Last night was the most textbook comfort session 2nd date ever.. I wish I had recorded it.. FIrst, here's some background..
I picked up an HB in a club where I was blatantly collecting numbers and kiss-closing girls all around her.
I texted her about a 2nd date.
She texted me:
“I’m surprised you contacted me.. you were flirting with every semi-attractive girl in the place.”
This creates somewhat of a dilemma-- she is going to have her “post-bitch shield” (if you will) thinking I’m a player and only want one thing from her. I've come to realize this- she KNOWS I'm a lady's man. Women know YOU are a woman's man. Women are apprehensive about guys they think sleep with a different woman every night. They don't want to get played. They don’t want to be just another number…
So what is the work-around to this?
FORGET about playing it off like you're NOT a lady's man. You're smooth, suave, sharp.. she -knows- you're a lady's man. There's no hiding it. THE TRICK is to make her believe she is special, different from all other girls. THAT is the key.
You must find a connection, a rapport. Without that, you just seem like a charming guy who uses material that he could use on any other girl. It becomes tougher to f-close this girl. Again, she doesn’t want to be just another number.
What you need to do is to find her x-factor-- Find out what makes her tick.. Find out her passion.. and exploit it, dive into it. Connect to it. You need to make a connection that links you to her x-factor. Once you connect with her on her x-factor, she will begin to feel you and her have a –genuine- connection, and that she is different from every other girl. Yeah, maybe at first she was just another girl you've picked up, but now, you have an intimate connection that differentiates her from every other girl---- she is unique.. at least that's what she thinks...
