Great post and good advice!
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| Author: | JSmooth [ Thu Feb 26, 2015 11:16 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Don't lose yourself. Make sure your technique serves you. |
In contrary to the old Eminem song don't lose yourself...in PUA techniques and tactics. Make sure the technique you use is serving your identity and not you serving the technique. What do I mean by that? When we show up here all we want to know is how to get results or be less lonely and bring women into our lives. Guys immediately pipe up and tell you what "techniques" to use or work with that will bring results. The reason for this is simple --- the shit works. The problem is these are techniques typically made up by someone else. It was congruent to the original author of them but not to you. Still we can go out we can replicate these techniques as that original author right? We can Neg, we can DHV, we can kino, we can run a best friends test, left handed fluffy bunny routine or whatever and we can make it work consistently with the right practice of the technique. Many many guys start to conform their identities into something that they didn't mean to be based on those techniques and then aren't truly ever satisfied. They have a pink mohawk, some nice shoes, feathers on their belt, and they are in the club every weekend pulling girls but aren't happy. Well if we aren't happy then what the hell is the point of all this work? If you are a guy that likes to relax and chill out and stuff then don't put yourself in those high stimulus environments with clubs and dance floors unless you are just doing it to learn a skill to be well rounded or whatever. Then in that case once you get consistent results stop, and move on. Everyone keeps getting pointed to start at the technique. Go to the technique and do this, or if you do that technique this way then you'll get results. Instead I think we need to start telling guys coming in, "Look you need to figure out your identity first then you can start tailoring these techniques and pick out what you want almost like a buffet line of PUA techniques and ideas." There is plenty of stuff centered around online, day, night, high energy environments, low energy environments, relationships, single night lays, or just about whatever you want right? That's hard I know because guys come in here wanting a "quick fix" for their problems for the lack of women in their lives or how to get the one girl right. They don't want to hear you need to build your identity they want the magic pill that bags them a babe with some magic words whispered in the girls ear. So many guys I've seen come and go and they haven't established an identity for themselves, they have no sense of themselves, and no self expression. They say I'll be whoever I need to be to get the girl. I'll act like whoever to get a laid. Then when the results come it is cheapened in some ways because it wasn't you and your congruent stories and your techniques that got the girl, it was some PUA who wrote a book or whose video you watched, or someones advice from here. It never feels completely real. Sure it feels good in the short term while you're kissing her but long term it doesn't work out so well. Establish your identity figure out for yourselves who you are, what are you passionate about, your insecurities, the things you are attracted to about women, the things you are not attracted to, and what you want no matter how crazy it sounds to anyone else, and then go for it. Only then start picking those things that compliment your identity and how YOU want to meet people and live your life. Own the techniques and tactics that you want to use, don't let them own you. At the end of all your journey ensure you are going to be happy. |
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| Author: | hugge [ Tue Mar 10, 2015 5:22 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Don't lose yourself. Make sure your technique serves you |
Great post and good advice!
