Picking up women 101
So there are a ton of books, routines, videos, coaches and god knows what out there to help guys get laid. But here is the simple fact, you will never get laid unless you can break the ice with the girl first. Every bedroom escapade starts with an introduction, and if you can't do introduce yourself properly you will not be allowed in her bedroom, simple is that. (With exception to blind luck).
To meet a woman, the first step is to spot her, and approach her. And here is the tricky part about that, because of the dangerous society most of us live in, women are always on guard, they are always careful who they open up to, they are always cautious. It doesn't matter if you look and act like Tom Cruise in Cocktail, the girl will always be cautious in the beginning. (Of course, proper behavior and good looks will make life easier).
So here is what I am tackling today, what is the easiest/fastest way to make her comfortable around you?
Well, as I have mentioned before, if you get her talking, she will talk herself comfortable, and if you listen and show that you listen she will trust you. Mission accomplished, but you can't just get her talking, so that's where we are going with this.
It starts with the very first glance, make eye contact, even though you can spot her before she sees you and you could technically approach her without any eye contact at all, I do not recommend it, this will definitely creep her out, if she has a chance to look at you first, she will get a chance to familiarize herself with your looks, and probably in her mind get an idea of who you are. This is why it is important to dress in a way that matches the personality you which to convey towards her.
Eye contact is your most important weapon, I have on several occasions picked up girls with nothing but distant eye contact. And the number one rule to this is to quickly assess how much time you have before you actually have to approach her. There are many factors that applies to this, example; if you are on the street and she is walking by you only have seconds, if you sit across from each other on a train/bus you might have hours, or you might have until the next stop. If you are in a bar, you may have all night, or maybe she is on her way out? The first thing you need to do is to assess how much time you have.
Now the look I apologize if I am too detailed and this post becomes really long, I just want to be clear and make my point.
Now, the look! Glance over in her direction in a nonchalant way, (if she doesn't look at you, then don't stare, that's just creepy, instead, use your peripherals to see when she is looking in your direction), if you look at each other you will eventually lock eyes, this is where 99% of men pussy out and look away, if you do this, you just lost! Don't be a pussy, don't look away.
Give her a look back, think strong thoughts, picture yourself making passionate love to her, I am serious about this, what you are thinking about will reflect in your eyes, if you think "oh shit oh shit I want to look away" she will see fear in your eyes and think less of you, she needs to see confidence and power in your eyes!
If she looks away, then all is well, round 1 complete, if she stares back, hold the eye contact for about three seconds, then smile to yourself and look away, this means that she is playing the game with you, she is trickier than the shy girl because she has more confidence, but oh so much more rewarding!
Once you have completed round 1, assess if you have more time to play with eye contact, if you do, then I suggest you spend the flirty eye contact game for as long as you can, if you practice and become good at this, this is all you need to do to pick her up, like I mentioned before, I have picked up several girls with just looking at them.
If you don't have time for more eye contact, it is time for the actual approach.
Here is where you can throw a pick up routine you learned somewhere (which works a lot of the time, try it), or you can be a man and do it my way.
My approach: Seek eye contact with her again (or never stop looking at her in the first place if you are tight on time), this time glance away from her eyes and look at her body from top to toe, make it obvious. Then comes your introduction, now I will write this in my words, but any words will do, even some canned routines.
After checking her out I say:
- So what's up? Then I wait, about 2 1/2 seconds, just enough to make her curious what you will say, and uncomfortable enough to brake any bitch shield, in other words, to put you in charge.
Then, I can go on and ask her about anything at all. Say something about her outfit, about her style, hobbies, wtf ever that you can pretend that you thought about when you looked at her, you want her to think that you looked at her and you were intrigued by something she was wearing, or a tattoo, or her hair. Girls love talking about shit that pertains to their style/made up personality, she will be so curious about me, about why I looked at her and asked her something that she will want more, and because I also instilled a little insecurity she will be a little nervous and most of the time start blabbering like a schoolgirl. Then you just keep her talking, by the time you two will part ways, she will be asking you for a phone number, or you can be forward and ask, that's ok too
So, how did I go from potential rapist to potential husband in three seconds? Easy, here is how:
That particular line "So, what's up?" may sound too simple, and you'd be right, it is not the words that make a change, you can say anything, it is simply a matter of how you say it.
With no exaggeration it took me almost three months of daily practice to perfect the delivery of that line.
I say "So" in an almost criticizing way, this really grabs her attention, because if you think that a stranger is about to criticize you, you are going to be alert!
The "what's up" part I say in a more uplifting and curious way, making her understand that something about her interests me. You have broken the ice, she now considers you as equals in conversation, which means that from her you could go on if you have some great lines to say next, but let's make it easier for ourselves, let's make her a little uncomfortable, let's take charge.
This is where I take a small pause to either look at her up and down, or to look away and exhale in a nonchalant manner, then you say something very uplifting that will be fuel to spark a conversation with her.
The reason this is so effective is because once she becomes a little insecure she starts building up an even stronger bitch shield than she had before, and when you immediately remove her insecurity with a positive question about her, you completely crush her bitch shield, trust me, it will make her open up like nothing you've ever seen before.
To give you an example of how this works, think about a time when you or someone else where really scared and it turned out to be nothing, how come you always burst out in laughter? It is the same thing, once you experienced strong feelings one way, it is easier to swing them further the other way.
Ways you can fuck up and unfuck things (aka trouble shooting):
1. You stare at her like an ax murderer on the hunt, be calm!
2. You stare at her in fear, man up!
3. You sound choppy and nervous when you open your mouth, rehearse at home if you have difficulty
4. You miss judged how much time you had and she is leaving, hurry up, say anything is better than saying nothing, you might be even more romantic if it seems like an impulse thing.
5. After your opening line, you take to short of a pause and you talk too fast, she lost interest, avoid this with practice practice practice!
6. Your pause was too long and she got creeped out, watch out for pepper spray. Same as above, practice helps, it is better to take a too short pause than a too long pause, it is better to be a talker than a starer.
7. Your question to her is too complicated or not related to her at all and she won't talk. Keep it simple, girls like talking about their appearance, style, clothes, bling etc. Especially when your leading question comes off like a compliment.
For example, "I was really fascinated by your hair color, yet puzzled, were you going for a natural type look or more of a flashy look?" This is a simple and good line, you didn't really say anything but you got her talking about her hair, you picked this because you could see that she had spent a lot of time doing her hair, so you know that this would spark a conversation.
"I like curvy girls, how often do you hit the gym to work those curves?" In your mind you gave her a compliment since you found her curves really sexy, like a young Jennifer Lopez, but in her mind you just called her fat and you deserve to die!
Keep it simple guys, look at everyone you meet, everyone has a style, and accessory or simply an appearance that reveal information of what they are interested in talking about. Talk to everyone, men, women, young, old, see how many people you get to smile because you picked a good topic to talk to them about!
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