgynhuj [ Tue Oct 23, 2007 2:34 am ]
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well, thanks for the replies guys.

here's a bit more info. i typed this all out originally, but it got really long. i'll try to keep it short

I was playing beer pong with friends A, B, and C. my partner sucked, and i'm the least tolerant to alch of the 4. I was shitfaced. A, B, and C were somewhat drunk themselves.

so A gets a text from D's sister. D is not with us. We get invited to sneak into friend A's house..... (yeah.....wierd. ) Friend A's sister who just turned 16 and was having a party there. they too were drunk.

i hooked up with A's sister. A hooked up with D's sister.

I'm 17, and i graduate in 60 days (December 21st :-D what can i say, i'm a baller fo sho :P), and then my parents are moving to Mexico on December 27th. so i'll be pretty detached from my hometown, and that makes a LTR pretty much out of the question. in other circumstanses, i'd seriously consider it. she's really cool.

and i don't mean fuck by hook up. just messed around. don't really remember all of it..... i got most of my info from her, her friends and B, and C the next morning....

But right now, i think we're cool. He knows its gonna happen, and its not like i wasn't drunk and took advantage of her. and he pretty much did the same thing. I was really worried for a bit there though. The kid really is my best friend.

now i just need to make her understand it was probally a one time deal. any advice?
Author:  Raykast [ Tue Oct 23, 2007 2:41 am ]
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Ah, the 16 year old chick messes around and thinks it indicates LTR. Big suprise.
Author:  Starbuck [ Tue Oct 23, 2007 2:59 am ]
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I hereby call the global rule of, Bros before hoes.
Now this is a fellow with some sense.. :wink:

If a woman I'm involved with is stupid enough to fuck one of my friends, I say more power to him. Because I'm done with her ass.

Now family members? That's another situation entirely. One which I wouldn't know much about being an only child. But I could see how somebody could be real protective of their sister, etc.. I say casually mention it to him first, and see how he feels about it. Might save yourself alot of trouble later.
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