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Author:  JSmooth [ Sat Sep 27, 2008 7:39 pm ]
Post subject:  My Friend Needs HELP!
A friend of mine is involved with two women. MLTR's. One he has been with for a few years, the other for almost 5 months.

Having kids with both possibly.

Neither woman is exactly what he is looking for. At times he feels like cutting them both loose and starting fresh, while of course keeping ties with them for the kid's sake. The problem is, he can't get either one out of his head. They both offer things that he is looking for, just not the whole package.

They each already have a child as well. They work in totally different jobs, different fields. They both support themselves just fine. Neither one wants to let him go. They both know about each other.

He's trying to figure out if either woman is worth "sticking it out" with, or if he should just start fresh. I'm not exactly sure which way to tell him to go. I figured I'd get some extra opinion on this.
Author:  Plethora [ Sat Sep 27, 2008 8:02 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: My Friend Needs HELP!
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A friend of mine is involved with two women. MLTR's. One he has been with for a few years, the other for almost 5 months.

Having kids with both possibly.

Neither woman is exactly what he is looking for. At times he feels like cutting them both loose and starting fresh, while of course keeping ties with them for the kid's sake. The problem is, he can't get either one out of his head. They both offer things that he is looking for, just not the whole package.

They each already have a child as well. They work in totally different jobs, different fields. They both support themselves just fine. Neither one wants to let him go. They both know about each other.

He's trying to figure out if either woman is worth "sticking it out" with, or if he should just start fresh. I'm not exactly sure which way to tell him to go. I figured I'd get some extra opinion on this.
Well that's quite a personal question that he has to make for himself. I don't see how an outsider can tell him one way or the other without all of the information. He should do some soul searching and listen to his heart. If he truly feels like something is missing and there is no spark, maybe you should take him out sarging and meet other women (just get to know them a bit) and use that experience to gage his situation. Or he could push for the threesome.
Author:  Rye Lee [ Sat Sep 27, 2008 8:29 pm ]
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Wow...he really fucked his shit up badly. That's several hours worth of therapy right there, just to figure get an idea of what to do. I don't think there's any magic pill for that in my arsenal.
Author:  Orthodox [ Sat Sep 27, 2008 8:44 pm ]
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Well look at it this way, the longer he keeps stringing them both along the worse off the kids will be in the long run.

I had a friend called isaac who used to have a great girlfriend who he loved and always thought about, yet he was never totally complete. So he would come out with us and sleep around with other girls etc, one day she found out about this and it totally ruined any trust that was in there relationship, he is back together with her now but it has a lasting imprint on her trust towards him.

My point is that if he has to see 2 seperate women then seperately both women obviously arnt enough to complete him, its never a good thing to stay together for the sake of kids because it creates a false sense of security that will only fuck them up in the long run.

I know its a bold piece of advice, but personally i think he should break it off with them both, because no matter which women he choses he will always be tempted to go elsewhere due to a lack of fulfillment.

Hope that helps a little...

Orthodox
Author:  QB1 [ Sat Sep 27, 2008 10:28 pm ]
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If your friend is looking for that special someone and neither of the women he has now have convinced him to go exclusive with her then he has to cut it off with both, they're clearly not what he's searching for. He might wonder whether one relationship could blossom as he breaks off the other but this will not be the case due to:
1)the relationships are past their honeymoon phase and in terms of passion or love they will not improve.
2)he will always wonder whether he let go of and kept the right one

Ofcourse without knowing every single simple fact its impossible for an outsider to be 100% sure but what i've recommended is a basic idea.
Author:  JSmooth [ Sun Sep 28, 2008 7:52 am ]
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Thanks guys for your responses.
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