What is an instant date?
Well I probably don’t have to explain what it is logically, but I don’t think everybody understands it emotionally. Let’s start with what it’s not, emotionally speaking: It’s not about creating attraction, I know plenty of guys who take girls for instant dates still trying to convey value (which you shouldn’t even to begin with, but that’s a different post). This is so retarded I don’t even know where to begin, if she complies, SHE ALREADY LIKES YOU. Yeah, really…
Okay, what is it about then? Well, it’s about three things essentially; first it’s simply about spending time with each other. Spending time with each other is the most important thing in pickup, the longer you hang out for, the more opportunities will arise where your strength as a man will come through. If your game is bad, this is not the case however, but in that case the more time spent the more practice you’ll have, so you still want long and nice dates. Second it’s about emotional investment from her part, she’s investing a lot with her time, but you really can do a lot with a few simple tricks to REALLY make her chase you. Also while you’re hanging out you’ll naturally tell stories about yourselves, connect, establish physical rapport etc.
Making her chase you
But, THE most important part of the date is making her invested, so this is what I’d like to teach you guys how to trigger in a super-easy and fun way. This is by far the most effective technique I’ve ever seen in pickup, taught to me by a Swedish guy who is the absolute shit when it comes to pickup, don’t think he’s active on forums anymore though unfortunately.
So here’s the formula:
1. Boost her ego
2. Break rapport until she starts qualifying
3. Throw out a small investment hoop
4. Reward her
5. Repeat, but this time you make the hoop slightly bigger.
This shit it so much fun I basically don’t even do anything but during my dates. If you think its manipulative go fuck yourself, it works and it’s fun. If you think it’s not “natural game” also go fuck yourself, it works and it’s fun.
Disclaimer: Since it doesn’t matter whether you do this in a club, restaurant, coffee house or whatever, this is something you can always use to have fun and fuck hot chicks with. This is basically how you get chicks “out of your league” until you’ve reached such a high level of entitlement you don’t need anything like this anymore. It’s so much fun you’ll probably keep doing it anyway though haha
Okay, so I was at a date two days ago, real hot chick, at least an 8 by Swedish standards, so in other words hot as fuck
Met her on the street, she was on her way home and really tired, I told her this is something you’ll likely never do again and why miss out on a once-in-a-lifetime-experience? So she complies and we go to my favorite coffee house.
First I start telling her about how fucking sexy she is, she is simultaneously taken aback with my straight-forward demeanor, pretty uncommon in Swedish culture, and also she starts to feel like she’s the shit. We joke around and establish some rapport. Then I ask her about training and nutrition and it turns out she’s not really into taking care of herself like that since she’s just naturally skinny.
Me: “Ah…okay, thought you’d be more active and fun”
Then for the next few minutes I don’t look much at her when she talks, check my phone, answer with one or two words etc. She feels the tension and starts qualifying that it’s not that she’s lazy but she works so much and starts asking me a lot of rapport-seeking questions. So when she starts doing this I ask her to go get me some paper (napkin?), she complies and I reward her telling her she’s nice and giving her my full attention again, telling stories, laughing, having fun. For a while, then it’s time again and this time I asked her about interests outside of work and going on coffee dates with strangers. She didn’t really have any, so I do pretty much the same thing; crossing my arms, leaning back in my chair, pulling back on attention and interests. She starts qualifying and after a while I ask her if she can go order another cup of green tea, she does and when she comes back I reward her with attention and rapport.
This keeps going like this for about an hour, eventually she asks me if it’s okay that she takes my number, and she’s super interested in drinking wine tonight actually, but tonight I’ve got another date so she’ll have to wait until tomorrow. I told her to go buy some wine and come over, so she will as soon as she finishes work. So that’s pretty much a done deal, and the date tonight is probably as well, I will do exactly this with her too over some wine and then bring her back home.
This is THE way make girls chase you, you control her emotions fully, she pretty much complies to give herself to you in all ways if you do this the right way and you can have so much fun doing this. This is what Julien does when he’s making girls take off their shoes, bark, sit on their knees on the dancefloor etc. It’s not for everyone though since it’s very hardcore manipulative but if you’re mean enough to enjoy toying with people’s emotions and thoughts this is the shit, and like I said, if you’re not just go fuck yourself.
Logistics
Okay, so let’s say you know how to make a chick compliant, but you still want to be clever about logistics, it’s not as important to a chick chasing you though, since there’s no need for keeping her state up or anything, you can basically just chill forever and make her more invested for every minute. So first I usually go to my favorite place and have some green tea as she pollutes herself with a latte or some shit, but then I want to go somewhere closer to my place and do something where I can escalate and make her even more impulsive. So I take them to my favorite place for pool and beer. At the end of the date if you know how to make them comply they usually pay too. Provider chodes pay, I get paid for because they don’t want me to get pissed off and think they’re cheap bitches who can’t pay haha
So find a place to play pool close to your place, or some other shit where you can get physically and preferably drunk. A bar is fine too but playing pool is more fun as you can spank them and shit as they’re shooting and fuck up they’re game and shit. Fun stuff.
So then you stay her until you get tired of it or you feel it’s just time to fuck. You can also fuck her in the bathroom, just make sure to befriend the staff if you’re going to bring 3-4 dates a week to this place.
If she doesn’t comply to go home you just break rapport and tell her something like that’s too bad and you thought she’d be more of an adventures chick or whatever, and keep the investment loop going.
Some other tips
If you won’t fuck then and there, set up the next date right away. Make her set it up, ask her when, then what to do, then why and then where.
If she doesn’t answer you just break rapport etc again. You can also help her out if she’s so intimated by you that she can’t make a decision, be flexible and not brain dead.
Connect for real: Share emotional stories that makes you choke up, feel vulnerable etc. Then she’ll do this as well and invest even more, she’ll trust you more and so on.
Be smart! Don’t be brain dead, use empathy so decide how to implement everything. You can’t just break rapport over the fact that she blinks a lot, and sometimes she just won’t have it, in which case you’ll need to stay congruent and just not give a fuck.
peace