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| Author: | Nogame [ Tue Aug 12, 2008 6:16 am ] |
| Post subject: | Pulling wallflowers/shy friends |
lately there is this girl Im trying to pull, shes really super shy. I rarely see her out but ive seen her around school. Im friends with her friends but she never really gets invited out, not much of a drinker. What would be the best way to pull this chick? I don't want to come off as needy or anything saying "hey hey hey hey, this chick should come out come on!" I have her on msn but she tends not to have much to say just like in real life and it seems awkward talking to her when i really havent talked to in real life. |
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| Author: | Roads [ Tue Aug 12, 2008 1:58 pm ] |
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Super shy chicks are very hard to game, simply because they are very hard to open and maintain a conversation with. Some of them won't maintain any kind of eye contact, others will have closed body postures and make it look like you are hitting on them (you are.) so their AFC friends will come and blow you out, while others still just don't know enough about social interactions to know how to qualify themselves to a guy. C&F will blow up in your face if you are not careful, commonly used negs have unpredictable results on shy girls, sexual state projection most likely will fail without comfort first which kind of defeats the purpose, kino is hard and often counterproductive as super shy girls appear to retreat from casual touches, and generally speaking it's unpleasant to try and maintain a conversation with someone who is totally inept or unwilling to do so. They may be hot chicks, but as human beings something is missing from their personalities. The advice is to generally build lots of comfort, and to limit attraction initially as this causes the target to become uncomfortable. Sounds like it could land you in LJBF, but with really shy girls any overt signs of interest from you that you are interested in her as a sexual partner will drive her back into her shell more. This is not always true of course, but generally speaking you want to appear non-threatening and build enough rapport with her to maintain your conversation before dropping hints you'd like to get it on with her. |
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| Author: | Diaz [ Tue Aug 12, 2008 3:13 pm ] |
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First, ask yourself what you want from her. A casual conquest is probably simply not worth it. It will take time and she will likely be rather inexperienced between the sheets as well. You will have to get close to her and are quite likely to hurt her in the end. Ok, so now back to the matter. Before I ever heard about the game, I used to play shy girls just for fun and with great success. I'm not saying this is the only to the way to go, but this is what worked for me back then. What I did, is basically befriend them. Its likely that a shy HB doesn't have too many male friends, so you'll have an advantage right off. Its a slow process, for me it took usually anywhere from 3-6months / shy girl (the upside is, you can game multiple of them at the same time). Just be an attractive person around them and encourage them to come out of their shy-cover. Get them to do things they would never have done by them selves. They will feel like you are somehow special because you can bring out something new out of her. The game is different, you will have to be quite a lot in contact, because especially in the beginning, she most likely won't (too shy to call you etc.). So be in contact, cut on cocky and replace it with sweet. And some day you will notice that she is really, really attracted to you.. at that point, you can go for it. As I said earlier, I did it only for fun (and maybe a bit of ego boosting as well) so I never made a move.. usually a few months later she took up her courage and made a move. Just be careful, if you help a shy girl come out of her shell only for her to get hurt. Leave her better than she was is really doable in these cases if you do well. |
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| Author: | Nightfox [ Tue Aug 12, 2008 3:39 pm ] |
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Another issue is bodylanguage. Don't come across as this superduperconfident wall that's impossible to talk to due her feeling intimidated by his superduperhigh charisma. Be careful when facing her directly. Rather than doing this, stand partly next to her, and keep a bit of distance. Smile, but rather the friendly, pleasant, calm smile than the sleazy one. She'll be more likely to open up if she doesn't feel threatened and uncomfortable. If possible, talk about things that she likes in the beginning to get her talking and more relaxed. Reward her once in a while (laughing, smiles, "that's so cool", and so on) to build her confidence a bit, which in turn will make her feel less threatened and intimidated. And from there, after opening her up, run your game on her, just be careful and don't be too fast. |
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| Author: | Nogame [ Wed Aug 13, 2008 8:45 am ] |
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Any ideas on how to open this chick over msn/facebook, I hate online gaming but i feel there is not much other way. I usually go sarging/out with my friends but shes almost never out. I understand I have to hide my intentions with shygirls/wallflowers, how should I open so it doesnt sound like a pickup line? |
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