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| Author: | matrix [ Tue Oct 02, 2007 6:16 am ] |
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Hey guys, I keep having a problem and I was wondering if this was a regular occurance. I meet a girl, do the cocky funny, a bit of mystery and a bit of my own wit. As mystery suggests I usually fuck close the deal within 7 - 10 hours, accumulated. This can be over 2 or 3 meetings. The problem is these girls start getting clingy, calling all the time and decide that they want me as a b/f... I always end up having to let them go. How can I set it up so its just a casual fuck without her getting feelings beyond attraction for me? Does this happen to you guys? Peace, Matrix P.S, still looking for a lair in Melb |
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| Author: | tdizzle [ Tue Oct 02, 2007 7:16 am ] |
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Seems like lots of people are having this problem after an F close with usually younger girls.... ... maybe give them some IOD in texts or calls |
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| Author: | Ferrari29 [ Tue Oct 02, 2007 12:54 pm ] |
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This comes from not properly cyphering out whom your fucking. Too many of my friends are having the same complications. I tell them, be sure you understand their temperament prior to f close. Some women are just clingy and needy, these women I stay away from. Even if they're HB9's I know they'll need too much of my energy and time, which I cannot give out. I stay with the strong women whom are quite self sufficient. |
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| Author: | Archangel White Rose [ Tue Oct 02, 2007 1:30 pm ] |
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This is a common problem among the advanced PUAs. Sadly, there is not much to do about an AFC (Average Frustrated Chick) that has a crush on you. Take a few pages out of the girls book, sit them down for a talk and tell them "Lets be friends". Don't return their phonecalls and blow them off- just like women do to men that do the same to them. LOL! It's amazing how successful guys start mirroring the habits of successful and pretty women when it comes to clingy people of the opposite sex. Just goes to show how terrible AFC behavior really is. |
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| Author: | Chikito [ Tue Oct 02, 2007 2:54 pm ] |
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Or you could just come out straight with them from the begining. U may need to let your current ones go. But while your sarging them, like after a k-close when your far more comfortable around each other you can bring up the subject of not looking for any kind of relationship (from the girl book too) and if they dont like that, well fuck them there are plenty of other women out there. |
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| Author: | Esquire [ Tue Oct 02, 2007 3:16 pm ] |
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ive been experiencing the same sort of problems as of late with girls that I pick up. i have another theory that may have something to do with the predicament: Seasonal Clingy: Ive noticed over the years that women tend to get more attached in the early fall which might be attributed to years of programming from school where a routine is forced upon them so they are in the mindset of being with one particular man to preserve their "schedule" and "normalcy." Subconsciously, the fall is a time to get into a groove of repetition for women. The way I get a foothold with this problem is to nip it in the butt early and often, reiterating the fact that I am not interested in a relationship beyond casual friends with a dash of fun. Usually works quite well for one simple reason: Honesty. If a woman knows your doing nothing but being honest, then they wont have a problem with it and 9/10's of the time, I'm thanked for my honesty. If all else fails, dont return calls or texts. Easiest and most effective way out. |
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| Author: | Purity [ Tue Oct 02, 2007 3:34 pm ] |
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It's hard to work from a bar scene man... but i've got pretty decent circe of friends who are mostly girls, quite a few i have messed around with but even more i've done the hokey pokey with. It's my suggestion to create a social circle. You won't regret it. repost-girlfriends-vt8088.html ^post i wrote on it. |
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| Author: | Calvin Davids [ Tue Oct 02, 2007 5:13 pm ] |
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MLTRs Just don't be a bastard about it. There are morals which we all have. |
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| Author: | Mech [ Tue Oct 02, 2007 6:17 pm ] |
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Quote: Or you could just come out straight with them from the begining.
For those who don't know, this is called a Statement of Intent (SOI). The wording is key, as I'm sure you can imagine. Saying "I only want to fuck, we I'm not looking for a relationship with you" is going to be recieved badly. Saying things DURING THE PICKUP like "I'm a 'live in the moment' kind of person", and "I need to make a connection on many levels with someone before I know whether I want to date them -- emotional, physical, intellectual." will help her understand where you're coming from without irritating her.U may need to let your current ones go. But while your sarging them, like after a k-close when your far more comfortable around each other you can bring up the subject of not looking for any kind of relationship (from the girl book too) and if they dont like that, well fuck them there are plenty of other women out there. The general idea is, you tell her who you are and what you're about EARLY ON. If she still is interested and still making advances on you, she forefits the right to be clingy. Don't try to convey this right before you have sex, it has to be completely congruant with who you are EARLY ON. Quote: This comes from not properly cyphering out whom your fucking. Too many of my friends are having the same complications. I tell them, be sure you understand their temperament prior to f close. Some women are just clingy and needy, these women I stay away from. Even if they're HB9's I know they'll need too much of my energy and time, which I cannot give out. I stay with the strong women whom are quite self sufficient.
Eh -- this is true and it isn't. People have certain tendances, but if you do a good job of making them feel comfortable, and conveying your intentions early, you can get through it without anything becoming messy. Make sure you create some distance with the clingy/needy types. Don't be available for them every night, don't spend 5 hours on the phone with them every week, and stay in control. If she comes to you with relationship issues and you're not in a relationship with her, don't be afraid to tell her that it's not appropriate. |
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