PUA Forum :: Getting out of the bar scene

I'm 22 years old, Now that I have gotten a little older, As we get older here,

I've realized its dumb to try and play the extrovert style when I already have my own style that works.

I'm introverted too, and I like daygame. It's hard to get into, since the approach anxiety is worse (because it's less socially acceptable) and you don't have the benefit of alcohol to calm your nerves. But once you get used to it, it's a lot more relaxed than night game, you don't have to compete with cockblocks and AMOGs and loud shitty music, etc. I totally get where you're coming from. The late nights, the hangovers, the cigarette smoke, etc. are bad for your health and general wellbeing. I mostly stick with daygame and online game.

Maybe it's different for some guys, but for me two or three beers and several hours of secondhand smoke messes up my sleep and makes me feel crappy the next day. If you like the bar scene then great, I'm just saying it's not my style.

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Am I the only guy who can go to the bar, have 5 glasses of water and just play some pool while meeting a few women? Of course I really love pool... but seriously? I don't drink when I go out, if I do it... it's like 1-2 beers 4 is a busy night and usually means someone bought me some drinks.

You should be able to meet women where ever you go, so long as you can find a good nonthreatening approach. I personally enjoy the grocery store, as it's somewhere I go regularly anyways.

I'm the same :L I drink water and soft drinks when I go out, or a cheeky vodka every now and again...
I've only just started on here and hope to learn a lot, but I know that alcohol can make you act like a complete cunt on nights out. So can only assume it could ruin game?

Author:	anon90210 [ Sun Oct 02, 2016 8:00 pm ]
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Hello again everyone, I'm 22 years old finishing up here at my university. Ive spent the last few years going to bars with my buddies and meeting girls and all that fun nonsense. I'm more on the introverted side but I guess I've still been able to go along with it and have fun and meet girls and whatnot. Now that I have gotten a little older I'm starting to really change my attitude towards going out to the bars (college bars) because of just how fake and unnatural it seems to me now. As we get older here, all the drinking and drugs that used to be fun as freshman really just turn into addictions and then its not so cool. Anyways, being more on the introverted side, it's a different style of communication that is effective for me. There are some people who have success by being the loud center of attention type. I personally have success through being a good listener and being smart and talking well. I've realized its dumb to try and play the extrovert style when I already have my own style that works. I'm interested in how other people with a similar style as me have worked it to their advantage.

Author:	Finished [ Mon Oct 03, 2016 7:04 pm ]
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How much success did you have in bars and clubs throughout college? By success I mean actual lays. Have you also had success from other environments also?

Author:	Heywood Jablowme [ Mon Oct 03, 2016 7:42 pm ]
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Quote: I'm 22 years old, Now that I have gotten a little older, As we get older here, I nearly laughed a rib loose. Seriously though, Quote: I've realized its dumb to try and play the extrovert style when I already have my own style that works. If it ain't broke...don't fix it. But I an guessing, you do want to increase your numbers? That's why you are here.

Author:	anon90210 [ Tue Oct 04, 2016 3:39 am ]
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Not that it really matters but my number is probably about 70 or somethin like that. I can't really break it down from that. I've been around this forum since I was like 16 years old on and off. I'm not trying to communicate that 22 is old but after seeing many people go through 4/5 years of college where the lifestyle for many is to party all the time, I definitely have seen addiction settle in whether it be alcohol, adderall, xanex or what have you. It started out being something to do for fun on the weekends but 4 years is plenty of time to become addicted to a lot of this stuff. It's just not cool to me anymore. I'm not necessarily here to get my numbers up, but I just like to learn and hear what other people do. I'm also interested in attracting different types of women and becoming more versatile. My strategy definitely works, but the weakness to being more the introverted type is that I don't really like to be the center of attention which limits my options. Many women like the center of attention extroverted type. I'm mainly interested in the strategies that other people who are semi-introverted like myself use.

Author:	Eddie Fews [ Tue Oct 04, 2016 1:27 pm ]
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70 lays by the age of 22 is well above average. Im not quite sure i understand what you're asking here. At 22 you're only getting better with time, so if you're sleeping with 70 women in 4 or 5 years i'm not sure what you're asking here. How do be more successful as an introvert than you already appear to be?

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Author:	R.C [ Tue Oct 04, 2016 1:29 pm ]
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70 is more than what most men have in a lifetime. You're doing fine.

