I think that's exactly what her earning it means. At least that's what I understand by it.

A lot of the pickup posts that I read, earning means that she is being rewarded for compliance. I think what you are saying is more of deserving the compliment. Hopefully more guys will start thinking like you rather than being these guys that try to make women work hard for approval types and then question why the girl lost interest.

I'm going to write this from a pickup perspective, so take what you get from it and apply your own morals and motives.

A lot of guys don't believe that you should pay a woman a compliment unless she's earned it. That's socially retarded thinking. A compliment is one of the best tools to get a positive emotional response out of a woman (or anyone for that matter). In fact it is one of the things that you can use that will differentiate you from looking like a player and a charming guy. If you do it right, you'll end up building rapport between you and a woman.

Imagine this. If a homeless person walked up to you and compliments you on your attire, you would probably think he's wanting something out of you. If a guy on the cover of GQ Magazine gave you the same compliment, you'd feel good about yourself because that guy has elevated you to his level. Apply this thinking when you speak to women. If you are not a physically attractive guy, you complimenting a woman on her beauty is going to go unappreciated and likely be suspicious of your motive.

When you give your first compliments to a woman make sure that the compliment has credibility coming specifically from you, whether it be her fashion sense, wit, conversation skill, or even goals in life. Your compliments should have some weight behind them that put you two on the same level. Once you are on the same level any other compliment you make from that point on will have value (just don't overdo it and become gamey).

so if you not attractive/ have high value and give a woman a compliment, it wont be received well? interesting that ppl fight my genius only to prove it later on.


sometimes you gotta give the devil his dues

so if you not attractive/ have high value and give a woman a compliment, it wont be received well? interesting that ppl fight my genius only to prove it later on.


sometimes you gotta give the devil his dues

if i had notice this was for seduction beginners , i wouldn't have commend.

i seem to sway with my opinions and views because there no one single solution to all women.

sometimes its like a check list with them , they'll go down the list, to see what qualities you have . you need to have all qualities but some out power others.

biologically its all about survival/ replication. i truly sympathize with you guys and hope that you could see what im tryina show you

Wow...that's not even close to what I've said. If it were anyone other than you, I'd probably try to explain it a little more.

I owe Dicemaster a huge apology for comparing you to him.

Hey jack great post... Simple but true. I'm confused though because I fully agree with your post and hence that makes me agree with what galist is saying. Like I think of you're not an attractive guy then complimenting her looks doesn't really affect her. But you disgree? Can you clarify?