I went on a date a couple days ago:

The girl is Polish. [For culture references].

At the end of the date, I carried on walking from the second venue back to my house and she followed. Although a few metres into the path she said "where are we going?"

"This way." I replied with a point to my house.

"Is that the way back to town?" She said.

"No." At this point she turned away and demanded I walk her back into town. I wasn't going to walk all the way back to town when my house was just down the road. So I told her:

"You're a big girl, you can take care of yourself."

To which she stormed off. I did not follow her.

The next day, she commented on how I am not respectful. How I should have done the common thing and walked her home, she also stated that if I ask her on the date, I must be the one paying for drinks. On this basis she said she does not want to see me again.

I told her, that is her choice and a fine decision, but that she has looked at the situation all wrong and I did not mean to come across as disrespectful. That's just not how I think it works. It's equal and that she must pay her way. Also, that she is a strong woman and does not need a man to walk her into town, but if she wants that. I will.

We continued talking on the phone and it all ended with her texting me:
"There's something about how you talk on the phone which I want to talk more."

I somehow think this is a big shit test from her to find out if I am a man or not. But even so, I am not considering it to be a shit test. I know, for a fact, that if I buy into her reality of the world, I will end up walking her home and paying for all her drinks and dinners with my own money. And I don't want to do that. So I must stick to my own reality, or let her go. In other words, die for what I believe in. Die, ofcourse, translating to let the girl go find a new man. It's my reality or nothing.

I will also point out that I brought up feminism on the phone to her:
"Just because of feminism, all girls think they can get men to buy their shit."

She called me out on this and suggested I look up feminism on Google. I will. Because I don't know enough about it, and it seems to be a massive issue with the way I react to girls and the world right now.

I can say though, never bring up feminism in a conversation with a girl. Ever.
And if it does come up, the response should be: "Okay. Cool... *change topic*"

Any thoughts?

C. Tingham

Pretty sure they're more likely to get sexually assaulted than men.

By people they know. Random kidnap rapes are something that basically don't happen. Much like child molestation. It's not some random person in the mall, it's someone who sees the kid on a regular basis.

Wow!!! That's probably the most uninformed, ignorant thing I'll hear all week.

First, the article you link and so arrogantly title contains exactly one, broad Stat regarding sexual assault which boils down to .3% or respondents having been sexually assaulted in then surveyed year. So the article you link does nothing to back up your assertions thus farm. Though I will go out on a limb and agree that, yes...typically a male would need to be present for most rapes to occur. I would also venture a guess that assaults on males you are referencing are, in fact, assaults on boys.

But again, im not debating stats themselves, because all those prove is that these things could happen, and how statistically likely they are to happen.

Yes, alot of assaults happen by people the victim knows, however assaults can also be random. I can think of a ton of scenarios this girl could still have been assaulted that for within you rationalization of it being ok to be a whiny vagina and letting her walk around alone because a weak attempt to get her home didn't work.

Sometimes you just need to do the right thing regarldess how unlikely it will be that something bad happen as a result of your douchebaggery.

Again, I'd ask you to answer how you'd feel if this girl were your sister and she was examining this date to you the after. Would you really say "we'll statistically speaking it's very unlikely anything bad would have happened to you so I don't get why you're complaining"

First, the article you link and so arrogantly title contains exactly one, broad Stat regarding sexual assault which boils down to .3% or respondents having been sexually assaulted in then surveyed year. So the article you link does nothing to back up your assertions thus farm.

Though I will go out on a limb and agree that, yes...typically a male would need to be present for most rapes to occur. I would also venture a guess that assaults on males you are referencing are, in fact, assaults on boys.

But again, im not debating stats themselves, because all those prove is that these things could happen, and how statistically likely they are to happen.

I can think of a ton of scenarios this girl could still have been assaulted

Again, I'd ask you to answer how you'd feel if this girl were your sister and she was examining this date to you the after. Would you really say "we'll statistically speaking it's very unlikely anything bad would have happened to you so I don't get why you're complaining"