As I continue my journey on learning what it is to be a man, last night I had to check my girl. She can get a little cocky at times. But what girl hasn't when they have been drooled over and have stepped all over their men in their lives for years. This was not going to be one of those times.
I don't know how the topic came up but at the bar she said to me "I can get a drink from anyone here any time I want quickly"
Now, I was not going to play into this. I looked in her eye and said to her, "as quickly as you get a drink will be as quickly as I leave this bar without you"
That took her down a peg. She edited herself and she said that she wouldn't do that to me blah blah blah. I made sure that when we had sex later that night, it will be a little rough...
Now I am NOT advocating the dominance thing, this is purely just standing up for yourself. That is like me saying to her "I can find a better woman than you in here any time I want " verbally. Now that is fucked up. Who wants to be told that they are replaceable every day. Let your actions do the talking. She knows you got game, how do you think she got there ? Keep your skills sharp and women on their toes. I will assert my boundaries. Talking to me like you are hot shit won't fly.....I don't mind her looking at other dudes, i mean we are normal human beings after all. I do mind when she does start saying crap like "I could have any man I want" or any attempt that will increase her value in my eyes. I don't play that. Women will do it subconsciously at times or when you are insecure, but you just gently pass those tests and remind them they are with a man. Another moment from last night, an HB 9. She was rolling with a couple of friends i knew. I knew that they were under her spell. If she moved, they moved. Once they started talking to me, I ignored her because she had that air of "I am hot, I should be the center of attention" kind of dismissive body language. So I calmly told them I will see them around. I didn't give her attention, she wasn't being polite and she did size me up from the corner of my eye and I could tell she was one of those. I had my girl, I didn't need to flex.
a guy with a scarcity mentality will act towards girls in a way that suggests that girls are a limited resource. In reality, there are more women on the planet than any guy could ever even imagine meeting.
NOW THE ABUNDANCE MENTALITY IS THE OPPOSITE
The abundance mentality is this: when you recognize that no matter what the situation is, there are plenty of women out there. If you don't think so ? Move. Move to a city, there will be more women than you can ever imagine dating. The thought process I went through last night was this : Sure, my girl has a nice face and a nice ass, but so do the other girls I am seeing. What makes her so special that I am not willing to lose her ? I rationalized that there is plenty more of where she came from. If she leaves. Alright, means the other girls left in queue is up. Same with rejection, there are plenty more of where that come from. Shrug it off. Now this doesn't mean get complacent and don't approach. I still approach even if I have a rotation going. Not approaching because you have girls already is just a bad habit to get into. Chat up whoever you like. Do it because you love women like that.