So this happened to me, so I thought I'd share so maybe it could be utilized by someone else out there as well.
Only for people hardcore stuck in a CHASING and PROVIDER frame, and as always, the best way to get out of this, is to not get stuck in it in the first place.
This is just something I've noticed and worked (semi) for me so go out there and try it and post your FR! Lord knows any form of taking action is better than being in the friend zone.
So here it is.
Start drama
Your boy Chad was in hardcore chasing and provider mode for a month and a half before finally snapping over texts after a fun weekend with other girls
. (Note that this should preferably be coming from a place of abundance, and not from a place of neediness, as is per usual) (Also something to note is that me and this HB had been making out and basically acting like gf/bf in public but without sex)The text convo looked a little like this:
Chad: omg let's get married
HB8: let's just be friendsss
C: you can't keep me on the line like this, i'm not your fucking toy etc. etc.
You can accuse her of using you for validation, whatever.
eventually
C: we'll talk about this in person
Start DRAMA
If you don't know what I'm talking about, look up some of Julien Blanc's drama articles, just type in "Practical Way To Hook A Girl For Life RSD" to google and it's the top link.
There's also a really good article on the SimplePickup blog, just type in "Hades Sociopath Simplepickup" and it'll be the first link.
Long story short, we met up later that night at her house, got drunk, I spilled my heart out (very big pull, especially after such a heavy push over texts) and we ended up getting naked and Chad not being able to get it up.
The end.
But really, I did all this stuff unintentionally, but looking back, it was textbook drama. This girl couldn't make up her mind and what did it was this risk of her losing me, and each time I threatened to walk away (twice), she reacted extremely emotionally (which is what you want).
So you're in the friendzone,
Create drama, make sure it's through your own frame and not hers (and if you don't know what I'm talking about, read the articles), tell her you need to talk in person after you hit a heavy negative emotional spike, bring a bottle of wine, jack daniels if you want to (optional, people just tend to get extra emotional when they're drunk), and potentially create a big emotional pull afterwards and don't be a pussy and GO for it. Chances are you're in the friend zone because you didn't go for it in the first place. (Also, try to make the move when she's really emotional, like after you said something really really sweet and she's just looking at you longingly, or if she starts crying at all, go for it man).
Basically you just want to stir the fuck out of her emotions.
So this happened to me but it hasn't been field tested a bunch of times, but I've just noticed in the past when I have crushes on girls who don't like me back, it's always the moment that I start walking away that they start chasing WHICH IS WHAT YOU WANT, THEM CHASING. This other girl from a couple years back actually started dating a guy who looks exactly like me right after I walked away from her, which leads me to some theories involving conflicting emotions
.This is what worked for me, so get out there and try it and post your FR's! It got a girl who previously had a very hard time getting naked for me, to get naked pretty quick. And if anything it'll be interesting.
Happy pimpin!
Chadisfocused