I have been looking at some of Gamblers things on non-verbal communication and I think that is the best route to go (keeping things fun but using gestures to communicate).

I can also see a strange different type of bitch shield to deal with here, more of a social norms shield or something lol.

Never feel bad about picking up women in church. If you don't do it someone else will. Honestly. I spent many years in church, trying to be a moralistic man, "waiting on God for my wife". It never happened. In my big mega church there were a handful of gigalo's who basically got all the women. The hundreds of us men who were trying to be "godly" men went home and spanked our monkey's. This is one of the real reasons that I left the church and realized it was a sham. I became a pick up artist, and then went back to the churches and picked up on women, and got laid. Don't feel bad about it. There are millions of bored church girls waiting for a seducer to seduce her into wild sex. Trust me. I've been there and know what goes on in churches. And if you are religious, don't worry about it. I was in Bible college and seduced women and it didn't seem to affect my mythical relationship with God. I've since became an atheist, but even when I believed the Bible, I didn't feel bad about sleeping with women. Trust me, you will not feel guilty rather you will feel released and free to live a free life. Fornication and adultery is going on all around you, you just don't see it cause it's done in secret. Trust me religious men, they are feeding you something that isn't true. Women in the church use religion as a ruse to make themselves feel better for their sexual inconsistencies. I have seen it over and over again. Even abortion clinics see a peak in their abortions when a revival comes to town.