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| Author: | CharlesFinley [ Tue Mar 10, 2015 12:26 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Don't lose yourself. Make sure your technique serves you |
Nice post, sir. All very true points I've been begging a lot of newbies to listen to for a long time now... |
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| Author: | fudge_88 [ Sat Mar 14, 2015 11:48 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Don't lose yourself. Make sure your technique serves you |
This makes total sense. Even to I who uses a calibrated game. The source code of it all is based on my own personality though. I just display different aspects of myself to girls who resonate with the different parts of me. That being said I'll tell a congruent story with the post. My avatar is a black version of an anime Character Named Itachi. In his final battle he met an individual he had great empathy for... A man named Kabuto. Kabuto was an orphan from a warring period. He had been found adopted by an orphanage while very very young. Where he was given the name kabuto. He wasn't a baby when adopted and spent years wandering as a nameless child. He left the orphanage and joined a black ops ninja unit. Here he assumed different fake identities and worked as a spy in other countries. Later on a secret mission he killed someone who had a mask on. The person he killed happened to be the person who had adopted him and gave him his name. The leader of the black ops unit knew it all along before he sent Kabuto on the mission. This tragedy made Kabuto go down a path of darkness and he latched unto someone named Orochimaru as his next guiding force in the world. Orochimaru was a snake incarnate. A nasty ninja who sought immortality and wanted to learn every technique in existence. Betraying everyone who ever cared about him to obtain it. Orochimaru was killed eventually and Kabuto found himself without a guide again. Kabuto then tried to fulfill Orochimaru's dream and took on the path Orochimaru walked. He learned and perfected all of the techniques that Orochimaru studied. One of which was implanting the cells of other people into himself in order to use their skills and techniques that were specific to their bloodlines. He became an abomination after altering his dna. He then raised the dead and helped start a world war! Kabuto had no identity of his own. He was just a combination of a bunch of different personalities and techniques and life circumstances. He also tried to walk the path of someone else in what he thought that other person wanted. (Orochimaru was resurrected later and he even states that he wanted nothing to do with the war Kabuto started since it had nothing to do with him.) Itachi, knowing kabuto was nothing more than an orphan who's assumed the identities of others his entire life, wanted to help Kabuto. He defeated him by performing a technique called Izanagi on him. Izanagi stuck Kabuto in an infinite loop where he experienced the same situation indefinitely. The only way to escape it was to accept the lesson the Itachi wanted him to learn. The lesson for Kabuto was to understand who he was, and form his own identity. To walk his own path. This story has many parallels with the OP. While walking this path of pick up it's important for you not to make the mistake Kabuto did and try to assume the identities of others. If you go down that rabbit hole too long you'll wake up one day not knowing what you are. |
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| Author: | dolii45 [ Wed Mar 25, 2015 5:47 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Don't lose yourself. Make sure your technique serves you |
Here he assumed different fake identities and worked as a spy in other countries. Later on a secret mission he killed someone who had a mask on. The person he killed happened to be the person who had adopted him and gave him his name. The leader of the black ops unit knew it all along before he sent Kabuto on the mission. |
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| Author: | WillEdward [ Wed Mar 25, 2015 6:53 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Don't lose yourself. Make sure your technique serves you |
When I first got into game, I'm slightly embarrassed to say that I used to use routines, wear cowboy hats and flashy clothes... that took a lot of strength to write that sentence lol... I felt so fake even though I was getting some success. I'm much happier now that I've developed my own style and personality where I can attract women and be myself and have even more success now. I advise everyone to understand who they are, what they want and take the best styles and techniques and cater them to your identity and goals and develop yourself from there. Find a good mentor as well. A good mentor doesn't go around making "mini-me's". |
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| Author: | Versalis [ Wed Mar 25, 2015 11:46 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Don't lose yourself. Make sure your technique serves you |
Really, your "technique" barely matters if your fundamentals aren't in order. The stuff that actually does work(IOIs, flirting, isolation, rapid escalation, logistics), work for every guy and work mostly the same way. It's mostly the stupid crap like "Text her exactly 10 times before the meetup!" which is stupid shit that doesn't work for most guys and fucks them up. Some guys want a whole pile of rules and it just doesn't work like that. Basically, a guy isn't getting the results he wants, so rather than focus on fundamentals(his appearance, charisma, sexual skills, positive mindset about women), he says "Teach me magic tricks!". And then he's running around "negging", "DHVing", "Being free from outcome", "qualifying", and "being cocky funny" and a hill of stuff that's ultimately quite useless. |
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| Author: | JSmooth [ Wed Mar 25, 2015 8:04 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Don't lose yourself. Make sure your technique serves you |
Well most people don't want to tell others that they need to go work on themselves as if something is wrong with them from the get go. They'd rather give them magic bullets to put in the gun and some set of rules. Everyone is unique for a reason but I have to become the best ME I can be. |
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| Author: | JSmooth [ Mon Mar 30, 2015 11:59 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Don't lose yourself. Make sure your technique serves you |
Quote: That's awful nice of you to post this after I bought all the boas and fuzzy hats in the store. Guess I need to start locating my receipt. . .
I'm sure they can get you a refund. If not I'm pretty sure a PUA garage sell would rid you of your old items.
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