Day10. Let’s talk about sex!
Yeah I’m starting this one with a Salt ‘n’ Pepa quote, and I’m continuing with another quote.
This one is from Jay Leno:
“Race car driving is like sex, all men think they are good at it”
I love this quote because it is so accurate, I’ve had a few sports cars myself, and I was certain that I could hit the twisty roads of the California mountains in any speed, I’m lucky that I’m still alive with that mind set.
It’s a good thing that having sex is a lot safer.
The mindset that you need to have towards sex is a huge contradiction, see on one hand you have to know that you are not as good as you think you are, and on the other hand you have to believe in yourself that you are better!
Very confusing I know but I will explain! These two aspects of sex are the most important parts in a successful physical relationship.
You are born as a primitive reproduction animal, you were not meant to be good in bed, and therefore you have to realize that without practice you suck! This is nothing to be ashamed of, try any skill oriented hobby that you have never practiced before and see how bad you will stink!
Everyone is bad in bed their first time and my point with this rant is that the mind set you should have the first few times is that you are there to learn something.
The girl however might be even more inexperienced, guys generally know more about their own bodies than girls do, many girls even think that they don’t have to do anything in bed, which to me is shocking!
What I’m saying is that you weren’t born to be a pleasure machine, you have to be ready to learn something every time you have sex!
And how do you get good? You practice! This is why I recommend all the younger PUAs to stay in “not so good” relationships at least for a while so they can have sex on a regular basis for a period. This may actually be all you need depending on how open you are with your partner and how experimental you get.
And this is pretty much my point, you are not good until you have practiced, so when you are in your younger years take all the practice you can get!
I also want to add this, you don’t necessarily have to be horrible your first time, there could just be “room for improvement”, just make sure you read her reactions and try to make her feel comfortable!
The other part of this is the mental, in this is where I’m saying that you have to build up your confidence and feel strong and sure that you can give her more pleasure than any man has ever done!
If you prepare for sex by thinking “I’m so horrible at this, I’m gonna come after 30seconds, she will be disappointed” well then guess what, it will be horrible!
Again guys, you can use NLP for this, to create confidence and a strong frame!
You will hear most MPUAs talking about that you have to be an alpha male, you have to be a man and be convincing, well, it applies here too.
But being the dominant alpha male doesn’t mean “push her down in the bed and fuck her through the mattress” it just means that you are decisive, in control and show a lot of confidence, like you really know what you are doing, even if you don’t know, you can still use this frame!
So these are pretty much the two most important things when it comes to a great physical connection.
1. Be eager to learn!
2. Show confidence!
Always be confident guys! In my opinion, confidence is 80% of your game, if you don’t have it, start practicing more NLP!
Well guys, these were the “10 things I wish someone taught me (about Pick Up)” some of these are just really obvious things when you think about it, but keeping this in mind has really helped me evolve as a PUA.
I do plan to post a bonus article here later this week, it’s gonna be a about a tactic that I used to get a lot of women, fairly hard to pull off but golden if you do it!
I might also post more tips in this thread later on, you never know what happens!
So stick around.
And again, I’m happy to answer any questions you might have, but please post them in this thread rather than sending a pm!
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