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Author:  slyder2412 [ Tue Oct 02, 2007 5:45 pm ]
Post subject:  Maybe it's in my body language?
Hey what's up guys? I try to always be conscious of my body language, but maybe in the midst of the conversation i fuck up...i dont know.

I've become very good at controlling and stealing frames. But every time there's both guys/girls in the set and I turn attention onto the girl ...it seems that everyone thinks that I'm hitting on her. This will usually change the mood from "everyone is just being friendly" to me and the target in the spotlight and all attention drawn to my game. This seems to make her guard go up because maybe she doesn't want to seem too easy? Idk because i will be receiving IOI's beforehand so i don't get it.

My biggest problem though is one on one interaction. Even if I'm talking to the girl because she seems cool or b/c i need social proof, and i'm truely NOT interested...the girls always seem to think i am interested and hitting on them. I don't know how to change this because i mean...i'm just fucking conversing haha. When i notice i'm too square to her, i shift my body and occasionally pretend to be looking somewhere else and slowly move my head back and say "wait what?" ...and yet nothing really seems to work. Even after IOI's and flat out "you're cute" comments, it seems as though they think i'm interested, and therefore their attraction deflates. Any tips?

Thanks guys!
Author:  The Wild One [ Tue Oct 02, 2007 5:55 pm ]
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Yeah this is a constant area of focus for me. Our body language is critical to communicating to women our confidence and who we are. You have to constantly practice good body language. I remember I didn't have a clue when I first started out how bad I would start peeking with girls. I would not even realize I was doing it. After I realized it and fixed it my attraction levels in conversation went up tremendously. You have to just constantly focus on this and practice it. Also focus on womens body language to because they have so many things they do without realizing it that communicate everything they feel in the moment threw it. You need to study up a bit my friend on body language.
Author:  Calvin Davids [ Tue Oct 02, 2007 6:02 pm ]
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well as you know, the whole point is to make it seem like you're not hitting on the HB.

:arrow: Don't talk directly to the HB when in a group, unless it's a neg, or at least very quickly.

:arrow: Try and stay with the group for at least 5 minutes. It seems like an age in reality.

:arrow: Once you have gained social acceptance from the group, ask them whether you can borrow the target/show her something/ask something, "over there". Point to the place as you say this.

:arrow: A great way of increasing the probabilities of her coming is by locking her in with a prop. Put a hat on her head and walk off, this way, she HAS to follow to give it back to you!

Then, once you've isolated the target, game on.

Try and think of 5 ways of asking the group whether you can borrow the girl, post them on this thread when you're done, would be good to see your ideas.

Hope this helps.
Author:  slyder2412 [ Tue Oct 02, 2007 6:14 pm ]
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What are some thoughts i can keep running through my head that may come across to the girl? May effect my body language. Or what are some specific things i can do to show SOD if i think i've gotten a little too into it and lost my composure?

I have read a lot about body language and i can't really apply and see live examples of it. I have witnessed a few times where a girl would mirror me but that's it. For fun (when i remember to do it) i look at everyone around me and try to predict their mood and what they are thinking about due to their body language. But unless i ask "what were you thinking when you were leaning back with your head tilted and playing with your nails?" I won't know for sure haha.

So what are specific things i can concentrate on to show SOD and in the moment thoughts to maybe signal the SOD as well? thanks. and ill try to think of some isolating techniques in a group, but i mean most situations are one on one.
Author:  The Wild One [ Tue Oct 02, 2007 8:55 pm ]
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WWJBD? WHAT WOULD JAMES BOND DO? LOL Just lean back relax, and continue talking. Don't start peeking!
Author:  Trivial [ Tue Oct 02, 2007 8:58 pm ]
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well as you know, the whole point is to make it seem like you're not hitting on the HB.

:arrow: Don't talk directly to the HB when in a group, unless it's a neg, or at least very quickly.

:arrow: Try and stay with the group for at least 5 minutes. It seems like an age in reality.

:arrow: Once you have gained social acceptance from the group, ask them whether you can borrow the target/show her something/ask something, "over there". Point to the place as you say this.

:arrow: A great way of increasing the probabilities of her coming is by locking her in with a prop. Put a hat on her head and walk off, this way, she HAS to follow to give it back to you!

Then, once you've isolated the target, game on.

Try and think of 5 ways of asking the group whether you can borrow the girl, post them on this thread when you're done, would be good to see your ideas.

Hope this helps.
couldnt have said it any better.
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