Author:	anon90210 [ Thu Oct 06, 2016 3:16 pm ]
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Thanks for the input, I just know how quickly things can change and I want to be the best I can be. Who knows when we will meet the right person and settle down. My view of the whole pick up scene is it could go one or two ways for most of us. We could either get all the quick lays out of our system before we settle down, and be less tempted to cheat later in life since we have already "spread our seed" psychologically, or will will only want more, and make being monogamous more difficult. I basically want to expand my horizons, and thought maybe some other people here could bring up strategies that worked for them. I'm kind of the somewhat shy guy, who is capable of locking a woman in a conversation and escalating to sex. I'm not a dancer, I'm not the center of attention, I'm not the loud dick alpha male, this is just my variation of introversion that led me to what success I've had. The weakness with my strategy is that I am somewhat limited to which girls find me attractive enough right off the bat, since I don't make a loud entrance. My question is what other strategies do other introverts here use that bring them success? This way I could have more success in different scenarios. Kind of like a fisherman with different lures Thanks m8s

Author:	the_christian_grey [ Thu Oct 27, 2016 9:27 pm ]
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I'm introverted too, and I like daygame. It's hard to get into, since the approach anxiety is worse (because it's less socially acceptable) and you don't have the benefit of alcohol to calm your nerves. But once you get used to it, it's a lot more relaxed than night game, you don't have to compete with cockblocks and AMOGs and loud shitty music, etc. I totally get where you're coming from. The late nights, the hangovers, the cigarette smoke, etc. are bad for your health and general wellbeing. I mostly stick with daygame and online game.

Author:	poeticlyskuac [ Fri Oct 28, 2016 9:14 am ]
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Quote: I'm introverted too, and I like daygame. It's hard to get into, since the approach anxiety is worse (because it's less socially acceptable) and you don't have the benefit of alcohol to calm your nerves. But once you get used to it, it's a lot more relaxed than night game, you don't have to compete with cockblocks and AMOGs and loud shitty music, etc. I totally get where you're coming from. The late nights, the hangovers, the cigarette smoke, etc. are bad for your health and general wellbeing. I mostly stick with daygame and online game. Am I the only guy who can go to the bar, have 5 glasses of water and just play some pool while meeting a few women? Of course I really love pool... but seriously? I don't drink when I go out, if I do it... it's like 1-2 beers 4 is a busy night and usually means someone bought me some drinks. You should be able to meet women where ever you go, so long as you can find a good nonthreatening approach. I personally enjoy the grocery store, as it's somewhere I go regularly anyways.

Author:	itchybrother [ Fri Oct 28, 2016 11:00 am ]
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Yeah, I'm the soda drinking pool player guy. If a girl asks what I'm drinking, I just say "Crown and Coke". If she asks for a sip...I just say "whoa! Easy now...I don't even know your name yet". If she seriously asks for a sip (testing me, I suppose)...I just say "it's weak. I think they forgot the Crown".

Author:	DJ_Z [ Fri Oct 28, 2016 1:52 pm ]
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Quote: I'm introverted too, and I like daygame. It's hard to get into, since the approach anxiety is worse (because it's less socially acceptable) and you don't have the benefit of alcohol to calm your nerves. But once you get used to it, it's a lot more relaxed than night game, you don't have to compete with cockblocks and AMOGs and loud shitty music, etc. I totally get where you're coming from. The late nights, the hangovers, the cigarette smoke, etc. are bad for your health and general wellbeing. I mostly stick with daygame and online game. Gotta learn some discipline bro. Having four or five drinks absolutely relaxes me and makes the entire process easier. I mean you gotta learn your tolerance but moderation exists. The idea that the choice is total sobriety or being shithoused is intellectually lazy.

Author:	the_christian_grey [ Fri Oct 28, 2016 4:02 pm ]
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Maybe it's different for some guys, but for me two or three beers and several hours of secondhand smoke messes up my sleep and makes me feel crappy the next day. If you like the bar scene then great, I'm just saying it's not my style.

Author:	JP5000 [ Tue Nov 01, 2016 9:21 am ]
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Quote: Quote: I'm introverted too, and I like daygame. It's hard to get into, since the approach anxiety is worse (because it's less socially acceptable) and you don't have the benefit of alcohol to calm your nerves. But once you get used to it, it's a lot more relaxed than night game, you don't have to compete with cockblocks and AMOGs and loud shitty music, etc. I totally get where you're coming from. The late nights, the hangovers, the cigarette smoke, etc. are bad for your health and general wellbeing. I mostly stick with daygame and online game. Am I the only guy who can go to the bar, have 5 glasses of water and just play some pool while meeting a few women? Of course I really love pool... but seriously? I don't drink when I go out, if I do it... it's like 1-2 beers 4 is a busy night and usually means someone bought me some drinks. You should be able to meet women where ever you go, so long as you can find a good nonthreatening approach. I personally enjoy the grocery store, as it's somewhere I go regularly anyways. I'm the same :L I drink water and soft drinks when I go out, or a cheeky vodka every now and again... I've only just started on here and hope to learn a lot, but I know that alcohol can make you act like a complete cunt on nights out. So can only assume it could ruin game?

Author:	itchybrother [ Tue Nov 01, 2016 2:40 pm ]
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Quote: I'm the same :L I drink water and soft drinks when I go out, or a cheeky vodka every now and again... I've only just started on here and hope to learn a lot, but I know that alcohol can make you act like a complete cunt on nights out. So can only assume it could ruin game? Yeah, inebriation isn't good for game. You have to think quick, and pick up on cues and signals. Plus...you'll just revert to your old self and blurt out, "Your boobs are big". Fail.

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