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| Author: | Finished [ Mon Apr 11, 2016 9:21 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Cold Approach Vs Warm Approach |
Cold Approach Vs Warm Approach I'll start off this post by saying that I don't think that either of these methods of approach is bad or that I prefer one from the other. I actually don't think that they are really separate and that most interactions just fall onto a 'cold to hot spectrum'. An approach is just really an approach. But a good understanding of this spectrum is definitely valuable for every player who is looking too improve his results when picking up women. So lets get straight into it... The Difference Between The Two - An interaction that is started by yourself completely out of the blue when she doesn't know who you are and is showing no signs of interest is 100% cold. - An interaction that is started when the girl knows who you are and has a high level of interest in you is 100% warm. The more information and interest each party gathers about the other the warmer the approach will get. If she knows your name or has heard of you before then this would make the first interaction a little warmer. If she has IOI'd you and given you an AI then this would further increase the warmness of the approach. If she is feeling massive amounts of attraction and really wants your attention then this would be classed as scolding hot, at this point she might even open you. The Business Analogy Now, I am going too use the analogy of running a business and making sales too explain how you can utilize this theory too the best of your advantage in seduction. As most guys who are experienced in the game would know and understand, success in pick up is very similar too and contains many of the same principles that success in business and sales does. But the case of pick up rather than selling Happy Meals to the general public. You are your own business, hot girls are your customers and you are putting the product of sex and a potential relationship on the market... Business's use many different ways of marketing their products in order too get their target market interested. They invest time and money into putting advertisements on television and billboards, asking past customers too fill out positive reviews and spread the word about them, they give out free samples, they post shit through your door. How many times have you opened the door too find a bunch of fucking take away menu's and advertisements that have been posted? But business's also use cold approach techniques. Most business's employ salesmen. These are the cold approach masters. The guys that can greet a customer that they don't even know and turn them hot too close the deal. A good salesman will be able to notice even the most subtle of IOI's and capitalize on them to turn the situation into a desirable outcome. Due too the nature of what they're doing, they will also face their fair share of disinterested customers, so they will also understand when the time is right too leave a customer alone when they feel that they are repelling them from the product, but still leave the seed with them for future business if they ever have a further opportunity. How Too Utilize This - Taking It Up The Scale So how do we apply this too pick up and use it to our advantage? We need too understand the scale and realize that in order too fuck a girl, we need to take a girl all the way from cold too hot. If she isn't hot, we can't close. We are both the business and the salesman. EVERY GIRL STARTS OFF COLD. That is until she first notice's you, or her friend tells her about you, or she spots you flirting with other girls and likes what she see's. Her own personal situation will determine how hot she will get for you in that moment. If she's just recently broke up with her boyfriend and is looking for some rebound sex, she might just think you're the guy for it. If you're in an easy position for her too start an interaction with you, she might just do it if the circumstances are right for her and she wants it. You can take her further up the scale in a number of ways. Displaying confidence, flirting, demonstrating high value, showing leadership, escalation. Most of the pick up techniques that have been shared over and over again in the pick up community. Why You Should Still Cold Approach - Learn The Entire Skill-Set Most of the time, as a man, you should be the one who is starting the interactions. Whether they are completely out of the blue of whether they are getting close too hot, you can not rely on the girl to create the outcome for the both of you. There will be times when this happens, just like a very good business has people who walk past the shop window, see what they like and then go in too buy it. But this will not always be the case in pick up, especially in a lot of the situations you will find hot girls in. It's not that they don't want too, it's just that they probably wouldn't feel comfortable or they expect you to be the man. For example - The chances of a girl opening you in a library if she likes the look of you are very low. Having the pick up skills too turn this situation into a desirable outcome for the both of you is what will separate the guys who are decent with girls too the guys who are really good. If she has her head in the books, you're going to have to be creative and find some way too start off the seduction. You will then need too use the rest of your techniques too take this all the way too the bedroom. No guy can do this without the knowledge and practice of how too. The same goes for many other pick up situations. The dating world is a competitive place and cold approaching will also turn you into a hustler. You will no doubt make mistakes even if you have had success with girls cold approach will be different, hard and challenging at first. You will have too put in work too get good. It will break you out of your comfort zone and as you start too succeed with it, leading a situation that was nothing and creating an outcome that you want from it is very rewarding. It will give you all the freedom in the world. Using the business metaphor again, you will be able to find potential customers in places that you hadn't previously, you will be able too convert the maybe's into yes's. You will always be in abundance. Finding The Balance So piecing this all together what can we actually take from this? It is best too work on every aspect of your game simultaneously. This way you will have complete freedom and flexibility in your game. The stronger your game gets, the more girls will IOI you, the more AI's you will get, you should ultimately get girls checking your out every day, you should be looking good, you should have the right mindset, you should have the right clothes, you should walk and talk the right way, you should smash your goals in life, you should have or be making money, you should do everything to make yourself the most attractive man you can potentially be, and with this you will attract more pussy. Just like as a business improves its product, more clients will want too buy. But you should also learn how too market and sell your product. How to approach a girl from cold and take her all the way too hot, how to read her body language emotionally, how too notice AI's an capitalize on them, you should learn how to lead, how to build intrigue, how to get her interested, how to display all of your best qualities, how too frame things correctly, you should learn how to create comfort when it's needed, you should learn how to escalate, you should learn how to close at the right time. By working simultaneously on your mindset, skillset and lifestyle. You will see your results improve and also the quality of girls that you are able too attract into your life and pick up. Always keep track of your approach too close ratio, this is the reality indicator too how good your game really is. Use the cold too hot scale in order too calibrate your approach and seduction effectively. On the occasions that you do get girls that are 10's coming onto you and doing everything for you, pleading you to fuck them. You should pat yourself on the back, you're one attractive mother fucker. The Apple Macintosh of PUA. But... that girl in the library... (For the guys who read this, I am actually trying too work on my writing skills at the moment, feel free too add any thoughts or comments about the subject but any criticism on the actually writing of this will be appreciated also) |
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